This is REALLY long, but I would really really, greatly appreciate an honest answer, thanks!?

Question

This girl and me were really close, we would stay up till 12 in the mornin talkin sometime, now that mite not be alot, but it is for her, she is homeschooled, I go to public school. Well I asked her to the movies, and she said Idk maybe , and REALLy backed off, she seemed nervous around me, I thought she just didnt wanna hurt my feelings, but she told her friends, she just wants to see if I can stick with her. Well we got further and further apart, until I couldnt stand it anymore and I emailed her, spilled my guts, and asked her to be brutally honest on how she fealt about me, heres what she said

well first of all, I don't hate you. second, I haven't been avoiding you either becuase its not been just swimming that I've been busy with its been life.I also haven't been beating around the bush because you never asked me if I did or not. But I haven't ever thought of being more than friends with you because we've always been good friends and I think thats how things should stay.I just don't want to ruin a friendship.hope you've had a good day, and i will talk to you later

Now, When I read that two things come to mind. One, that she is just trying to be nice. But on the other hand, she is just scared, because she has never had a bf b4, and weve been friends since age 7.

But now she seems more comfortable around me, like now she talks more, and seems more comfortable, but then she'll seem like she wants me, I can tell by the way she looks, and the way she acts, she just seems really sad, and down,

Oh yeah, and she told her mom , that she is just really really scared, and that she does like me, but she told her friends she just dont want to hurt my feelings, now her and her mom are really close, but so are her and her friends, Do you think she likes me, or is just letting me down easy?

And I am respecting her wishes, I emailed her and told her that I respect her decision, and we havent talked about it since.

But I really really do care for her, I wake up and she's the first thing I think about, I go to sleep and Fall asleep thinking about her. I mean I know I'm only 15, but I really do love her, and would do anything in this world to be with her. I've tried moving on, I've been trying to do that, but I just can't. Even though I am am guy, yes I have cried numerous time for her, and about her. I mean, I'm not ugly, I'm fit, and I'm not a big geek or anything, so what gives? I really do love her, what should I do?

Answer 1

Well, I know that this is probably not what you want to hear but, at the moment, it sounds like she really doesn't want to ruin your friendship. Maybe she really likes you and is afraid if you pursue a relationship and it doesnt work out that your friendship will be ruined and you will no longer be in each others lives at all. To her, that could be a safe choice because it is better to have you in her life than to take a chance on not having you at all.

That's only one possibility. The other possibility is that maybe she really does only see you as a friend and was trying to be as kind as possible about telling you so that it didn't hurt you because she does care about you as a friend.

If you told her you respected her decision and you guys havent talked about it, I would try to just leave it at that. If you bring it up again it could create an awkwardness that might make her pull away from you again.

Try not to read too much into the way she looks at you right now. You may be only seeing things the way you want to see them because you want so badly for it to work out.

If she wants to take it further, it sounds like she is the type, based on what she's said, that would be honest with you about giving it a shot. And I think her signals would be crystal clear.

Try to hang in there, and don't let your feelings overwhelm you. You can't control what other people feel but you can try to control your own feelings. Be happy to have her as a friend. If it's meant to be more, it will happen, but don't push it.

Answer 2

Give her time! :) You don't want to push her away, and you don't want to get into a relationship that she doesn't want to be in. Maybe she's not ready for a bf! I didn't date my first BF until I was 16 going on 17. I had no care in the world to. Just life. Everyone is different. Let her know that you're there for her. You "love" her, would love the chance to take things further than just friends. Tell her that you're willing to go back to just friends if that is truly what she wants after giving it a chance. - Now, that is easier said than done. She is right, once you go past that line, it's hard to go back to being friends. Make sure you're ready for that, as things may never be the same if she gives you that chance... :) God Bless.

Answer 3

this made me smile.in a positive way :) you are a very sweet guy...anyway.back to the matter at hand.she might be confused,also a bit scared...your advantage is that she trusts you.and i really doubt she'd tell her mom she likes if if she didn't.so you just wait.she'll come around.meanwhile,you keep talking to her,try not to force anything on her...maybe the movies isn't the best choice for a first date...try a coffee shop or a park.somewhere outdoors, more relaxed.try sending flowers.that will impress her.i'll bet you anything she'll blush like a rose.i wish you well, and good luck!! :D

Answer 4

My honest answer as a 15 year old homeschooled guy is to back off and let her have some space remain good friends and wait util you and her are a bit older.

Answer 5

You should give her time. If she wasn't expencting it like she said then she might be a little in shock. If she really does like you, she'll come around. As for her friends, maybe she told them that because she doesn't want to admit she's scared. Some people don't like to admit that stuff. I hope it works out for you.

Answer 6

Just be patient and kind. Give her the space and friendship she wants. She knows now that you feel more, but don't try to push it or she will back away more.

Just go with the flow and it may come around later.

Answer 7

for being only 15 you sure are a sweetie. and caring about this girl is so wonderful. I feel you should ask her and tell her to be honest . tell her to not play with your emotions. it doesn't matter if you are a geek or nerd it is what is in your heart that counts. if she has any real feelings for you then she will be honest . try asking her , its all you can do. for now. and good luck sweetie..

Answer 8

I think she likes you. She's probably scared and a little unsure. If you REALLY like her and think you should be together, don't give up.
Remember, the best relationships come from two people who started out as really good friends!

Answer 9

Good luck she's just really confused. Trust me. Get closer to her and then tell her exacly how you feel. Or even talk to her mom if you can't talk to her. This is a problem that you'll soon overcome. Again good luck :D

Answer 10

it sounds like to me that she is some what scared and prehaps she might really like you but she just has not relized it yet however i think she might be afaid of lossing you and i am 16 and i have never had a boyfriend and i was homeschooled for a while and to be honest with you might just being nice but the only way to tell is look in her eyes when she is talking to they can tell you it she wants to be their or not don't listen to a group of girls ethier we kind of get carried away and so do moms. just watch closely for little sings like dose she hold your hand, sit infront of you because she want to talk to you, dose she like to be close to you, dose she dress up for you, but most of all dose she go out of her way to see you or talk to you that is the biggy when a girl steps out of her comfront zone for you she really cares about you
hope everything works out for you, you sound like one of the few guys that are not idiots like the ones i go to school with