Too ugly not even a man dare to approach me???

Question

I think im too ugly .. yes i am fat too.. some of my friends said that i dont have that approachable look.. have an annoyed and angry face i mean thats normally i look like.i mean i cant be going around smiling to everyone. and other this is that .. i definately prefer asian male of my race but seem they dont even look at me... arghh.. but sometimes when im overseas i get approached but caucasian or black men ( i practically ignore them) ..not that i dont like it( yes do feel flattered at times) or being racist but sometimes its easier to be with someone of the same background den going outside yr own race to avoid this family/religion thingy.. get what i mean ??

i mean i practically ignore caucasian or black or someone who's not my race

Yeah do have a picture but dont think i cant put up here.. cannot imagine if a person out here who actually knows me personally and they will know about whats going on in my life..

err i really am fat .. UK16..btw im south east asian - malay

Answer 1

YOU HAVE TO LOVE YOURSELF BEFORE ANYONE ELSE CAN

Answer 2

First of all, I think it is totally acceptable that you prefer to date someone of your own race. I am a caucasian woman and I prefer to date caucasian men. I do not feel that this makes either of us racists. I am not saying that other races are not good enough, I just don't tend to be physically attracted to men of other races.

Secondly, I truly believe that there is someone out there for each of us. I don't believe that you are ugly, everyone has some beauty in them. If you are overweight and you are unhappy about it, I would suggest getting active to get in shape. Walking is a good low impact way to get started. And if you walk (BE SAFE!) you can meet many interesting people as well that you may not have ever met anywhere else.

Also, dress to flatter your figure. (I have a thick waist, so I wear clothes that conceal it, you can find tips in many fashion magazines about how to flatter your body type.) Try some makeup, or if that is not your groove, try a new hairstyle! Get help from a female friend and have some fun!

As for smiling...Why can't you smile at everyone? I do! Remember that smiling increases your "Face Value".It may sound cheesy but everyone looks better with a smile. And I have found that when I am down, if I smile and people smile back then I find that suddenly I am happier! It sounds silly but it is true.

If you ever want to chat, just send me an instant message, I would be happy to talk with you. I wish you all the luck in the world!

Answer 3

You can always loose weight through exercise and eating healthy (No fastfood!!!) I did this becuase I felt the saem as you (I am a guy though) and my confidence rose WAY up! I now have a loving girlfriend and everything is perfect! Just list things about yourself that you wish to change that relate to your apperance. You sound like you have a good heart, but many people judge by apperance, including yourself. If you can look at yourself and say "You know what, I look pretty good", then you'll look ten times better to everyone else. My best suggestion: DIET! It's easy, just cut back on junk food and eat small, healthier foods thorugh the day, and walk more! Don't get the closest parking space at Wal-Mart, park in the back! Every bit helps! If you don;t like your facial appearance, wear makeup, or change your hairstyle. Many people can improve thier look just by thier hair! I hope this was useful! Good luck!

Answer 4

I don't know how you look like, so I can't confirm or deny whether you are "ugly".

I personally would be turned off by an "annoyed and angry face", because I would get the impression that you seem unapproachable. Even if you were a perfect 10 I would feel that way.

As for your personal preferences in men, that's perfectly understandable. I prefer my own kind as well and don't want to be labeled a "racist" for being naturally attracted to white women.

Answer 5

I dont have a problem with race preferences, but you need to keep an open mind about things. It could be that you are more attractive to a certain race because your features resemble those of females from that race group.

I don't like your body image - thoughts are very powerful and you must be going around unconsciously shouting "dont look at me, I am fat and ugly." Change your mindset, start loving & appreciating yourself, while doing something about your weight for health reasons.

I am an overweight girl too but I dont see myself as being unattractive at all. In fact, i dont like 'thin' at all - I just prefer a healthy body and a healthy body image.

Answer 6

well if you feel ugly you probably look ugly as well.not saying you are ugly but if you really think that you will give off that vibe.if you prefer men of your own race and background you don't have to apologize, your choice is just that, your choice.most fat girls aren't as choosy as you are and that's good. some times fat girls just want to belong and get used by men who think they are desperate. good for you. there doesn't seem to be anything wrong with you that you can't change. you didn't say that you have any illnesses,so being fat is something that you can do something about,you seem to have a good sense of self control in you personal decisions so use that to lose the weight. you will feel better about yourself and look better. you must know that Asian men seem to be small in stature so a big girl might not be to right for them,make him feel smaller than he already is, so remember that. good luck.

Answer 7

You have a problem. You say men do not approach you because you are ugly yet you "ignore black men" or men not of your race when they approach you. Listen to your friends. They are telling you that your body language tends to turn people off.
Do a little self evaluation. Be more receptive to others not like you.

Answer 8

yes i do know what u mean but i dont care. im spanish white and black, but im very light skin. My husband is spanish but he is dark skin. When people see us together they think he is black and im white and we dont give a ***. we give them the dirtiest looks. But i dont think u should judge a person by the color of their skin. Religion is one thing maybe if u want ur other half to practice the same religion i can understand that but i never will understand y people make a big deal when they see two people dating, married, etc... that r of different skin color. a persons personality is not defined by their skin color.

Answer 9

Just try to be a sweet person. You don't have to have a plastic smile pasted on your face, but have a look like you're READY to smile.

If black guys like you because you're a little overweight, what's wrong with that? My friend is white and overweight, and attracts some black guys, they're nice to her.

Answer 10

Asian.... Chinese, Indian....?

Some men like the troubled look, someone they can help. As for fat, maybe your being over critical of yourself, besides as the saying goes "Men like a slim girl on the arm, but curves in bed".

Answer 11

Don't worry about what you look like, someone will love you for you. Again, your weight should not be an issue, there are plenty of men who love a woman who has more to love. I'm a big girl and I've had plenty of men.