She is asking to be paid...How much should i pay her?...She will be doing me a favor by taking care of everything from booking the hall, photographer, limo service, food, flowers, etc.. everything that comes with gettin married...It will help me concentrate MORE on my wedding PARTY and Myself.....So how much should i pay her...and we are on a BUDGET....
2006-09-16 17:41:17 · 15 answers · asked by buttapecan19702 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If she is a friend, and doing a favor, then why would you pay her?
If you plan on paying for this type of service, you should get a professional and experienced wedding planner. Planning a wedding can be really stressful, for both you and for your friend, especially if she doesn't do this for a living. If you end up disagreeing on something or something goes wrong, it could ruin a friendship. So I would go with a professional wedding planner. Prices vary, but they usually get a percentage (about 15%) of the total wedding budget.
2006-09-16 17:44:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A professional wedding planner makes between 2-15% of the total budget. I have no clue why it's such a large margin, but it is.
A friend that wants to help shouldn't be asking to be paid. She should have asked if you were willing to HIRE her as a planner, and quoted you a price, or a percentage that she would charge. Then you could have decided if you were willing to have the help, at a price.
Since you are in agreement with her doing the job, then you need to figure how much you can afford. Then ask what she feels is a fair amount. Tell her what you were thinking of. If there is a large gap, take a middle ground to keep the peace. She should be willing to negotiate with you since she is a friend, and she will know that you are on a budget. You should also not be paying her top dollar based on wedding planners fees. Even if she is a professional, she made the offer as a friend.
Example:
You are on a $5,000 budget.
You think 5% is fair for her fee; $250.
She wants 10%; $500.
Offer 7 1/2%; $375.
2006-09-16 19:17:34 · answer #2 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to look at a couple of different questions...
First of all, is she a professional? Do you trust her with planning your wedding, and following through to get done everything that needs to be done? Would it ruin your friendship if she were to foget some small detail? Is she willing to sign a contract with you (as a professional would) just "in case" soemthing went wrong, or she changed her mind so that you wouldn't be left holding the bag with no courses of action.
If you still wish to hire her after thinking about those questions, then I would find out what she's expecting to be paid; or see if she'd be willing to donate her services as your wedding gift. I would also contact wedding planners in your area; tell them you're shopping around for a planner and find out what the going rates are in your area. If your friend is not a professional; I would offer to pay her half of what the professionals request, perhaps a little less.
By the way I didn't mean to imply anything about your friend, or to assume anything would go wrong; in a perfect world nothing would happen. I was just trying to give you other things to think about. Hope this helps, good luck and congratulations!! :^)
2006-09-16 18:21:26 · answer #3 · answered by kiki 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First off, I wouldn't necessarily have a friend take on this responsibility. If anything goes haywire, you may be jeopardizing your friendship. Does she have experience in planning weddings? Did she take a course in event/wedding planning? I took a course which really opened my eyes as to just how complicated the whole process can be. Depending on her experience level and amount of planning involved, you could pay her a vastly different rate. Some planners make as little as $250 and some make in excess of $5,000. I wish you the best and Congratulations!
2006-09-16 21:41:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From my perspective, either she's your friend, who wants to plan your wedding, or she's your wedding planner, and should have a regular schedule of fees for her services.
Your maid of honor is supposed to be helping you with these things, and it's usually something that they do because they love you.
Also, the wedding planning doesn't generally detract from your ability to have fun at the party. All of this stuff is done well in advance, and just needs one person (again, the maid of honor should be more than happy to do this) to ensure that the events at the reception are going according to the pre-arranged plan.
2006-09-19 09:49:47 · answer #5 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are willing to PAY, why not hire a professional planner, with actual skills, instead of a friend? A real friend would not need to be paid!
2006-09-17 19:30:48 · answer #6 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know something.. your friend pissed me off. My friend also got married and I helped her coordinate and plan her wedding , BUT I didn't charge her. It's my gift to her and her hubby. How can you call her your friend if she's asking to be paid? Tell her no thanks and when you need help, just ask for her advice rather than having her plan out everything.
2006-09-18 12:04:30 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The favor always has been done FREE.. How she is asking money and she will do this for a favor?
Don't do it, you will break your relationship with her and loose your best Friend by accepting her offer.. do it yourself by hiring someone professional and stranger as you can..
2006-09-16 21:03:27 · answer #8 · answered by Sousy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's always better not to hire friends to do things. It could hurt the relationship either way. If you pay her too much for what you are comfortable with, you might resent her. If you pay her too little, she might think you don't value her. Better just to hire a pro.
2006-09-16 17:50:10 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
B.S. your best friend plans your wedding because she wants too OMG thats such B.S. i cant believe your friend asked to be paid
kick that hooker to the curb
a REAL friend would be happy and honored to doit for free
If a friend did doit for free you should get her a gift
2006-09-16 17:49:43 · answer #10 · answered by steevo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋