I'm not sure what to do about this, will i feel weird around his friends because they are all older and i look like i'm still a teenager. I'm affraid of what others might think if I date a man that looks older than I....
2006-09-16 18:24:01 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i am 21 and my fiancee is 32. i was only 18 when we met and he was getting ready to turn 30 and the first time i met his friends and family i was nervous. i thought they would treat me like a baby, but they said i was very matture for my age. They love me now. When his sister and mom call and he answers they always want to speak to me. Its great. So Dont be nervous Im sure they'll love you. Just be yourself. Good luck!!
2006-09-16 18:29:21 · answer #1 · answered by Mom to Isobelle 2, & Gavyn 8mths 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as he isn't married. j/k. I'm 23 (will be 24 in Jan.) and my boyfriend is 29 (will be 30 in april). But most of his friends are younger like around 25 or a few years older. Age doesn't necessarily matter as long as you aren't underage which you're not. A lot of the maturity should factor in as well as communication. If you really like the guy enough you shouldn't care so much what others think. I don't really even think about the age difference that much. But I'm not sure exactly how old your (potential?) boyfriend is. But anyways, just look at some of the differences between the two of you concerning your age. Really the only big difference between me and my boyfriend is that I've never been on my own other than living in dorms at college. But he owns his house. so we see things a little differently. So you will have things like that with an age gap like that. Just make sure the differences aren't too big to handle or deal with.
2006-09-17 01:30:13 · answer #2 · answered by Mel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although this answer is from a man who is older, please consider it. You should not concern yourself with what your friends or people in general will think of your choices. If you really like an older guy and he cares about you and is faithful, then persue him. Too many women make bad choices based on exactly the thinking you are describing. Remember that all the firends in the world will not truly make you as happy as one very loving guy who undestands and appreciates you. Go for it. L
2006-09-17 01:31:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have always dated guys that were much older...the most memorable, I was 23 and he was 36. There will be problems with the age difference, but you shouldn't feel wierd or inferior just because his friends are older. Don't worry about what his friends think...if you like him and he likes you that's all that matters.
2006-09-17 01:33:10 · answer #4 · answered by magnadudl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then the simple answer is don't. You are stating that you feel weird, so why not date guys closer to your own age in order to not feel weird? I would never date anyone that made me feel strange either with him or around friends. Hopefully, he is not just making himself feel better by having young arm candy to show off to his older friends. Follow your intuition and I believe you can never go wrong.
2006-09-17 01:28:19 · answer #5 · answered by Geez Louise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If we really like each other, why not? Well, maybe try engaging a more mature look if you're concerned about looking a teenager when you're with them. Also, don't be afraid of what others might think? What can they think? Falling in love is all about you and him...others have their own life to manage. Don't get to bothered, its alright...enjoy your relationship!
2006-09-17 01:34:36 · answer #6 · answered by Laetishaa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what you want to do...if you like him go for it. 30ish---this mean he is around 10 years older than you but women are more mature than men so you might have lucked out finding an older man that u are interested. GOOD LUCK!
2006-09-17 01:33:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you would feel weird about then don't do it. But in all honesty the older guys will treat you like a queen and be more stable in a lot of things.
2006-09-17 01:28:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well honey, it is absolutely up to you. my brother is 31 and he is dating a 23 year old and they get along great! it really comes down to the fact that is you two really love each other, than age should not be an issue. if you feel weird around his friends, tell your boyfriend and he should find ways to make you feel more comfortable around them. follow your heart and things will be fine. take care and good luck!
2006-09-17 01:34:50 · answer #9 · answered by tam_wink 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, go out with him and see how it goes. If you still feel weird and uncomfortable then maybe he's just not for you. But this guy could be a great guy, and you might never know unless you explore the possibilities.
2006-09-17 01:34:47 · answer #10 · answered by Connie G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋