2006-09-16 16:07:18 · 13 answers · asked by chersports 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Tell him he's too big and you both need your own privacy. Assure him you check on him while he's sleeping and he can always call for you if he needs a hug or something in the middle of the night.
My 8-1/2 yr old is a bit insecure and some nights I do the above and he knows I'm thinking of him. The next morning, I might tell him about something while he was sleeping, like I had to put covers on him or he fell asleep with his feet on his pillow. Then he knows I checked on him.
2006-09-16 17:20:41 · answer #1 · answered by mommaof4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't think you should force the issue. As a single parent, he is used to haveing you all to himself and he doesn't know - nor will he understand about your needs. Instead, he will feel rejected. I too am a single mom. I have an 8 year old who used to sleep in my bed until very recently. He s a big boy, looks like a 10 year old and it was so uncomfortable for me at night. In the morning, I would tell him I was tired, achey and such because I just can't get a good nights rest while he is in my bed. One day I said, "ok, we are sleeping in YOUR bed tonight". I layed down with him until he fell asleep and POOF - my bed-mate was gone. Be gentle - and good luck!
2006-09-17 08:52:53 · answer #2 · answered by ameliabedelia_03 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do it gradually...first let him sleep on the floor in your room next to your bed in a sleeping bag, then move him out to the hall, and eventually he'll make it into his own room. He may just feel really insecure and need to get used to not being right next to you. When he's moved out a little at a time it might make the transition easier. Either that or he won't like sleeping on the floor and will head for his own bed!! Good luck, I know this can be a tough one.
2006-09-17 00:38:25 · answer #3 · answered by chelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has any fears give him a night light...thts was once my fear...and stuffed animals can't hurt...which is comfort...thats why he wants to be with you because your his safety and comfort and hes not afriad with you...you have to put your foot down and enforce it even though it may bother you it has to be enforced...and if he whines then take away something he enjoys...like t.v. or video games...its almost like a bribe because he wont understand...or there is always reverse psychology...where when he says he wants to sleep in ur bed thn say things like his bed is better you wish that was ur bed and things like tht...thn he'll be like this is better hear and since mom wants it i want it more....there are plenty of ways to go about it....
Good Luck!
2006-09-17 03:16:39 · answer #4 · answered by Honey Bunnie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um...would you mind giving us some more details?
And also, just tell him that he's a big boy now and he needs to sleep in his own bed. Talk to him about why he doesn't want to sleep in his room. He could just be scared of sleeping alone or something.
2006-09-16 23:25:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get him a night light. Also take him out and buy him some new sheets for his bed and a new comforter. Let him pick it out etc. He will be excited about getting in a new bed.
2006-09-17 13:19:23 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only way that i can think of is give him some incentive to want to sleep on his own like a reward take him to his favorite place or do his favorite activity , etc. but you must get him to successfully sleep in his own bed first before you reward him.
2006-09-20 11:39:56 · answer #7 · answered by tonya d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would insist that its time for him to be in his own room. If he gets up and comes in your room, for a short period while hes getting used to be in his room, I would offer a sleepbag on the floor. This will be uncomfortable and he may decide on his own to move. He needs to learn about privacy and how at night you as mom need it.
2006-09-17 08:21:26 · answer #8 · answered by erinjl123456 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on the situation. If he is frightened or insecure and feels that he "needs" mom due to bad dreams or insecurities, you may want to try giving him something of yours that is special to take to his bed with him. we do this with our kids when they have bad dreams or after my mom died last year or if they are going through any kind of a rough time with life and need some extra comfort. I have my "hippe" that was my stuffie from when I was a kid and they are allowed to take it with them on loan. we also have several other special stuffies on our room that are given to our kids on loan for such occasions. in your case you may need something you can give him permanently. so he feels like you are close by.
good luck.
2006-09-17 00:30:19 · answer #9 · answered by no 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i slept with my mom up UN till i was 13 she tried and tried but i wouldn't go on my own.....it was because i loved her and i was afraid to be alone....but then she passed away and i have slept on my own since then....i no that she will always be in the room with me now
2006-09-17 01:31:19 · answer #10 · answered by traviswhite 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋