Am I right to be bloody annoyed ?

Question

My dad died 22 months ago & my mum has started seeing by uncle (dads close brother) !

Answer 1

Yes you have the right to feel annoyed but not the right to suggest they split up. I know it feels wrong to you but it's her life and she does have the right to happiness. It doesn't mean she loved your dad any less and your uncle is probably like him in many ways.

Answer 2

I think that should your mum have sat you down and explained the reasons for her new relationship with your uncle, you would be much less annoyed. It isn't wrong, as they are both human and morning the loss of someone close to them both. a little strange yes, but not against the law. being brothers they probably are very similar. they may just have gone a step too far in comforting each other.
when I was 18 my boyfriend at the time's dad died. very suddenly of a heart attack. the dad had an American cousin, who was visited my him and his wife often. 6 months after his death the cousin came to visit to show his respects. two weeks later they were a full on item. she moved over there as soon as she could get permission from the American government. got married etc etc.
this kind of thing does happen. weather its right or not, well that depends. on if they are being insensitive or hurting anyone. there is no strict time limit on morning someone.
I'm really very sorry you lost your dad. I'm also sorry your going through a real ruff time right now.
peace, love and happiness be with you always.

Answer 3

Don't be annoyed Jim. So sorry for your loss. I know you are missing your dad but try to understand how sad your mother has been and your uncle too. They found comfort in each others company and by keeping in touch they could share memories of your dad. Your mum would be very hurt if she thought you were annoyed. And there is no way she would do anything to hurt you because she knows you are missing your dad. Don't you think that your dad would be pleased that his brother is being there for your mum and you too no doubt. Give your uncle the chance to be there for you all. Take care.

Answer 4

NO, you have no right at all, grow up!! they have probably had a lot to talk about in 22 months and are both grieving over the same person, they also know each other and have probably got closer, deal with it, move on in your own life and leave them be, your dad is dead, he's not coming back to be with your mum, she has grieved now she needs to start a new life, she will always remember your dad but she, like you need to move on. I am sorry to be ruthless but she could have met a stranger who turned out to be a *astard, you know your uncle, so let it be.

Answer 5

You have every right.
I understand it's been 22 months and your mother has the right to move on since its been almost 2 years... but with a family member? And, at that, your fathers brother. That is just downright disrespectful and upsetting.
You should talk to your mom about this... I mean, all this time she was with your dad but, what? She liked your uncle too?
At the same time though, your mom could be reminiscing through your uncle. Your uncle probably has a lot of similar traits that your father had which probably reminds her of him and brings back memories.
If after you talk to her she still wants to be with him there's nothing you can do but be annoyed and accept it.

Answer 6

Did your Mum's life end when your father died?
I agree with the answerer above who said that your uncle may have a lot of the characteristics of your father, from looks to personality. It's not as if your mum is dating her brother, he is no relation - other than by marriage - it's quite legal.

Answer 7

Listen sweet, life has to go on. I think 22 months is a respectful time for your mum to wait until she dated again. Your uncle is someone she knows, you know him, there's no having to find out what he is really like. And mostly you probably love the guy, and what better person could you ask for, to be in your lives.
Give them a chance. Good luck.

Answer 8

Your uncle may remind your mum of your dad. These things happen in life, and you have a right to feel awkward about it. Have a talk with your mum and ask her politely where this relationship is going. It might put your concerns to rest.

Answer 9

Have you thought that maybe your Mum is with your Uncle to feel close to your Dad?
Obviously, I can't say for sure because I don't know them, but I would say it's either two things (excuse my bluntness!)
1. Your Mum wants to feel close to your Dad via your Uncle
2. They were together before your Dad died

Like I said excuse my being so blunt, talk to your Mum, tell her how you feel, maybe you'll get the answer your looking for... Good Luck xx

Answer 10

yes it is your right to be annoyed but it is also your mums right to have a life. if you were in the same position what would you do. do you honestly think you would spend the rest of your life alone to keep your kids happy. cause i can tell you the kids woudnt do it for the parents. life must go on your mums a big girl and has a life of her own just as you have and eventually you and your mum will go seperate ways as you get on with your life.how long should your mum stay on her own. i know its not easy for you to accept but its not easy for your mum either.