My daughters father lives with me but I dont want him anymore. I didnt tell him he could stay with me,he just kind of came and never left. The problem is I thought I wanted him. I realize now I dont. How do I tell him to leave and for him to know I mean it? I've told him to leave cause this isn't workin'. But the asshole still there!!!!
2006-09-16 13:31:59 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No i'm not a bad person,this man abused me and my 14 year old son (mentally) for 5 years till I had the strength to move out of his house. I thought he had changed but he hasnt. He treats my son better byt it just doesnt seem real
2006-09-16 13:40:55 · update #1
then you have to say it & mean it, just say - im sorry but as i have told you before its not working out between us & i feel trapped & tied down. i need my space & freedom. to build a new life for me & our daughter. you can still call & see her when i get sorted. & i will help you to find a place of your own. im not being funny but we both need to move on. SO where do YOU fancy living? - then get a paper & find him a flat. he HAS to know you do mean what you say. BUT if you offer to help him find a flat he will think your more conciderate. BUT be strong & keep looking for places. you never know you may find a place that you would like to be & leave him in your house. good luck.
2006-09-16 13:47:07 · answer #1 · answered by KATIEKAT 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you own the house, or hold the lease in only your name on the apartment, or in any other way hold sole possession of your residence? If so, tell him quite simply to get out of your home, that he isn't welcome. If he refuses, call the police & have him taken from the premises. You may have to go to court afterwards regarding custody of your daughter, but no one has a right to just set up residence in your home without your permission. Move quickly, though. If your state has common-law marriage, he may now be considered your husband, & you may have to go through divorce precedings, depending on how long he has been there. No matter what, I would consult a lawyer now.
2006-09-16 13:38:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think that you should really have a heart to heart with him. Calling him an a**hold isn't going to help anything.
You are going to be in each others life forever, you should be honest.
You have a child together and you have to respect that and respect that he wants to be with his child. It will also be different for her to not have him there.
This is why people shouldn't have children out of wedlock.... if you married him and lived together first you may not have this problem.
2006-09-16 13:38:31 · answer #3 · answered by Heather 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you want him? If he's not so bad I would try to make it work for your daughter's sake (if she is young). If he is impossible to live with, explain that the relationship cannot work (give your reasons), work out an arrangement for him to see his daughter (if that's the case), then I'd give him a day to get out and change the locks.
2006-09-16 13:38:38 · answer #4 · answered by melissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pack up his stuff and put it out the door--change the locks. Call the cops if he raises hell. If you are in an apt. and he isn't on the lease then you have every right to throw him out. Regardless....if you don't want him there he has to go. Simple as that
2006-09-16 13:35:13 · answer #5 · answered by WonderTwit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are married him, apply for devoice which is safety for you (By the low)
If not
Don’t worry; just find a partner for you. And then let him know that you have another partner (By actions & not words). If he is a gentleman then he wont come back to you.
2006-09-16 13:39:24 · answer #6 · answered by sivakanthan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first u should be sure u don't want him no more,because he is goin to get tired of u tellin him to leave sooner r later.n u might end up bein hurt, but u sound like u really want him to go,so the thing i c u can do is keep talkin n he will get tired
goodlucc
2006-09-16 13:37:20 · answer #7 · answered by Sammie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2017-02-19 23:02:39 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait till he goes to work throw all his stuff out, change the locks and get a restraining order., its your house.
2006-09-16 13:34:54 · answer #9 · answered by psychpath64 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
throw his crap out. Call a family member and send his stuff over there...then change the locks...you could change the locks first...
2006-09-16 13:34:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋