I moved out of our apartment a couple of days ago into a place by myself and I changed jobs because we worked together. It's nice to have my own place because I have always wanted to but always ended up living with other people. Maybe it's because I haven't quite got it all set up yet so it doesn't really feel like home but the last couple of nights I have been really sad. I was with him for over two years and we did everything together and now that he is gone, it's like I don't know what to do with myself. We have a lot of common friends and because they were more guys, I feel like he has claim to them so I feel like I've lost a lot of people that I thought were my friends. Changing jobs was hard too because I don't know anyone there either. I know it is good for me to be independent and learn to depend on myself but starting over like this when so much has changed is something I have never had to go through. And it sucks. Any advice on how not to get down and miss him?
2006-09-16 18:52:53 · 7 answers · asked by caroline 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I totally understand your situation cuz I am also going through the healing process. Tell you what, you are really not the only unlucky person. There maybe many people around you, such as your friends and relatives, have experienced the similar situation. One thing you need to keep in mind is that only you can decide to help yourself or not. Nobody can help you except you are willing to open up yourself for help. Try to find several friends to talk to and see if they can give you any advices. Feeling depressed and lonely is very normal. But be strong. Use this time to rethink about what happen in your past. Don't try to blame on him or yourself. But really try to figure out the reasons why everything will end up like this. And, learn from this experience. If you think that he is trying to claim most of the guy friends, it's the time you have to really think about going out to make friends no matter guys or girls for yourself. Know people that will support you when you need help. I know you have to face the new job, handle your own emotion and build up new friendship all at the same time. But it's not the end of the world. You can lost everything but not your confidence in yourself. Take a deep breathe. Face the reality. Be strong in mind. If you still miss him, then quickly take away all the gifts, photos or something that will remind you about him. Focus on the solutions: knowing new people, learning the new skills in jobs, calm down your own emotion, eat healthy, dress pretty. Do something totally fresh. You can always be an independent person. It's always normal that the fluctuate emotions will last for at least 6 months to 2 years. But face everyday carefully. You can do it. You can go through the healing process. :)
2006-09-16 20:12:23 · answer #1 · answered by ABCCCCCC 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes time to get used to the fact that u r not with that person anymore but eventually that time will come, dont feel sad just look ahead there are many places to go and many people to meet, good luck in the transition and feel good about urself because not everyone can say they are independent ^^
2006-09-17 01:57:42 · answer #2 · answered by jlnunez06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, sweety, I hope you get out of this rut soon. One thing is for sure, you are not alone in these type of emotions... we all go through this when a breakup occurs - especially after two years. I suspect time is the only healer in your situation. I've heard that it takes approximately half the time you knew your mate to forget him/her. Be strong and keep in mind that you are more important than him and soon enough, (when you least expect it), you will find that certain someone who will bring joy to your life once again.
2006-09-17 01:59:55 · answer #3 · answered by noytoll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah, the pendulum of life. First it swings to happy and then sad. "Everything in life has a price tag attached to it."
It's the condition of the world in which we live.
You wouldn't throw a ball in the air and say it was 'good' going up but 'bad' coming down. Happy on one side, sad on the other. The way it is.
So miss him. It's ok to feel sad and love yourself when you feel sad and let your sadness connect you with your heart. Feel your sadness, let it in, let it go and then move on. You are ok and having feelings and you will miss him and move on.
People get 'stuck' trying to keep the pendulum on happy!
2006-09-17 02:17:08 · answer #4 · answered by Freesumpin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have to start thinking yourself. Blow your mind!! Get new friends, and don't forget your actual friends... visit new places, go shopping!! (new shoes for example) change your look..
hey, if you wanna talk and learn about a different country, count with me, I'm from mexico, it would be nice to have an international friend, also you could tell me something about your life!!
2006-09-17 02:05:40 · answer #5 · answered by jam_nalu 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
SIMPLY DON THINK ABT THIS ISSUES AND KEPT BUSY URSELF IN WORK.
2006-09-17 01:56:22 · answer #6 · answered by HIMANSHU 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
forget
2006-09-17 01:55:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋