My son is in 7th grade...he has made a friend out in our sub divison...but this boy is in 10th grade. My son met him thru our neighbors kid...hes in 4th grade...so originally this 10th grader was hanging out with a 4th grader until my son came along.
This boy could sit on me and damage me...hes a BIG boy....but very slow & backwards.....i dont know if i should be alarmed. This 10th grader definitly doesnt have the 10th grade mentality...very young acting....
what do you think?
2006-09-16 12:54:41 · 15 answers · asked by Sugar_Plumzz 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
maybe be a little cautious.....
You have to give your son freedom- you cant hold him on a short leash anymore-----
Ask him about it.... if anything occurs to him... ?
Explain why you are worried...
He will probably deny being worried if at all
my brother hung out with a 16 year old the whole time he was at camp when he was only11 - remember parents were worried
If he is trustworthy... its probably ok.
I am going to tell you to lean on the side of caution keep an eye on him.. pay attention/
but if you can reach your son with why you are worried then chances are he WILL be cautious and try not to get into trouble.
these are the kind of things where you kind of have to know the people involved-- you hAVE TO MAKE YOUR OWN DESICION!!!
there are so many variables to take into consideration,
from the way you have described it this is how i would act, at least at first.
If there are hidden things that make this an exception, they you have to act accordingly. Im not saying you would not have the common sense, you seem like a very smart individual but im just making sure you know my message:
So many things could go wrong, im including my own answer to my question and ulitmately you cannot rely on the people at Yahoo answers.
THEY COULD TOTALLY SKREW UP YOUR LIFE!
think about it...
INTERROGATE THE 4th GRADER!!!!!!
JK...... (seriously.... just kidding)
2006-09-16 13:06:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There wouldn't be any sleep overs!!...ever! But there is nothing wrong with having friends of different ages, if your son is in the 7th grade and had a 4th grade friend, the age differance there is just about the same as your 7th grader and the 10 grader.
2006-09-16 20:09:46 · answer #2 · answered by ღсяаՀу∙թіхіе∙ժմѕτღ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't like to jump to conclusions because I work with people with disabilities and this 10th. grader with a slow backwards way about him could be harmless.Under normal circumstances I would say get your son away from him because that isn't normal with the age differences.However;you can't ignore the situation so I would still keep a very close eye on where your son goes.Maybe you could even talk to the boy's parents about this relationship.Like I said, I don't like to judge but at the same time I don't like the sound of it either.
2006-09-16 20:21:54 · answer #3 · answered by tea cup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Until you see some alarming behavior or hear something from the 4th grader's mother, try not to pass too much judgement here. It is not uncommon for developmentally disabled individuals to identify and make friends with people whose interests are similar to their own. If you are concerned, ask your son casual questions about what they do together. Invite the boy over for dinner and get to know his behaviors in your own environment. I commend your son for being so open minded. Most 7th graders would probably follow the herd and make fun of him. If you follow my advice and still do not feel completely sure about allowing your son to be friends with him, speak with the parents of the 4th grader for their opinion. I hope that helps. Basically, you might just need to take a risk and get to know the boy yourself even if it's just to ease your own mind and show your son that you respect his choice to make friends with him. Good luck!
2006-09-16 20:07:18 · answer #4 · answered by A Total Franny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd err on the side of caution and not let my son play with the 10th grader. You can never be to careful these days.
2006-09-16 19:57:43 · answer #5 · answered by Lucy_Fir 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt even think about it! Id act on it immediately and say uh uh nope no way.
Learning disabilities are different from emotional problems or mental disabilities and I doubt if he's got learning/emotional disabilites too extreme for public school. Your son is probably not equipped to deal with such a boy and best to pick his friends mom. This one's unstable at best.
2006-09-16 20:30:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because he is big and slow does not mean he will hurt anyone. Has he given you any reason to think he may be violent? Sure, i have never met this kid but based on the information you gave i really see no problem with the friendship.
2006-09-16 21:29:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't think there's nothing wrong with it........ and big boys needs friends too, maybe he don't have any real friends, and he's just looking for one, i don't think that nothing is wrong with it, my son is in the first grade, and his best friend is in the fifth grade, and i don't have a problem with it, it gives them some friends, and lets them know age doesn't matter when it comes to being a friend! i don't think that there's nothing to be alarmed about, sounds like he just wants a friend, it's hard being big, and in school, so they'll look for people that don't make fun of them, you know that some kids are very mean........ let your son have him as a friend, no harm done.................................................
2006-09-16 22:56:40 · answer #8 · answered by miss.d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trouble
2006-09-16 19:56:02 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would help your son find some age appropriate friends.
2006-09-16 20:05:44 · answer #10 · answered by whrldpz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋