problems getting over ppl and other mental issues?

Question

Ok, its time i grow some balls and put this out,
For about 1.5 years. i have liked this girl, we have the same intrests, and almost completely understand each other, she is one of the most important person i know now, she happens to be my best friend, and she sees me as such, it hurts to know she dosent like me back, so many times i have tried to get over the fact that she will probibly never like me that way, its hard because we are so alike, but i just end up hating myself for dumb things ether i say, or have done in the past, to the point of slandering myself, and wanting to cut myself, not kill myself, im not suicidal, but i dont have it in me to cut, which is good, or a sharp enough knife i suppose, i hate myself for being too attached to someone who dosent feel the same, and when she talks about other guys it just crushes me, what should i do, should i delete all the stuff i know about her,all the files she sent me, and just stop talking, i just dont know. thanks for your help

ok, the clues are as follows that se dosent like me
1: referred to me a a brother
2: whenever i give any comments that may hint i like her, changes the subject or just ignores em i think
3: she talks about other guys in front of me, i dont do that to girls i like

shes smart, im pretty sure she knows i like her, i dont wanna screw it up.

Ok, well i have come to the decision, thinking about it does stress me out, i would never forgive myself if i didnt find out, so im gonna ask if she likes me, and if ot i will appreciate her for the great person she is, the answer ust seems too simple, thanks.

btw my keybord sucks thats a "if not" and "just"

Answer 1

How do you know she doesn't like you back? have you asked her?? Well you already are assuming that she doesn't like you in that way, so whats the worst that happens you tell her how you feel and she tells you what you think you already know? what if she does secretly like you, and you don't say anything. Then you will never know...

Answer 2

I've been in your shoes, and there's nothing you can do to make her want you. What you should do is appreciate her as the friend that she is. Worrying about whether or not she feels the same way you do will just stress you out. Trust me, you're better off having her as your best friend then trying to convince her that you should be together. There's no guarantee that you 2 would make a good couple. She'll always be your friend, and that should mean something to you.

Answer 3

one: you dont need a sharp knife to cut yourself, dull ones work better

two: tell her how you feel, the worst that can happen is what you fear-she wont feel the same
that's fine then, let her just be your friend, you can walk away from her if she cant love you back...dont waste your life obsessing over someone
for all you know, she's not the girl for you

Answer 4

I had a friend I was in love with but he never told me his feelings and I never told him mine. Long story short, I married someone else and still wonder what if. (After I got married, he finally admitted he loved me.)

You need to put it all out there.