i am 17 my brother died nearly a year ago i thought i was fine and over it, but i am starting to hear him....?

Question

i am starting to hear him cry at night, like he used to.
what is wrong with me?? i have been fine ever since he died last october. why all of a sudden am i starting to lose it, and hearing him.
and i can't stand anyone saying his name coz it's just like "HE'S DEAD, OKAY?! you don't need to talk about him anymore!" and i just get irritated whenever anyone even says his name.
please tell me what is wrong with me.
and why am i hearing him every night. like i WAKE UP to him crying, only it's not real.

am i going crazy?

Answer 1

Its just your mind playing tricks

Answer 2

You are not crazy. The one year anniversary of his death is coming up and whether you realize it or not, you are probably thinking about it more. You say you have been fine but that isn't possible. Losing a sibling is an extremely difficult thing to go through, especially for a teenager...I know, I've been there. You never get over it. You learn to deal with it and the pain will lessen, but you never completely "get over it." I would strongly suggest that you talk to someone...a clergyperson, counselor at school or, if you can, go see a psychologist. I wish I had when my brother died, it would have helped a lot. You say you can't stand it when someone says his name...when you really are 'fine' you will be able to hear his name and even talk about him without freaking out...that's where the counselling will help. My thoughts are with you...there is nothing 'wrong' with you and it is OK to be sad/mad/frustrated/whatever...it will get better.

Answer 3

You're just having a hard time dealing with this. It's understandable to a certain extent. Have you thought about maybe seeing a therapist? Maybe they can help you understand why you are hearing him crying at night. Maybe you somehow feel guilty in someway about something that happened before he died or when he died?! You need to deal with this ASAP or it's going to catch up with you sooner or later. You need to learn how to cope with this loss without disrupting your sleep. And you need to be ok about people saying his name.
Eventually, once you learn to deal with all this someday, when you say his name, you will be able to talk about a memory with him in it and that is a good thing. You will be able to see it as a positive thing. Maybe that is the key to being able to say his name-in a positive way. Using it in a positive memory or funny story. Good luck to you!

Answer 4

You aren't going crazy, but the fact that you cannot stand to hear someone say his name says that you are not "over" it. You should never be "over" it, and trying to be "over" it is like trying to pretend that it doesn't still hurt you. You need to talk to someone about it, like a therapist or counselor. Just telling someone how you feel about something can help you not be troubled by it as much.

Answer 5

If you are serious about this, then it is time to see a grief counselor. The loss of a sibling is very traumatic and I am so sorry you have had to experience this. You can be ok again, you just need someone to help you through this very difficult time. I doubt that you are going crazy. Grief does weird things to people.

Answer 6

Ok, yes, you miss him but sometimes you can feel such a strong connection to a relative or loved one that once they're gone...you DO still hear them and feel them. Consider it a comfort and if you believe in angels....he might be one of yours.
It's hard. Our thoughts are with you. Hang in there and know you're normal. Everyone deals with things on their own time and in their own way.

Answer 7

You really need to talk to a therapist. It sounds like you have buried your pain so far down it is manifesting in you dreaming about him crying and getting mad when people talk about him. Everyone deals with grief and pain in their own way, but there is nothing wrong with getting some extra help in dealing with his death. Good luck.

Answer 8

hey u know its a psycological problem.....v always think that v have dealt with issues like death....mi grandma died 3 years ago but sometimes i feel realy wierd 'n start hearin o seeing her....its just that the memories of the dead r still with us.....'n as u knw memories wil alwys b cherishd 'n kept with us.....u shud c a counsellor o try counselling urself by telling urself that things r gonna b fine 'n that he is gone but his memories wont die......get used 2 ppl sayin his name o talkin abt him....ppl remembering him means that he was realy special 'n that he'll alwys b remembered by them.........

Answer 9

I know how you feel , I lost my brother in law in April of 2006, and we were close , he lived with us ,, my husband who is his older brother, and my 2 girls ,and you know what I also feel his presence around , I have even felt tapping on my shoulder, and playing with my hair , he loved my hair, and things fallin out of my cupboards , my t.v. turns off and on by itself , I hear my name being called , and I am the only one in my house , besides my cat, also I hear foot steps upstairs in the hall way , So I know how you feel
also my DVDs falling off the shelf , trust me I thought I was going crazy , but I have to go to my church and have the father bless my house, so that he can cross over, maybe your brother has something to tell you ... don't get scared just tell him to cross
over,, untill now I am just letting go , but it has taken its toll on me
I miss him so much , I know that you loved your brother and always will , if you need someone to talk too drop me a line. take care , and god bless ...

Answer 10

i'm so sorry for your loss.

it sounds like you may have post traumatic stress disorder.

talk to your doctor.

i hope for better days ahead for you.