If you are dating someone, how soon should u have sex, without the guy feeling like you are easy? Should u hold out for as long as possible or what??
2006-09-16 15:15:19 · 17 answers · asked by Amber 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Save yourself for marriage, Sweetie. As many people as there are out there that say sex before marriage is good, and sleep with every single boyfriend/girlfriend they have, it feels so much more special if you save yourself for that special someone.
2006-09-16 15:24:05 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ £.O.V.€. ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's totally up to an individual. Whenever you feel it's right, then it'll be right. Be careful with sex, though. Some guys only care about sex and will look at a lady as easy even if he spends months trying to get her into bed before he gets it. Others will respect her if she only holds out for a week.
My best advice to you is to decide why you want to have sex. Is it because you want to be close to him? Are you curious about it? Is it because everyone else is doing it? Is it because you want to keep him? Don't have it for the wrong reason. It's a pleasurable thing but it has many consequences (emotional and physical) if you're not prepared. I'm not saying you need to be married (I'm not that unrealistic!) but to make sure that when and if you do have sex with him, make sure that it is something you want. Do it for you, not for him. If you feel that giving in is right, do it. If you think he would be the type to consider you easy, don't do it.
2006-09-16 22:30:02 · answer #2 · answered by Avie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait until you're sure it's a steady relationship. You should feel that it's not only sex that the relationship is after. I really don't think how many dates it should be, I guess every couple are different, and require different timing.
2006-09-16 22:18:30 · answer #3 · answered by Roberto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is something that shouldn't be given away easily. Talk to an aunt or counselor, someone you feel comfortable with, they will help you decide what is best for you. If you are pressured...don't give in...once they get it...they go.
2006-09-16 22:18:45 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until you are married.
Why?
Because it makes the marriage and sex that much more special.
If you don't wait, you cheapen the relationship, and you will lose respect for each other regardless of what you think now.
2006-09-16 22:17:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if u really like the guy u should wait a couple of weeks because u dont want him to get the wrong impression of you.
2006-09-16 22:17:37 · answer #6 · answered by ~*Angie*~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i gave it up to my last b/f after about a week and a half.....he is now my husband of 3 years. it all depends on what kind of guy he is and how the relationship is going.
2006-09-16 22:19:11 · answer #7 · answered by sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as for me i will wait until the time is right until i know that im ready to have sex with that person.but i will not have sex with him sooner because you know how some men are they call us a hoe.
2006-09-16 22:21:19 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to push it. Just go along with the flow . You'll know when it is time. Your body, mind and heart will let you know. Be open.
2006-09-16 22:17:36 · answer #9 · answered by Rebecca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no certain amount of time. Just when ever in your relationship you both are ready to take it to that level.
2006-09-16 22:17:31 · answer #10 · answered by larrys_babygurl_4life 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋