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2006-09-16 17:36:19 · 11 answers · asked by Amy s 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
no
2006-09-16 17:41:25 · answer #1 · answered by Mo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I can relate even though both my parents are dead. As a child it seemed I took on the role of a parent because of their total dysfunction, so at an early age I learned this victim - saviour mentality. However, it is not healthy and can have consequences. At first you may feel wanted and needed so you are getting a need met, your father is playing the victim role so he feels loved and cared for in an unhealthy way. However, the end result usually is anger, frustration, and blame. Unless he is very ill he needs to look after himself. You are not his mother, mentor,
teacher or saviour. You could not do this even if you wanted to. Trust me.
2006-09-17 01:08:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dad depended on me a lot. He was seperated from my mom and he was an alcoholic. Would depend on me to make his meals, and to talk to (lots) I became a little stressed out, but he passed away at 60 and I miss him very much. Because I was married, it was hard to give him the time he needed.
2006-09-17 00:49:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dad is a loser. He is a drug addict, he is an alcoholic, I brought him into my house with my kids and my husband to try to help him straighten out his life, and he stole over $3,000 from my savings account to buy his drugs with AND he brought drug dealers in my house with my babies. For all I care, my dad can shove it. Now I will do anything for my father in law.. he is the greatest man alive! (next to my hubby ofcourse!)
2006-09-17 00:43:52 · answer #4 · answered by mom_of_4 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. Your dad needs to take care of himself if he is physically able and healthy.
2006-09-17 01:36:16 · answer #5 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not your fault he is single! maybe get him some dates? it's def. not your "job" to care for him. tell him you need your time to make a living. my parents are together but my mom is bed ridden and wheel chair bound. my dad still works .they offered my daughter and her new husband to live in their home (in the lower level) to help out. my daughter cares for mom and dad in exchange for no rent and my dad pays her too for her help and her husband works so they are able to save up now for their own place later.maybe you could arrange some way for it to work for every one?
2006-09-17 00:50:01 · answer #6 · answered by sillygoose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my dad is divorced and depressed but i sat him down and iwas scared believe me and told him iam growing up to and i need this time to be a kid he understood and now speaks to me eye to eye i also took him to church where he made alot of friends and people to hang out with you need to remember time in your life is yours and he needs to know that hes a grown man and should act like what he is your dad
2006-09-17 00:46:39 · answer #7 · answered by Kelly A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dad's divorced too and he takes care of himself, he lives with his new girlfriend so I suppose she takes care of him too.
2006-09-17 01:01:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a good time for him to learn to do things for himself.
2006-09-17 00:42:21 · answer #9 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope.
2006-09-17 00:43:33 · answer #10 · answered by Amanda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, my dad wants nothing to do with me except use me to get money
2006-09-17 01:43:15 · answer #11 · answered by kaeh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋