My neice is 7 years old and an adorable girl. However, lately she has started running away when she gets into an argument w/ her parents. The first time she decided to ride her bike to the lake which is over 4 miles away from her home. The police and everyone was involved. The second time she was on her way to my house and was caught by her mom before she got too far.
She is not abused by any sense. She comes from a very loving home. Her sisters are 13 and 5 years old. She gets along with them very well also. We have no idea why she is doing this. She is not spoiled but not deprived of anything at the same time. Her parents dont ever hit her as they dont believe in that. All of us in the family love this girl and her sisters a lot and she knows it.
We are all at a loss as to what to do. We are looking for SERIOUS replys only please. This is not a laughing matter by any sense.
ONLY serious replys please. Thanks for your help in advance.
2006-09-16 16:58:37 · 14 answers · asked by Lucky Me 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I feel this is my business as the second attempt to run a way was to come to my house. Her and I have a close aunt/neice relationship. We are at a loss though as to where she got these ideas or why she would do this. So please, dont tell me to mind my own buisiness as this IS my buisiness to try to help my brother and sister in law and the kids. Everyone in the family is trying to come up with a solution.
2006-09-16 17:06:05 · update #1
sound like she has found a way to cool down she is 7 at this age they are very determined to get their point across even if they are wrong sounds like you need to ask her why she suns off maybe you could give her a anger box where she can express herself by writing it and then sharing it with yous or not. You could take the bike away give it back as a reward for the next argument they have and she doesn't run away she uses the anger box i hope this is useful to you good luck
2006-09-16 17:14:58 · answer #1 · answered by 3kids 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I came up with the girl is on a path of rebellion at an early age. Her being the middle child could be a cry for attention in her home. Something deep is bothering her and it is up to her parents mainly to work with her and figure this situation out. See this type of behavior is difficult to address, because parents need to know the source of why she has resulted to running away after arguments. With every child there's an issue. It's a matter of if the family is willing to take the time and do some research and find out what the deal is with her. You never know what a child is feeling,for real,inside.Some tend to hold in all feelings and issues. Basically, this type of situation relies solely upon her household and how it's ran.
2006-09-16 17:11:46 · answer #2 · answered by laidbac25 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Something is definitely bothering her, otherwise she will not resort to running away from home.
What about discussing with her parents to allow you to find out from her the next time she runs to your place? Obviously you are the person she can confide in, if she plans to come to your place.
What a 7 year old sees as serious may be a non-issue to us. But because your neice is emotionally involved, it may appear to be insurmountable to her. Without knowing the real reason for her stress, this issue will not be solved.
2006-09-16 18:01:05 · answer #3 · answered by G.T. L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow....7 years old and running away! Kids are just so mature these days! I would have never have even thought about that a 7 years old....I would have been to scared! Sounds like to me maybe she does need to see a doctor to see what is going on with her. What makes her run away? Someone she can trust needs to spend time with the child and ask her questions about why. Or maybe it could just be that middle child thing and she wants some attention. She is not the baby and she is not the oldest! She wants someone to rely on her and also baby her like her siblings.
2006-09-16 17:06:05 · answer #4 · answered by tx_mailgurl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's difficult...impossible to guess anyone's state of mind. However, your niece could be suffering some form of abuse (in her daily environment). Perhaps she's being bullied on the school bus or in school.
It could also be middle child syndrome where she feels invisible with a brilliant older sib and an adored baby sib. No one hears the middle child.
Since she attempted to run to you, she obviously feels an intimate connection to you. You should have her stay with you over a long weekend. You can hang out and chat about things, and hopefully she will reveal or hint at her problems at home or at school.
My 7-year-old nephew shares things with me rather than his parents often. "They just don't want to hear it. They think that kid issues are silly."
2006-09-16 17:15:40 · answer #5 · answered by chance 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
cal-el, truly sorry about your situation. Its tough. I have a 15 tyo and its not easy. I trust ppl have tried to talk to her to no avail. What about a friend or mentor, a priest or other clergyman, a teacher or someone you know she will listen to. There is a problem there and you have to identify it before you can treat it. Good luck cal-el. I don't envy you but have been there with a child. And yes it hurts. I know. Give this to God as well and see what He can come up with. You gotta try everything.
2006-09-16 17:11:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being the middle child is hard, she probably feels left out. If she is doing this on a regular basis, I suggest her parents find professional help to find out what she really is feeling. If she keeps this up she might not be so lucky to be found safe .
2006-09-16 17:06:34 · answer #7 · answered by aloneathome 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some children are overly sensitive. Just change the way she is handled. I have one myself. She is a sweet little girl but she reacts to problems differently. She may need time alone with her parents. just her and them, talking, doing things she likes. Take things one day at a time.
2006-09-16 17:07:44 · answer #8 · answered by cayhillme 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is upset and is getting the attention she is wanting by these actions. It could just possible family dynamics and needs to be worked out with counseling.
2006-09-16 17:06:12 · answer #9 · answered by fyrechick 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, this is up to her parents to decide what to do. So, basically, this is none of your business.......so butt out!!! This is a SERIOUS reply.....her parents need to handle it and not make it a public display for everyone to comment on. Take care of your own family, sweetie!
2006-09-16 17:01:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋