I recently told a guy I cared very deeply for him. Hes told me that he doesn't feel that way for anyone right now, but then I got this "accidental kiss" texted to my phone. he said it was for someone else and I directly asked him if he had someone he was kissing now and he texted back, "did I say I did? LOL". I told him yeah, kinda..anyway, he seems annoyed that I feel the way I do for him so I went so far as to open up to him about reasons WHY I was so amazed that I trusted him, after all the trauma with men I had gone through.I emailed that to him 4 days ago.I thought he would at least email me back afterward, but there has been NOTHING.The only half response I got was on MySpace makign fun of the way I spelled something in a bulletin. I don't get it. I am really feeling like he is trying to push me away, which if that IS the case, then I am GONE.. He has no idea how close he is to losing an INCREDIBLY loyal and loving friend, as well as someone who loves him just the way he is!!
2006-09-16 18:18:32 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Also, is it possible that even though we have hung out tons and he has always been the one to ask.. well at least most of the time, I have seen him compliment other female friends tellin them luv yas, but I never get anything... Why does he even hang around me if there is nothing there? I have always been able to see myself in an actual relationship with him and despite straight forward questions for who I could be in his life in the future, I have gotten no answer... I would rather cut bait and run with a bit of my dignity intact.. or do you think I should wait it out?
2006-09-16 18:22:10 · update #1
I love when a women asks a "guys" questions on here, because you know tons of women will jump in and answer. :-)
And an answer says that men are masters of mixed messages, like women send any messages that men have been able to figure out? ;-)
But to the actual question. I think if you weren't hung up on the guy you would know the answer. The guy sounds like a player. Most likely he wants to keep his options open with you, or see you as a way to get close to your friends so he can play them too.
2006-09-16 18:30:03 · answer #1 · answered by Bulk O 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ehem..you get hit by a pebble, you dont learn, you'd get hit a rock..and if you still dont learn from the lesson, youd get hit by a boulder. Smart guys shall play that 'pulling strings game' till you kneel down and beg. I believe you dont feel the same for wussies. So why not I suggest just be yourself and walk on. Be like the tree..you grow beutifully and along the way, beutifull brids shall come and stop by. There are better mens out there who are just waiting for you to discover. Just think of this, if what you are doing right now arent giving you the results of what you want..have you ever wondered doing that which is the other way around? Why let other pull strings with you? You should pull thos strings girl...
2006-09-17 01:29:47 · answer #2 · answered by whitewizard888 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him again but this time let him know exactly how you feel about everything. That you have feelings for him but you feel like he is pushing you away or playing mind games and you don't appreciate it one bit. That you need to know where he stands at with it all. Does he want to just remain friends with you, does he want to date you, or does he want to have no type of relationship with you and go on his own way? Tell him you really need to know, cause you are to mature to be waiting around while he wants to play mind games.
It seems like when after you told him that, then he sent you the kiss that he just did it to get a reaction out of you. Maybe he really likes you but not sure if he wants to risk a good friendship for a deeper relationship. Or maybe he just wants to remain friends only with you and he is trying to play little mind games with you and not realizing how bad it's making you feel right now. Either way just talk to him again. If you can talk to him in person or on the phone skip the text messages for now.
After you talk to him and if things don't change and the mind games keep going then it's best to go your own way and forget about him. Cause if he is all about mind games then he don't deserve your friendship nor your love and you deserve so much more!
2006-09-17 01:30:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the guy has smeone else he loves or he isnt interested in makin love with u..but from the way u say he is interested in ur friendship...try talking to him more thru real time chatting or phone..thats what i suggest and u may get the right answers..or else why dnt u try acting like ur close with another person..like another friend..and since im a boy im tellin u ..it will work..if he really cares for u and at thesametime if he sees ur more close to smeone else than him..he would really get annoyed and saysmething whihc u might be waiting for or not..
2006-09-17 01:25:03 · answer #4 · answered by bishounen 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on sweetheart - there is a sayin that goes if you want something set it free and if it is yours it will come back to you.
There is another - there are so many fish in the sea why would you settle for second best?
If this guy is making fun of you publically he is not a friend you should trust...lose him quick smart...
2006-09-17 01:29:37 · answer #5 · answered by jay 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
quit sitting around and trying to figure him, or anyone else, out. and don't wait around for him to acknowledge your "heartfelt email" (that's an oxymoron if ever!) if you want him, you gotta be somewhat elusive and under no circumstance be available to him at any time. when he gets around to answering you, be strong and don't be around. it's silly game playing, but guys are like cats in a way. you try and pet 'em and they back away, you ignore 'em and they will try and get your attention. or you could just accept the fact that maybe he's just not that into you. and move on. good luck.
2006-09-17 01:29:22 · answer #6 · answered by jules 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, it seems you've had a bad experience with men. It happens on both sides of the table. I know a girl who constantly flirts and I hang out with a ton... and yet she doesn't seem to give a crap about me.
2006-09-17 01:35:03 · answer #7 · answered by valkyrie hero 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The hell with him move on find you someone that is going to care for you the way you care for them he'll end up regretting treating you this way when its all over with then it will be too late
2006-09-17 01:22:27 · answer #8 · answered by tpchick22 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men are the masters of mixed messages
2006-09-17 01:21:30 · answer #9 · answered by maggiemay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's pretty plain to me that he isn't interested in you. Stop trying so hard to push yourself off onto him.
I understand that you want to have a bf,but this isn't the one for you. Let him go .
2006-09-17 01:30:43 · answer #10 · answered by Miss Kimmie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋