Im going through alot please help me out?

Question

I cant figure nothing out no more! used to i could tell anyone anything i was funny outgoing and tried to make people feel better! here lately ive been kinda down i dont know why! every time someone asks me for somthin i say i dont know or leave me alone and im always moping! i used to have a passion for life i used to love it but now ive been having bad thoughts i mean really bads thoughts like suicide and i used to always say i would never even think about suicide! i dont know why im like this now! maybe its because alot of my friends are disowning me or maybe because my girlfriend is in jew jersey and ive been gettin in trouble at school alot or maybe its because ive started thinking about what ive done in my life always helping others and never doing nothing for myself please help me out do you have any idea what could be going on

Answer 1

You are probably depressed. You need to talk with your family, PLEASE!!! You also need to talk to your Doctor. He can give you something mild to make you feel better. Counseling would be great for you also. Please like I said, talk to your family, if you don't have family near, talk to a friend or a stranger, just talk to someone and get some help.

Answer 2

why would you consider suicide so readily? I just responded to anther question from a 13 yr old girl wanting to do the same thing. How old r u?
I will make the same suggestions to you as I did to her.
1) DON'T DO IT!
2) Seek help anywhere you can that is appropriate, like a teacher or school councilor, a family member, a spouse, a mental health hot line that may be able to give you a referral, if you are that close to the edge even an emergency room-keep in mind they can keep you for 72 hours, a family doctor....
3) DO NOT SELF MEDICATE
4) Take some time for yourself, it isn't a crime to be selfish once in a while.
Sounds like to me you may have some people pleasing issues, quit trying to please everyone all the time and try focusing on yourself once in a while. Do you even have any idea what makes you happy? What kind of things you enjoy doing? Now might be a good time to start working on that with a therapist, along with learning some life skills, coping skills and maybe even learning to say no once in a while.
Good Luck! Ask for and follow through on getting yourself some help...you deserve it. You already made a great start here by asking....keep going, you'll be glad you did!

Answer 3

I think you're right about your last thought. You have got to think about yourself, and it's not too late. It's never too late.
That's the thing with giving and selfless people. And trust me as I say this because I am one. I can't help it, and couldn't stop it if I tried. Everyone can depend on you, whenever. So they start to forget to be thankful for your help/time. Or they may seem to just expect you to be there, because you always have been.
That is when you have to make time for yourself. If you're giving to a million people, there isn't time for you. Then you get up and do it all over again.
Sounds like you need to change your patterns, that's all. You need to feel like you're worth giving a life to. Focus in school. Without that you truly will have nothing (these days). Perhaps a part time job will open new doors in terms of your social life. Sounds like you need some new friends. As for your girlfriend, talk to her about this. Or if it's feeling like a downer of a relationship, perhaps it's better to let it go.
Try, really try (because you DO have to make the conscience effort) to be better to yourself. With all you do, you are worth a little fun now and then.
I really hope you feel better soon. It's just a phase in your life. Everyone's got them.....You'll get through it!

Answer 4

Sounds to me that you a young person who is at that point when this sort of thing happens. I have always helped others without thinking about my self first and I have found that it makes me feel better. Even trying to help someone here on Question & Answers. Listen, you have a lot to learn about life and you must realize that there is a lot of good things that will be coming your way as you grow older. Your just at the begining of our future and of course life is going to throw a few curves you way as you go forth, but you must take a stand and pull your self up out the quamire and depression that you have let your self get into. Remember you are in charge of your life, your body and what the future will bring. Don't let your self fall victim to your surroundings and negativity - rise above it and become your own man - don't lose that passion you once had for life - there is so much to live for and you need to reach out and grab the brass ring!

Answer 5

I can only guess what is happening for you, but I support others who have raised the possibility of Depression. The feeling that we get when we have lost someone or something close to us, is grief and it can be overwhelming. If you do not deal with this it can lead to having suicidal thoughts. We would all feel more comfortable I think about your situation, if you were able to say to yourself not "I want to die" but maybe " I want to stop the pain". There are other variables that maybe a factor, particularly if you have turned to cannabis / alcohol or some other drug for support.
To turn this around you need help...
"You alone can do this but you cannot do it alone"

Answer 6

True happiness comes from balance . . . just like too little water or too much water can kill you . . . it must be in balance . . . so should your life. Help others and do for yourself ( doing for yourself makes you more knowledgeable and interesting ). Life in these years is kinda like being on a surf board . . . the trick is getting an idea of where you would like to be and try riding the board there. You might not want to answer questions because your focus is on your inner life. When you get it in balance then you will answer. Take your time and understand what you really need then start a quiet smooth trek towards it. hang in there . . . you ARE valuable.

Answer 7

So it sounds like you need to talk to a psychiatrist, and I recommend telling your parents what's going on. Just be sure you choose a psyciatrist that works well with you. If you don't like them or they make you feel uncomfortable, see a different one. See a Psychiatrist as they are the only ones who can legally prescribe medication. If you go to a counselor and they tell you to talk to your doctor about a certain medication, DON'T GO TO YOUR GENERAL PRACTITIONER!!!. They don't do mental problems well and will probably just give you the prescription even if you don't need it because they don't know and will trust the counselor/ psychologists judgment. you could then end up really messed up because your on medication that you might not need. Please just go to a psychiatrist as they have a M.D.s and psychologists only have masters. I would trust a Psychiatrists judgment better. If it turns out that you don't have a chemical imbalance or whatever, a counselor or psychologist should do fine as someone to talk to about your feelings and just be open. Remember find someone that you like and trust.

Answer 8

Well it could possibly be the stress talking to you....telling you too give up b/c there's so much,or maybe you're afraid that you're giving so much and yet the people that are taking won't accept it or won't like it...just try and talk to yourself b4 u go to sleep saying that no matter how much you give,take or how much you may be hated or liked there will always be someone there for you,to watch out for u and make sure u don't hurt yourself...once u find that person who u can be open to everything will seem to be clear again....i'm 13 and just want to help ppl

Answer 9

It could be very real depression in which you could seek out a therapist.Things and people are constantly changing, if your friends are finding it difficult to hang tuff with you, to heck with them. Getting into trouble at school? Your doing that no one else, change your behaviour, girlfriend in New Jersey...what can you do about it? Always helping others and never doing for yourself...Bullpucky!!! Suicide and isolation is ALL about you, no one else. Things do get better, you have to be a willing participant..your here to learn to be of service to others, to love and be loved.

Answer 10

Have you ever thought about seeing a Psychiatrist or a Therapist for some help. It almost sounds as if you are Bipolar and need some meds dude. I am not kidding. If you are constantly thinking about suicide then something is wrong, real wrong. You should tell your parents so that you can get some real help before you hurt yourself or someone else.

Answer 11

Truly sounds like depression. I don't know your age, but you are still in school, so it is most likely hormones - yes boys have hormone problems too, all of them - just some have more problems with them than others. You also have things going on that have you bummed.
PLEASE talk to your most trusted family adult, mom, dad, brother, sister, uncle...if no one in your family, see your school counselor or pastor, and do it now! You don't need to put yourself through this alone. It will pass, as all trials in life, pass.
Don't do anything drastic until you have talked to someone.