my bf is in 10th grade and ever since about 5th grade he hasnt cared about his school work. hes a very intelligant person but he nvr tries he nvr does his hw or studys and doesnt answer ?s on a test b/c he nvr wants too. his parents get on to him but he nvr listens to them. i want to help him. i dont want him to make a mistake nwo and not try and fail in life. i luv him and i care for him and i care wat happens to him. i think i made a mistake i tried everything to get him to try and i told him if he culdnt try mayb i shuld give up and break up w /him mayb that wuld motivate him but im stupid and shouldnt hav said that. all night tonight after i said that he wuldnt tlk just sit ther in silence that was a mistake. how can i fix the mistake i made? but more importantly how do i get him to try and care about school and his decisions in life?
2006-09-16 16:16:25 · 9 answers · asked by fluteplayer1300 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you can never change a person, well that's what i hear. maybe he has skills not in studying, but in hands on practical stuff. he might not be smart with the brain, but good with his hands.
2006-09-16 16:19:10 · answer #1 · answered by Henry_Tee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is high school romance, what is the odds of even being with him come a time he enters the real world and has to get a job and make something of himself? But tell him you'll break up with him if he doesn't start taking his grades and school work seriously. Obviously he isn't taking it seriously and if he isn't taking that seriously it seems he isn't taking his life in a serious manner. How can he carry on a responsible and loving relationship if he can't be responsible and loving towards himself? You keep focusing on him too much you will lose track of yourself and wake up one day and. . . well you will find out if you keep with him and he never makes anything of himself and drags you down with him. You just can't change some people.
2006-09-16 16:38:18 · answer #2 · answered by Fallen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that what you meant came out wrong, that you meant that if he doesnt care about school how can you be sure he cares about you. tell him that school is a big part ofhis life and so are you, that you believe he can do it.. and yunno has anyone ever asked him why he doesn't care? Or is everyone just at him TO care... maybe there is a legidiment reason that you need to get to. Maybe his not caring isn't the root of the problem, and it goes even deeper..
2006-09-16 16:21:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, the only thing that will work for him is to break up with him. My boyfriend in high school (whom I later married) was like that-- got Ds in college. After we got divorced he got all As. Anyway, you can't make someone want to do work. They either are self motivated or they're not. Maybe he just needs time to mature and some experiences (like working in a bunch of low-paying jobs) to turn the light on in his head that he needs to get his butt in gear.
2006-09-16 16:20:30 · answer #4 · answered by shrinkydinkheart 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you could no longer make all of us do what they do no longer choose to do. All you're able to do is lead them and teach them the gentle to the final direction. it is their decision from there on. merely tell him the advantages of school and how education can never be taken remote from him and that's the muse and gets you thru life in straight forward and difficult circumstances. Thats all you're able to do.
2016-12-12 09:44:05 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing u shud do is talk with him...not just a nagging "u gotta do this 'n that" talk but a heart to heart real talk....ask him what he wants to be in life......he might be having some hidden ambitions....then talk to him about making those ambitions come true....help him with his h/w etc.......if he doesnt have any ambitions by any chance then try counselling, career guidance or something like that coz that'll realy help.....hope things go well!
2006-09-16 16:22:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At your age, he thinks its not cool to let his peers know that he's smart. You can't make him care about his grades. Just be sure that he doesn't influence you progression. If his parents are intelligent and successful he will blossom later.
2006-09-16 16:23:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that u said that only to motivate him. tell him how u feel, and he will listen what u have to say if he really loves you.
2006-09-16 16:20:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. slap him in the face
2.have sex w/ him everyday until he gets better
2006-09-16 16:19:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋