he threatened to leave the music store if i bought an album by an artiste i liked but he thinks is childish.
he only lets me see CDs in sections of his choice - he pulls my arm (gently) if i try to walk away.
he sometimes gives a scoff when i say something silly in his eyes.
he thinks movies and actors i like are nonsense compared to what he likes.
we only travel to destinations he wants to go to, and does things he likes to do mostly.
things that i want to do, like gg to this play or that exhibition, he doesn't prioritse and we never end up gg. But concerts he is keen in, i have to go buy the tickets.
Oh, and we've broken up. But why did I put up with all this?
2006-09-16 18:23:12 · 23 answers · asked by Beth 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This guy sounds like he's insecure with himself and wasn't particularly mature either. Sensitivity not found.
I imagine you're hurting and confused right now? Trying to figure out if you've made a horrible mistake or if you've just finally been freed from what was not a happy existence.
You shouldn't look back. Time is a great healer and in time you'll realise how much sense this all makes. Was he in the relationship for you, or just for him?
Even if, at best, the relationship was full of misunderstandings, that'll take at least the same length of time to put right. You're playing with fire to go back, it'll send all the wrong signals.
Clearly you're not a desperate person, you know how things make you feel and you've taken the action that's put you in the right place for you. You don't need to seek confirmation that your feelings are valid, but if that's what you want, here it is:
You were right.
Take care honey,
froggie x
2006-09-17 00:15:48 · answer #1 · answered by froggiezebra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, i do think you will be better off without him. Such un-respectful person and never tend to understand the needs of his girlfriend will never consider as good boyfriend. If both in a relationship, both male and female have to respect each other's choice and their interest even though he/she doesn't like it. You put up with all this. because it takes some time to discover a person's characteristic.
Hey, do what is best for yourself, be free like a bird.
2006-09-17 01:41:39 · answer #2 · answered by ymuczl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here's my take - woman have all the power in a relationship but rarely use it effectively. 1st ? - why are you dating? for marriage let's say. First rule - don't give in to sex so fast. Something happens to woman once they give it up. They suddenly try to change or justify the GUYS messed up behavior rather than giving him the boot. Second rule - don't shack up with a GUY. If you do he will rarely marry you - he's getting it for free and with no commitment - duh! So hopefully that makes you think about how to get a MAN instead of a GUY. I'm a MAN and thank my lucky stars I share my days and nights with a wonderful WOMAN. I hope you figure out how to be strong on your own so you will attract a MAN. Best of luck!!!
2006-09-17 01:36:42 · answer #3 · answered by awf 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me ,that you have already anwsered this question and you are seeking approval of your decision and believe me I agree with you , this relationship is not the kind you want to get into as it only lead to a lot of greif and heartache that you don't need there are better fish inthe ocean and you need to try some of them bacause this fish is rotten to the core or to put it another way dump him because he self centered and domianating; and that will never change.
2006-09-17 01:41:35 · answer #4 · answered by juju 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you just never had any experience with a controlling abuser count your lucky stars your out of this relationship and know what the signs are now. There are so many reasons women allow their selves to be in abusive relationships but mostly its because of low self esteem
2006-09-17 01:26:58 · answer #5 · answered by Amy M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
perhaps you were hoping he would change. perhaps you were holding out hope that things would be different and that somehow one day he would mysteriously say "Hey what would you like to do today?" Love is always hoping that things will work out for the best. When things were good you probably really enjoyed yourself didn't you? But as always the little remarks crept back in and the attitude returned. I believe you wanted him for what he could have been. Its really too bad isn't it?
2006-09-17 01:31:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He seems like a real insecure person to have to judge your interests and even go to the length of putting you down because of it. You did the right thing to let him go, don't feel like you did the wrong thing, your heart will heal and you will find a guy that treats you much better than that! Good luck, and have fun dating nice guys!
2006-09-17 01:32:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one is perfect.. it just depends if the good things are enough to outweight the not so good things.. if he isn't willing to compromise at all then you should probably end it. Maybe you could make it like a deal type thing.. you allow him something he likes that you don't and he allows you something he doesn't like.
2006-09-17 01:51:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a very selfish person you can do so much better than that you don't need someone like that in your life he can only bring you down not lift you up
2006-09-17 01:26:21 · answer #9 · answered by tpchick22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're much better off. He's controlling and it would only get worse. Sometimes people like this become abusive.
2006-09-17 01:25:01 · answer #10 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋