I lost the baby a year and a half ago. I was 21 at the time. Soon after, the father (my boyfriend) left me, which made the hurt worse. I don't have insurance. What can I do? I know I need help because of the way I'm feeling.
2006-09-16 16:13:47 · 10 answers · asked by chloekennedy7 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I'm going to talk to a counseler or somebody soon hopefully. It has traumatically and dramatically affected my life and my relationships. I have really bad depression that I've not gotten help for also. I've been repressing the feelings and sadness this whole time because my boyfriend thought I was "crazy" for being angry, confused, sad, etc. And I can't talk to my parents because they would be disappointed that I was pregnant. I don't have anymore friends because all my relationships have been ruined. I've become a different person. I just cry and talk to my puppy about it and Jesus.
2006-09-16 19:29:35 · update #1
OMG Hon, I can not imagine loseing a baby. I almost lost my son two times this summer, he will be two October 1 and we never thought he would make it there, and I thought I went insane.. I couldnt deal with that, but to actually lose a baby... There have to be some support groups you can go to, churches have counseling, I don't know if you are religious or not, but even if you are not I would check into counseling. Usually its free. You can talk to me if you like... I am here to help.. just contact me. I don't know that you will ever get over it. How do you. But you have to learn how to move on, somehow. You are in my thoughts and prayers!
2006-09-16 17:47:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, tough question, and one I will try to answer from personal experience. But before I do, I couldn't help but notice that you used the word "boyfriend". This indicates to me that things were not right in the first place (your head, his head). now onto the answer. . . . . .
I guess I could begin by telling you my WIFE and I lost our second child after only three days of being in this world. I have never sensed a more deep, truly profound feeling of pain than losing your on child. It was worse that being at my own Mom's funeral. MAN, what a difficult thing to live through. BUT, over time, loving support all around you, and an active lifestyle, it softens little by little, year by year. Keep in mind that I am speaking from a MAN's view, and not that of the one who brought this life into the world. Grieve, lean on someone who love's you, and truly know yourself for who you are before getting into another sexual relationship without protection. No ONE can raise you up, except for yourself, and remembering the pain you are feeling now, will guide you in making BETTER decisions when you ARE ready for married life with kids - THEN you can "let it all hang out".
2006-09-16 23:28:33 · answer #2 · answered by ezelljm 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear about you losing your child. Some people take longer to heal emotionally than others. You might want to go to the social services in your town and explain your situation. They can probably set you up with a support group. Good luck and God bless you!
2006-09-16 23:26:44 · answer #3 · answered by kim_in_craig 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to a family planning clinic and see if they can hook you up with a counselor.
They usually work with low income families or persons with no insurance.
I have lost 2 known pregnancies, and suspect up to 5 miscarriages.
10 years later, I still feel the sting.
However, I am now a PROUD adoptive moma of a 9 year old boy and 10 year old girl. :-D
(((HUGS)))
2006-09-16 23:20:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all you never get over loosing a child but you learn to live with it.There are support group in most larger cities that help women and couples in the same situation learn to cope with the loss of your child.
2006-09-16 23:22:16 · answer #5 · answered by wvcountrygirl_93 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My mother lost one at the age of 23...she grieved for years and suffered horribly until finally she decided that life is for the living. Try to keep your chin up. My prayers are with you.
2006-09-16 23:22:07 · answer #6 · answered by synchronicity915 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in many cities there are programs that will pay for therepy for people who do not have the money i would check into it because you obviously have issues that need to be released and off your chest things that your going threw are not easy im sorry to hear about your loss and i want you to know i will pray for you
2006-09-16 23:22:31 · answer #7 · answered by Thomas A 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
try finding a support group with women that are going through the same thing.. a lot of times it is free. best of luck to you, sorry about your loss.
2006-09-16 23:17:55 · answer #8 · answered by rosie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't imagine your pain... I'm sorry.
If you need help... go to your nearest church and speak to them. Maybe they can put you in the right direction.
2006-09-16 23:18:16 · answer #9 · answered by VixenMom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just pray about it. this is life... everything will turn out well in the end, just wait and see...
2006-09-16 23:21:37 · answer #10 · answered by mack9930317 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋