My boyfriend beats me all the time, he tells me I'm not good enough and i should just leave. He calls me names He says that he owns me because he knows that I will never leave him no matter what he does. I don't want to leave him because I love him with all my heart, he keeps telling me that its my fault that hes this way and that if I would just change the way I act so that hes happy it won't happen anymore, but I've tryed that and he still hit me, and acts the way he does, plus he gets so mad about everything and i hate that i have to watch everything i say even if its not even bad, i really think he hates me but im to scare to leave him cuz i love him with all my heart and i dont know what i would do with out him i try everything, someone please tell me what to do
2006-09-16 13:50:18 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
quit your pissen and either leave him or end up dead. simple as that.
2006-09-16 13:57:49 · answer #1 · answered by ღсяаՀу∙թіхіе∙ժմѕτღ 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I have a friend is going thew the something u are doing and i don't know how to help her too. I went to call the copes on him and she say no. Because the both can go to jail and the two kids will go to the DCF will take them. He beats her too. She is doing the something u say it is her fault ..........It is not , I tell her to leave the kids with him and take a walk or go for a drive. I know that will not change ****. I told my friend to call a hot line for help and this goes for u too. Me i thank this guy doesn't love u at all . I am sorry to say. I say the same thing to her too. But when he does things to here she gets stupid to the point the she slice her wrist.. I don't know how to help there . she won't lean to me. I hope u are telling someone what is going on in your live. I am very sorry
2006-09-16 14:12:57 · answer #2 · answered by cookie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, PLEASE, do yourself a favor... Leave him. Think of this - if you stay with him, and you eventually have kids with this man/boy, your babies will endure the same pain you do. He could go on a rage, and kill you and / or your kids... do you want to live with that fear?
I don't know all the details to this relationship, but my first fiance was a beater. He emotionally scarred me, and physically beat me, mentally drained me. I "loved" him too. It was SO hard for me to leave him. I was with him for almost 3 years. When I did leave him, I cried a lot. I missed him. But once I got past the upsetting part, I realized I didn't miss him. I missed the familiar part of him, the only thing I knew. I didn't miss being beat, or emotionally put down.
Later, I fell in love with another guy, he treated me great, like I deserved. There IS someone out there better for you. Just waiting for you to give them a chance. Keep your head up and think about your future. Think with your brain, not your heart. Ask your parents or a close friend to help you.
God Bless...
2006-09-16 14:02:11 · answer #3 · answered by Ashley S 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know what you are going through, my ex boy friend use to beat me until one day I realize there were other and better fish in the sea and I wasnt going to end up dead because of this assole. Who cares if he is good in bed, that is no reason to beat you, I am sure you could find another person that is better in bed maybe even better than him and that could treat you the way you should be treated. What is going to happen if you have children with this guy, is he going to beat them as well? Get out while you can, you will thank yourself in the end. GET OUT NOW
2016-03-27 04:34:59 · answer #4 · answered by Olga 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one has the right to hit anyone for any reason except in self defense. You must have a plan so you can leave this situation safely. You should not tell him or make him aware of your plans.
Find a place to go to where he can not find you. Wait until he is gone, collect all of your possessions, go away without looking back, you will find someone who you will love and respect. Anyone who abuses you, does not love you. Good luck and stay safe....
2006-09-16 14:07:02 · answer #5 · answered by Ali M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave the jerk. There is no excuse for him to beat you. He will continue. Get as far away from him as you can. If I were there, I would beat him down. Only losers beat there women. Trust me you can do much better. You only think you love him. Just wait until you find a guy who will treat you with love and respect. Then you will be very happy. He will not quit beating you. GET AWAY FROM HIM BEFORE YOU GET HURT. Please!
2006-09-16 14:00:54 · answer #6 · answered by Trick69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is right, you won't leave him....you love him with all of your heart and you do not know what you would do without him?...
Maybe you could find someone else to beat you so you will not miss him so much
Why on earth would you chose to be with and LOVE a person who makes you feel so bad? I can't feel sorry for you, you chose to live with this animal, why can't you chose to get out?
2006-09-16 14:00:37 · answer #7 · answered by Annie R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE HIM! You love him. Emotional and physical abuse is something he could go to jail for. I'm not saying call the police or something on him, I'm just saying you deserve better. Just think about it. You stay with him and he keeps hitting you harder and harder. Women have died because they were in the same situation you are in now but decided not to leave. Leave him, I'm sure there is a non-abusive guy who is perfect for you. Go find him.
2006-09-16 13:55:09 · answer #8 · answered by Vshak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should leave him now no one deserves to be hit you should go to a close friend you can trust or a family member and tell them whats going on there are also shelters for women in your situation I would leave as soon as possible before he hurts you really badly
I Hope you leave him soon and are safe
2006-09-16 13:57:48 · answer #9 · answered by Glen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jessica sweetie, if your bf beats you all the time why are u really with him? Is it "just to be with somebody"? No girl needs abuse in their lives. You need to seperate yourself from him.!! NOW!!! Its not ur fault that he is this way. What he is doing is GUILTING you into staying with him. I say GET OUT FAST!! and GET OUT NOW!!! You shouldn't have to watch what you say around him. If you can't be yourself around him then I say leave him. He isn't worth all the aggrevation forthcoming in the future.
Go out and find you someone who can RESPECT you as well as himself!! You say you love him.... I think its just you are wanting ANYONE in your life. Rethink what you want in a guy and see if this guy really fits it. IF he doesn't then you may need to rethink your decision to stay with him. Good Luck Sweetie
2006-09-16 14:02:30 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you actually be in love with someone who beats you up? Are you maybe in love with what you want him to be? Do you think he will ever become that person or will this get worse until who knows what might happen? I suggest you dump him NOW before your life becomes so intertwined with his ( like children and financial dependance) that leaving him actually becomes as impossible as you only think it is now.
2006-09-16 13:56:52 · answer #11 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋