im 12. there is a mom dauter work day coming up on next week and i will be left out. I think i am starteing my period to. I am so scared and relly need her. kids dont like me at school and i dont know who to talk to.
2006-09-16 15:34:40 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
talk to a relative (aunt, gradmother, sister, cousin) about it is probably the best move you can do at this time. they'll help you through.
2006-09-16 15:38:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Okay I totally understand. And so sorry for the lose of your mother. Whenever the mother, daughter work day comes up just tell people if they asked that your mom passed away. Do you have a grandmother or Aunt you can talk to about the period? Dads aren't always so good to talk to. I'm about your age and I know just telling my mom I started my period was really hard. I also have been through not very many friends likeing me in school. And beleive me when you get older and in higher grades you get better friends and they are friends that will stick with you for life. I just dumped one of my friends because she I felt like she was using me. Talk to one of your best friends about this problem. Or a grandmother or Aunt. I would hate losing my mother., but just hang in there and be tough Girl! Don't worry about what anybody else says or does. You are in charge of your own life and no one can change that. If anybody is giving you a hard time talk to someone. Well girl good luck about everything and sorry about your mother.
2006-09-16 22:44:50 · answer #2 · answered by Dragon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have an Aunt or Grandmother? Another idea is to get a Big Sister so that you would have someone to talk to. If none of these ideas work for you, do you feel comfortable talking to your counselor at school? Don't let the kids at school get you down. Just be glad you are not in their little click or you would be as bad as they are. When they try to be mean to you, do not let them see you sad. If they have no effect on you, they will stop bothering you. Your school principal can stop this, too, because this is bullying and schools should be very concerned with this. As for your period, it is normal and you may feel differently when you have a period because your hormones cause you to feel emotional, even angry. Go to your library and check out a book on it. But, all in all, find an adult to talk to about all this. There has to be someone that will be glad to help you.
2006-09-16 22:47:39 · answer #3 · answered by RKC 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello Tawnee S
When my daughter and son, mother was killed in a car crash, I ask close friends wives to help her with personal things. Some of the women took her to play's, movies, ect. Others simply had her to visit in their home.... Even so it was not easy. She still misses her mother very much and that was in 2002.
Ask your dad if you can visit some women he may know that you like. My son found that the female teachers helped him....You may ask a teacher that you really like to have lunch with you so that you can talk and unload....Clayton even spent the night with a teacher, she helped a lot. He has now ask a mother of a friend if he may call her mom.....Of course she said yes. I simply do what I do best LOVE them both..... I miss her also. Truth is you will alway's miss her. I miss my mother and dad. Don't become angry. Go outside hit a tree with a bat. Find a private place and scream. Clayton sometimes will do that until he feels better.... Lindsey screams at Clayton.
Ask a neighbor or friend to help you with the daughter, mom work day. Contact one of the ladies at your favorite T.V. Station. We have one with Fox T.V, She has now become a friend.. I can promise one of them will be a friend.. No one can replace mom. Nevertheless you can find some comfort. I do hope that you try some things which I have suggested.......
If I could help more Tawnee, I surely would.... Have a good day.
2006-09-16 23:29:13 · answer #4 · answered by popeye 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You poor sweet thing. My mother died when I was eighteen and I swear I felt like I was twelve, I neede her that bad. Try talking to a school counselor, they may have some places that you can go for free and support groups in your area. as for your period, it's not really that big of a deal. More of a pain in the butt really. There are instructions on tampon and pad packages that can help you learn how to use them if you have no one to teach you. and don't worry about the kids at school. You're twelve,they may not be as grown up as you are. Good luck honey and if you need to talk I will be more than happy to help you.
2006-09-16 22:47:17 · answer #5 · answered by glitz_and_glitter 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your loss. I know that it is very hard for you right now Tawnee. Go and speak with your school counselor, that is what they are there for. Maybe she can get you set up with the BIG SISTER PROGRAM. Or you could call them yourself. Look it up in the yellow pages. In the mean time I will say a prayer for you that someone will come into your life that you can have "girl talks" with. And in the mean time, and I know this will be hard, try talking to your dad...they're smarter than you think. Try a little prayer yourself.
2006-09-16 22:50:31 · answer #6 · answered by valducci53 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to speak with the person who is caring for you. Maybe since your mother can not accompany you to the school, an aunt or grandmother could. Mothers come from all different places. Just because its not a birth mother, doesn't mean its not a mother. My nephew does not have his mother, but he knows grammy as his mother and calls her mom. I know its not the same but it is in the end.
As far as your period you should speak your aunt or grandmother about it. Don't be scared. You will need to see a healthcare provider and you will need sanitary napkins for care. Its hard but you can do it.
2006-09-16 22:42:16 · answer #7 · answered by erinjl123456 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can go to the planned parenthood website for information on your period. it might be hard to get the things you need , like pads and things...but ask an older aunt or cousin, someone you trust...you will probably get it for a few days or a week, and it might not come back exactly on the same day next month...its okay though, when you first start, it isnt always on time=).....but the kids at school dont matter, i know its hard and you probably dont even want to go to school, but there are ALWAYS mean kids, its not your fault, they just like to be mean. dont let them pick on you, though. stand up for yourself...you know your a good person........i hope you have someone to talk to..like a friend or family member...good luck and heres the planned parenthood website(its not only for birth control =)
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/sexual-health/teens-health/having-your-period.htm
2006-09-16 22:56:42 · answer #8 · answered by thatgirluknow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you were just 14 in another question...and you are typing completely different from before. You grew up quick huh?!
Have fun on all the drugs you are going to try, I hope your computer is crashing, and you fail all your tests at school.
Shame on you for making up such stories. Some kids really do go through this crap.
2006-09-17 01:21:27 · answer #9 · answered by the_proms 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really feel for you sweetie!! First, you need to find a woman in your family that you are close to and talk to her. Maybe invite her to go in your Mom's place. I would be an honor to them. If you can't....then consider talking with your counselor at school on Monday. She may have some other suggestions.
2006-09-16 22:47:22 · answer #10 · answered by tod 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a sister or aunt to talk to? Get a little diary to write down your most private thoughts so atleast you get them out. I am in my 20's and I have one. It is good to relieve stress. Also pray to god he is always there when you need to talk. Not sure of your religion but thought I would let you know that also.
2006-09-16 22:40:22 · answer #11 · answered by spice2621 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋