A question for anyone in love in a long distance relationbship....?

Question

Am I the only guy that finds that its easy to say something to someone you love on the telephone or online, and have it taken up wrong? Is there anyone out there in a perfect long distance relationship? I'd love to hear what you have to say about keeping everything together.

We keep in constant contact. we use the webcam whenever we can. But sometimes I find its easy to say something and its taken wrong! If I said it to her face, it wouldn't be. Anyone got any tips?

Answer 1

I am in love with a man from Ireland, I am from UK. We chat every day on the internet and call when we can, we also have web cam, that we can chat on when we can catch a few moments. I honestly thought it would be hard work, but it really isn't. I miss not being able to touch his soft skin, or run my fingers through his beautiful black hair or kiss his soft and gentle lips, but you can imagine what fireworks go off when we do meet up !!!! Its like the first date all over again, so in a way it keeps it fresh, unlike someone you can see everyday. So it has its up and downs. Best way to keep it going, is just to make sure you can chat everyday, keep telling each other how much you love them and send them little gifts in the post, just to say HEY, I STILL THINK OF YOU WHEN I'M NOT ONLINE... Good luck, she is a lucky lady x

Answer 2

I'm Irish living in London & my girlfriend is Spanish and living in Barcelona currently. So the possibility to mis interpret is escalated due to the language dirrerence (though we speak together fine) We've been together 3 years. She used to live in England which is where I met her but we hooked up just before she was leaving. She eventually came back for a while but it didn't work, that led to a spiral of insecurities and though she came back to live in London a few times, the relationship had huge ups and downs. However now she's in Spain and we've given each other some understanding and I visit her every 6 weeks or so (Ryanair, hense the relavance of the 1st line) we've grown closer. The thing is we know how hard it is to keep a long distance relationship going but the fact that we do shows us how much we love one another.
Msn Chatting and texting etc will get misconstrued sometimes as they would in a close proximity relationship, but the distance creates more sensitivity cause you so desperately don't want things to go wrong. How difficult is it when you get together and the have a great time and then leave, those weeks following are the toughest. Then there's the tension of wanting each meeting to be perfect and when its not, the frustration and upset can be so painful.
When we were together in the beginning but in different countries it literally took a full day to get to know or feel comfortable with one another again despite the volume of digital communication.

I'm planning on moving to Spain next June and we got engaged 2 months ago.
It really helps to find the right girl, someone you can trust in these kinds of relationships. I don't know how difficult it would be if we didn't have trust cause when we did get together there would inevitably be the questions about who we were with when we were alone etc. Thankfully though we don't have those worries.

Good Luck, be patient,don't be sensitive, both acknowledge that there are times when you will both be down but don't let it ruin things.If you love one another it can be the most romantic love going!

Answer 3

I have very tough experiene of long distance relationship things would have been bit simpler if it would have been the distance problem only my relationship is cross cultural as wel and shez 14 year younger than me.I my self pakistani born and shez white
I live in merseyside and shez from a small village in derbyshire.In short tel u what we have every possible single reason to move apart but we stil together like we wish each other goodmorning every morining and its been an year like that .Her parents not ok with me so we have to meet in secret.
Key thing is dont let the contact break keep in touch .If therz a gap it wil give rise to confusion and each partner start asumming things on their own .Physical meeting is important when ever possible but ther shouldnt be much gap if therz no genuine reason for that.Telephone contact is vital give time to partner not just say HELLO HI HOW U BEEN HOW WAS UR DAY WHAT U GOONA DO ..OK CALL U LATER TC BYE XXX
Long distance relationship doent comes for free some money has to be spent if not much and most important of all in long distance relationship
If therz not an element of staying with each other for ever then in my humble view dont go for long distance reltionship coz no matter how much u do its pretty hard to maintain a long distance love in such an open and society ful of choices .
Thank you

Answer 4

Long distance relationships are very hard as I have found out. I am about to break up with the person who I had taken to. I am in England the other person is in Tunisia 1, 253 miles away, and I won't have a clear answer as to whether or not it really is over. I have been in weekly phone contact but things just don't seem to be going right.

Good luck with your relationship, but be prepared for heartbreak.

Answer 5

hi pal. well, I've been in a long term relationship for three years now. my girlfriend lives in finland, me in ireland. we do the whole web-cam thing and textatons. we visit as much as we can. it has its ups and downs, it struck me when you said that things were taken up wrong haha, ya that happens a lot. i guess my only advice is to be patient and explain yourself fully if that happens. simply ask 'what did you think it meant' or 'what is behind this' if she gets annoyed. there is usually an insecurity or some need that you are not meeting, like telling her you miss her and love her. i think that's important. i need constant reassuring of her commitment thru the hard times. theres nothing like a hug and without it the communication gets tough. hang in there buddy, if you love her you'll work it out, i promise, you'll find yer own rhythm. good luck

Answer 6

Long distance relationships are never easy. They suck sometimes, and are great other times. Either I call my boyfriend or he calls me, every day, sometimes twice a day. We keep in touch, and we can tell eachother everything. It takes a lot of work to keep everything together, but it isn't impossible. You just have to keep working at it, and it'll work out. My boyfriend is 1200 miles away from me right now, and he will be coming back in about a month or so, and I can't wait for him to get back. I wish you the best of luck in your relationship!

Answer 7

I am in a long distance relationship and we are writing eachother mails and sms every day for 2 years but after passing a little time I realise the things are not so good.We dont write each other so often anymore...I date others...But if its true love it will work out...Cause the distance makes to the love the sam thing that wind makes to the spark...If it's small it will get off but if it is big it'll brust her into flames....

Answer 8

There is a saying like: distance makes the heart grow fonder. well, if you really love her and it's the same for her, am sure all will work out fine. just let her know from time to time that you love her and be caring. that's very important. both of you should be thetre for each other and support each other in times of good and bad. Keep in touch.
It's often said that the hardest and most important things are harder to say face to face, but it meant a lot. face to face is better. If you are really sincere about your feelings for her, she will know you are serious and really care for her. I was in the same situation before.
Good Luck:) xxx

Answer 9

I am in a long distance relationship and my bf tries to be funny sometimes but I don't see that and sometimes it upsets me. Just be honest. Be caring. Know that both of you are probably having a hard time with the distance but in the end, it could be very well worth it!

Answer 10

It's easy to say stuff to people who you don't have to face. It doesn't really mean much unless you can say it to their face. I was involved with a long distance relationship. It's very easy for things to get out of hand cause you don't have to face each other. Unless you're willing to somehow get closer (like moving) then you might want to watch what you say.