I came to a point where I think all men are cheaters, but I'd like to have a perspective that their really is good man out their 4 me who isn't going to cheat on me.
2006-09-16 13:18:39 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why don't you change your expectations instead?
I find it strange that so many people insist on strict monogamy when obviously humans are not really suited to it. Given the chance, both men and women cheat all over the place, its not just men.
2006-09-16 13:20:45 · answer #1 · answered by jarm 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Consider your question for a minute. What possible answer would satisfy you? If a man says "No, I am not a cheater," are you willing to take him at his word and walk away with your faith in men restored? Likewise, if a man says "yes, we are ALL cheaters and liars," should you then take the word of a man who just admitted he lies, especially when he elects to speak on behalf of all men?
As long as you continue to think of all men as being the same, one way or the other, you are never going to be able to see the truth. And that isn't just true of men and that isn't just true of you. It's true for anyone who thinks that way of any group or stereotype of people.
2006-09-16 20:28:48 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if everyone is doing to you - then maybe it's YOU. why do you keep choosing the same kind of guy? Why do you CHOOSE guy's who will cheat on you?
and, just so ya know, some times there is more to cheating than just, "the jerk is a ho!" like:
1) they just had enough of your crap and no matter how hard they tried, they just couldn't get you to LISTEN to them when they tried to tell you! but, they finally found someone who WOULD listen... which led to other things...
2) because of the crappy way they felt around you... embarrassed, useless, run over, ignored, pushed around, walked on, taken advantage of... but you had some good qualities to, and well, they were hoping... but still...
3) and maybe thy cheated on you just because they could...
But no. all men are not cheaters and/or dogs. you need to figure out what YOU are doing wrong - and work on that! or else, how do you expect anything else to change?
2006-09-16 20:36:12 · answer #3 · answered by Kitten2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys are dogs, and some or not. Unfortunately, you won't know until you know. You have to date someone for a good while, before you actually get to know them. I say take it slow, so you get to know their character flaws. Watch out for the red flags, and always go with your gut. I say if you see a red flag, that might be ok, but not if you see three red flags. Get out. Some guys say what they know women like to hear. Some guys are truly nice guys who are also looking for the same thing that we are. You have to believe, that you will find what you are looking for. You can't give up. If you go out thinking, I'm never going to find it, then you will not find it. You've already set yourself for failure. Be positive, guys love it and eat it up.
2006-09-16 20:28:01 · answer #4 · answered by junebug 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well hun first thing you need to do is Chill! yes theres alot of dogs out here today, but you take a (real man) like myself,im true to who im with, ill tell you straight up if i have a problem with somthing we've done, i like alot of s-- i look at a'lot of hot babes but it doesent mean ide sleep with them,its kinda like this, follow me here. i bought a new Mustang 2 years ago fell in love with how it ran,looked,stuff like that LOVED the car for the first year, but at this point and time,i'm looking for a (new car) see where i'm going with this? point being this,just because you may fill all my needs for a while, ill still love you but i'm likeley gonna want a upgrade in the Near future!
2006-09-16 20:26:48 · answer #5 · answered by rpoker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as a mans happy with you they wont cheat, or at least i wont and yes there is a few good ones out there in this world but finding them is like looking for a needle in a haystack and yes most men are raving wolves
2006-09-16 20:25:05 · answer #6 · answered by dalmation60 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well good luck with that one, when you find a good guy see if he has a brother for me. There really are alot more cheaters and players out there than good guys. Good luck
2006-09-16 20:21:07 · answer #7 · answered by butterflygirl790 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been married for 42 years and I haven't cheated on my wife. Had chances where I could of but didn't cause I don't think it is right. She's all I need. Hope you find someone that you can trust.
2006-09-16 20:24:53 · answer #8 · answered by Alien 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no i don't think ALL men are DOGS i know mine isn't and that is such a RELIEF ( sigh) because its hard out there for a female nowadays, just screen the guys carefully and guys too i aint gone be all for the women i'll b fair much love to all the real men and women out there !!!
2006-09-16 20:24:27 · answer #9 · answered by ~Niecee~ âË» âË» ♂ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are some good men out there. Unfortunately, the jerks make things hard for the decent ones.
Don't stop being optimistic.
2006-09-16 20:24:56 · answer #10 · answered by tina m 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋