is it ok that i dont mind him talking to her.. i mean some told me that i should ask him not to, i know he own't mind but i never told him to stop talking to her, so ppl told me i should ask him to stop beacuse if whatever happens he might always wanna return to her if we miss understood each other for any reason.. and i should be carful about it.. i know hes; not into her anymore.. but i seem jelous from her as much as i'm jelous from any other girl...but since for once she was a prefect girl for him at that time then.. hmmm i dunno.help..
as well as do you guys advice me to keep her around him..(she lived in a diff state)..and he says then talk on the phone like once every 2 weeks if not less..but she hes ex.
2006-09-16 15:43:54 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The best advice I can give is to allow whatever will happen to happen. If you dictate whom he can talk and associate with he will soon come to hate the relationship. Doing so would also be a clear sign of jealousy on your part. No one wants to lose their significant other. However, if he is committed to the relationship and trustworthy, there is no reason to care who he talks or associates with. If he is the type to move on then better to let him than worry about him all day long.
2006-09-16 15:49:31 · answer #1 · answered by Letsee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what makes you feel comfortable. I don't mind my boyfriend talkin to his ex cause at the end of the day theres a reason why she is his ex, also I'm not a jealous person. I use to be but have realized now that it doesn't help your relationship in fact it causes unnecessary arguments and you only end up hurtin yourself. I don't believe in tellin your partner who he can and cant talk to he may rebel also if he is goin to go back to her he will no matter what you say and probably would of done it by now. Try be civil with her and the situation gud luck.
2006-09-16 15:56:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has a infant with this female and being well mannered to her for the sake of his daughter is the terrific ingredient he can do,the girl merits to have 2 mom and dad in her life who get alongside and she or he gets excitement from a plenty happier little ones by ability of having this,that's a solid ingredient that they are in a position to set their ameliorations aside for her. Now of course you sense insecure and to a element that's to be predicted yet this occasion wont exchange and you have not any appropriate to be indignant at him over this,you knew he had a infant once you acquire mutually and loving him ability accepting her and all the touch he will ought to have with the ex. He has reassured you that he does not pick her back,he has chosen to be with you and you should confirm in case you could believe and have faith him which particular you should except he components a real reason to not or in case you merely can not preserve being with a guy who has a infant whom he desires to place first.
2016-10-15 02:02:49 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Civil and mature. Jealousy is as cruel as the grave. You allow them to control you if you are messed up about it. But confront him and discuss how you feel. Make him understand by communicating how it is disrespectful if you are not comfortable with it. Platonic relationships rarely work out--I married mine. It could easily evolve into something else. Deal with it now.
2006-09-16 15:47:56 · answer #4 · answered by Doll eyez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound like you have a grasp on healthy love. not possesive and a realistic view. the statement of jealousy being the same as for any other girl. If he really loves you you have nothing to fear from others, If you doubt the love , there is a reason for that too.
2006-09-16 15:51:30 · answer #5 · answered by sllyjo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, you can not make another person do anything. If you are uncomfortable with his lingering relationship with her, then tell him so. If he doesn't like it, Oh Well. If he wants you, he will stop the communication with her. If he wants her, then it's better to find out now.
2006-09-16 15:50:30 · answer #6 · answered by kayboff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think ur fine to do it the way you are. Be civil and be your self dont let others con u in to do things u may regret! Good Luck!
2006-09-16 15:46:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jst tell your bf how you really feel when you see him talking constantly to his ex. He needs to know that he is now with you or you with him.
Just act yourself don't pretent just be civil. Though its hard to talk with his ex, sometimes try to do so. It won;t hurt.
2006-09-16 15:50:13 · answer #8 · answered by Nes S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not worry about the ex if you are secure, you have him now. Appreciate the little things. Obviously he found something in you that he did not in his ex.
2006-09-16 15:46:06 · answer #9 · answered by Apryl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ex's can be good friends. They should be friends.
You're wise to not make an issue of this. Don't listen to your inexperienced friends.
2006-09-16 15:49:11 · answer #10 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋