ok I'm 14 years old and I've nevr had a a boyfriend (no big deal i know) but why do i appeal to older guys? they're always hitting on me and it's just gotten gross. If i appeal to older? why not my own age? Should I be a certain way? It's silly I know but it's just finnaly gotten to me. 30 is way to old for 14
2006-09-16 14:38:28 · 18 answers · asked by Ash 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stay friendly at all time. Whenever these older guys hit on you or insinuate, do tell them clearly that you are 14. That way you will at least shake off the 'normal' ones. If that doesn't work make it even clearer, not just for him to hear but for as many around as possible.
There are certain things about you that you cannot change, and don't even try to. Also if you dress more mature than others of your age, don't change that too drastically, I can imagine that you feel confident when it comes to that. Now whatever makes you feel confident is always good for you. Keep that in mind and stand your ground from out of the things you want and keep out those which you don't want. Your confidence will in that situation do two almost opposite things, namely it makes you attractive, but it also gives less room for doubt/confusion. Just make sure what to be confident about.
What you have right now is that you're in a body that does not really reflect your age. That will in time grow closer, though for now you have to wait for that to happen, which isn't the easiest of things. Though I’m sure that in a few years, boys your own age will see what the older guys already see. Just anticipate on that and for the rest be as 14 as fourteen can be! And you know better what that means than most of us at this moment.
2006-09-16 15:38:03 · answer #1 · answered by groovusy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, maybe is it how you act or look? Some girls act a lot older then they really are(not saying you do), but if so, just be yourself, that might be what's attracting unwanted attention. It could also be your appearance. Some people look a lot older then they are(which isn't always a bad thing!) It could just be that poeple like you! And soory hun, but can't do nething bout that! lol. I have the same problem w/ guys, i mean i'm ur age and a guy keeps saying REALLY nasty stuff to me if ya know what i mean! lol, but yea just stay strong and never change for anyone. Good luck!
2006-09-16 21:43:20 · answer #2 · answered by sweetthang93 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your boobs are probably always hanging out. And the people you talk to are scumbags. Now by older, you mean like 21 year old right? Yeah, they're scumbags. Just talk to the boys in the your grade, and don't talk to the 21 year old douchebags would flirt with 14 year old girls. There is no exception ALL 18+ year old people who flirt with 14 year old girls are scumbags.
2006-09-16 21:41:55 · answer #3 · answered by Poopdragon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if older guys (5-10 years) like you then they're more than likely just going to use you. Guys your own age on the other hand might just be intimidated by your awesomness! go find a guy around your age and flirt till you get a guy! good luck
2006-09-16 21:42:10 · answer #4 · answered by Biscuit 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is very wise of you to admit what you've admitted. Keep going and growing the way you are headed and you'll find happiness, but only if you give it time. Get to know yourself, then you can be more able to get to know a guy as a boyfriend, and it isn't unheard of to not have a boyfriend, okay
2006-09-16 22:17:03 · answer #5 · answered by bprice215 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear, if 30 year old men are hitting on you they are retarded beyond belief. No self respecting, mature guy of 30 would be bothered with some little girl of your age. If they are, they are total losers.
2006-09-16 21:40:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
its nothing ur doing. just some older guys are perverts, not all but some. and guys ur age r just more likely to be shy, so u dont get many of them hitting on u.
2006-09-16 21:43:03 · answer #7 · answered by ratd0g_11 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be carefull.Hey,14 is legal in Canada.Are the "suiters" Canadian?Gross either way.
2006-09-16 21:42:19 · answer #8 · answered by Erick W 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some men are what we call perverts and pedophiles that why they try to talk to you. But some may think you look older then you really are that's all.
2006-09-16 21:42:06 · answer #9 · answered by steph 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't hang out places where you'll be around 30+ men. Make sure you're dressing your age too.
2006-09-16 21:41:10 · answer #10 · answered by Mommy2Liam 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋