She broke up with me like 2 weeks ago i love her to death when we were together but now i ******** hater her. i still think about her and the wrose part is that they are times we had fun and i so piss cause i can't get her out of their
Can you help me please? this is killing
2006-09-16 18:05:48 · 21 answers · asked by Big Boss 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
be patient and find another (a better) one... meanwhile, work out like crazy! work on self...
2006-09-16 18:08:09 · answer #1 · answered by yahsrock 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like she is still in-love with you but she felt for some reason like she had to test the waters before 100% committing to you. You guys were probably like marriage close, she got scared and got the hell out of dodge and went looking for whatever else was out there just to find out she wasn't missing anything. It wasn't respectable for her to began seeing another guy. I think that inseparableness it cute but it truly can be smothering. You both need time here and there to miss each other. It's obvious you want her back and seems like she wants you back. If this is the case you both need a private talk with some rules. Anyone that breaks 1 rule it's over. Be stern with her and tell her how you felt stepped on when she left you for another guy. Don't put up with that crap anymore and tell you if she messes up this time, then you are don't. Don't be surprised if she plays miss Innocent and says she is inlove with her bf, if she does be done cause you don't have time for games and I promise you this is when she'll want you the most. Be honest and real with her. It's time for adults to act like it. Good luck ok.
2016-03-17 22:04:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm trying to do the same thing with my ex/bf but the thing about it is that you can't really get them out of your head you just have to put new thoughts in your head.At times when your mind thinks of her try to think about something that makes you happy even if it is her think of a happy time you had together with her I mean as long as you know that you shouldn't be with her or can't be with her than it will work.You have to come to place where you know you can't have her once your there break down cry or just let it out don't hold it in.but you don't have to just drop her take it slow and only time can heal a broking heart if you really loved her than she will always be in your mind but others will come and they'll go so you'll feel your mind with them.
2006-09-16 18:27:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that can you feel better is time. I know it sounds stupid but one of these days you aren't going to care anymore. Hate is a form of passon, to hate her means you still care. If you didn't you would just let it go. Just give youself time to get over the pain and when you least expect it you will start to feel better and maybe you will find someone else.
I was married for 11 years and when we split up I still cared alot about him, but in time the feelings went away. I found out that it wasn't as much about loving him as it was about being use to him. By getting away I was able to sort out my feelings and move on with my life.
2006-09-16 18:11:43 · answer #4 · answered by Tammy G 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're hurt cos she dropped you and you hate her for making you feel so lousy.
At this point, just be angry and mad for a while, it's normal.
yes, there were good times. There always are. But recall the recent event - she said byebye. That should water down the 'joys' of the past. You gotta step out from the past, it doesn't exist anymore. All you must focus on is how to make urself happy sooner!
Quickly find someone else to hang out with.
2006-09-16 18:13:33 · answer #5 · answered by Beth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take some time away from the girls,hang out with your friends. There's no reason to go out and jump into another relationship to try to ease your pain It won't solve anything only cause more pain.
Remember the good times for what they were and move on.She wasn't the right girl for you anyone. The right one will come along,just take your time and enjoy your life.
2006-09-16 18:16:47 · answer #6 · answered by Miss Kimmie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn't a person in the world who hasn't been where you are now. Being dumped HURTS. And it hurts most when we still love. But, you will heal. Honest. You don't really hate her. You hate that she hurt you. You are wallowing in your pain. Go find others to date, get a hobby, move on. Time will heal your heart. (IF, by any chance, you were too controlling in your relationship, which was why she dumped you, learn from your mistake and don't let it happen the next time.)
2006-09-16 18:12:01 · answer #7 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love hurts as the song goes. But what people do not realize is that it is worse if you just sit there and think about it. Move on to another girl. Hurt is part of growing up and learning to make it better next time. You have to kiss alot of frogs before you find your princess.
Give it time and move on. Find someone else she was not the one.
2006-09-16 18:10:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you just need sometime to heal there is no easy way to get over her. you may feel like this for a long time. just take sometime to ure self & one day when the right girl comes along you'll know it and will be happy forever. wish u the best luck
2006-09-16 18:09:08 · answer #9 · answered by badgirl 419 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just like any kind of training we do for our bodies, we also have to "train our brain". develop a technique to use when you think about her that, when done on a consistent basis, will become a habit. for example, when i would think of my ex, i would immediately think about all of the holidays, special occasions he tried (and usually succeeded) in ruining for me. 5 years of dating and he only got me one gift and that was a stolen pair of sunglasses! so i forced myself to think of that everytime he invaded my head till it became an automatic response. it's not easy, nothing worthwhile is. but time is the only reliable cure in healing a broken heart. you'll be ok and be stronger for this. just don't glamorize the past. see it for what it was and get past it and move on ASAP.
2006-09-16 18:15:55 · answer #10 · answered by jules 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best way to keep her out of ur head is try keeping urself busy .. focus on other things ike, work etc. my ex broke up with me .. it took a while but i started to realize the bext way wud be to not think of him and try to find other things ur good with .. also try getting another girl
2006-09-16 18:10:56 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋