My ex bf, we just broke up a week ago but have spoken a few times, isn't home. It's saturday night and the last time he went out when we were broke up, he hooked up w/ a girl in his car. I'm going insane right now not knowing what he's doing. What am I supposed to do to get over this feeling...and to keep from calling his house after the bars close!!!
2006-09-16 17:10:34 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First by deciding for yourself that it's over....and accepting that's it's over one day at a time. Do not fight your feelings ... accept that you feel this way......however you don't have to act from that feeling.... cause you need to remind yourself thatyou are not getting any constructive or positive response. Your feelings are real.... but you need to stop feeding those feelings of love with false hope, clearly you can c that this has been a habit....with him , break up as and whenever he fills like he has a new toy... to tickle his fancy , after all why worry .....if this don't work out there's always you waiting on the sideline to resume d relationship again.
Do you really want to b there and put up with this throughout... Blowing hot , then blowing cold.... on again ..oops.. off again.
Can you see this picture... Well use this to make yourself strong...so that you can stop going insane and stop calling his house after the bar close.
Baby girl... your really deserve better... please don't discount yourself and who you are.
I hope this help you.
2006-09-16 17:28:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One week ago? You haven't had time to get over the jerk! Anybody that hooks up with a girl in his car, isn't looking for love. Sounds like he needs to grow up. Don't waste your life , waiting on him. Make new friends, don't answer the phone when he calls. Try to cut all ties with him, if the marriage is really over. I'll bet he never quits this behavior. Do you want to live with someone that is not capable of loving anyone ,but himself?... Get away from him and get a life of your own. Be strong. Woman has a weak back, but a strong mind. Man has a strong back, but a weak mind. Always hold your head up high and be proud of who you are.
2006-09-17 00:53:43 · answer #2 · answered by 12nanny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deserve so much better than this. You've got to move on. But before you do, take a few months off from dating and relationships and find a stable girlfriend whom you can confide in.
You've broken up more than once with this guy and probably for some pretty darn good reasons. Be strong. Don't go back.
If he's already with another bar "fly" tonight, like the last time, then he's only got one thing on his mind and it isn't caring for or loving you. Find someone who does and shows it through their actions, not just cheap words.
2006-09-17 00:24:46 · answer #3 · answered by soulguy85 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh dear. you're in that ex gf classic obsessive state.
why suffer, girl?
Just remind yourself of all the bad and mean and hurtful things he did to crush your heart and ask yourself why you want to bother to have a tracking system on his whereabouts.
He wants to live a sleazy irresponsible life, why drag yourself down along with it.
It won't bring him back. And you don't want him back, anyways.
You get over this feeling and need by finding someone else to be attracted to. Take a walk down the mall and open your eyes to ther men out there! It'll put things in perspective!
2006-09-17 00:17:50 · answer #4 · answered by Beth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just try to occupy your mind by listening to music, watching tv, reading a book, chilling with friends, talkin on the phone with friends, etc. i understand that feelin you have but you'll get over it.
2006-09-17 00:15:58 · answer #5 · answered by GigglesGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get out yourself-have fun--lots of guys out their--nothing u can do-anyways--so--find yourself another --
2006-09-17 00:16:45 · answer #6 · answered by baby-face 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this one is obvious, meet some new guys..........make him think about you..
2006-09-17 00:15:41 · answer #7 · answered by A_2__the__E__Adrenaline 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get over him!!!!
2006-09-17 00:26:08 · answer #8 · answered by juan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋