My childs father ( were not together) is trying to get back in. He cheated on me and we broke up when our little girl was a few months old. He did not help me for a long time but I preservered and make one hell of a life for myself. He has been helping me financially for about year now ( paying for her private preschool and ballet) and seems to be on track but I am leary and have a hard time letting go of what he did. He cheated with numerous women, lied about paying bills when he didnt and I had to get my credit back on track, spent OUR money on stupid things like cars to fix up but never did. The cheating was the worst. Does a man ever get over that??? Once a cheater always a cheater???
2006-09-16 13:07:13 · 21 answers · asked by mphsgal 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he has made you life hell, such as runining your credit, and leaving a young child because he was cheating does not seem like someone who you would want back with you. You can spend time with him. If you trust him, let him spend some days with his daughter. It sounds like he cares when he pays for preschool and ballet, but I agree with you for being a little weary. Be friendly, but don't let him back in.
Nate
2006-09-16 13:11:16 · answer #1 · answered by ~~0o0~~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 01:25:16 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the status quo sounds perfect for you right now even though you may have convinced him that you're interested in him again. It's your call - live your life and keep him in your child's life. Let him know that you've moved on and there is no future between the two.
2006-09-16 13:09:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has to show you that he means it, and not just tell you. He can get over the cheating stage, but he have to want to this on his own. If you take him back to quick, you will find yourself right back where you started from. Trust takes time to build, but is easily destroyed.
2006-09-16 13:14:13 · answer #4 · answered by Branded with the Dark Mark 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me get this straight.. now that your doing well for yourself he's proving to you that he is a different man? He hurt you and betrayed you time and time again and you are still thinking about giving this guy another chance to reject you again and again. Honey! He chose to hurt and rejected you now YOU have the chose weather your going to do it again. You need to get along for the child but you need to leave yourself open to find the man that CHOOSES to love and honor YOU.
2006-09-16 13:20:47 · answer #5 · answered by autumnbrookblue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is a fragile thing for a reason. See if he can behave for a year then you will have sufficient grounds to make an informed decision. If he really wants you, he will wait.
2006-09-16 13:12:10 · answer #6 · answered by john c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men can grow up and be responsible once they realize what is important to them. I'd say go slow if you want to give this guy another chance.
2006-09-16 13:09:15 · answer #7 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be over it. What you might want to ask yourself is, now that you've been away from him for a while and you've straightened out your life, your job and your credit... do you really want to risk it all on the fact that he *might* have changed?
2006-09-16 13:12:44 · answer #8 · answered by Avid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a cheater. He only is helping you because he doesn't want his child thinking he was all that bad.
2006-09-16 13:12:02 · answer #9 · answered by Aycilla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should give him a chance but if he does it again, u shouldnt get back with him, sounds like he's not the right guy for u but glad to hear hes shaping up
2006-09-16 13:09:59 · answer #10 · answered by sourgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋