what does it mean when a guy who has been hurt once befroe in a relationship with someone else starts talking to you about that relationship and what he is looking for and calls you to vent his problems to and the guy knows you like him
2006-09-16 12:34:36 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It means he feels enough for you to confide his feelings to you. If you like him and you feel awkward about this because you want more than friendship, then you need to tell him how you feel, what you want out of your relationship with him, and then show and tell him how you are different from his ex!
2006-09-16 12:37:05 · answer #1 · answered by crazz_32 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it means that he is trying to open up to you, not only because you he is pretty sure you will listen. He is also telling you those things because he likes you back but is afraid and being aprehensive of getting in another relationship due to the last one that broke his heart.
Here is what I think, if it is decided that you both like eachother which I think it is then you should listen to him for a little while. Tell him that he needs to move on (respectfully ofcourse LOL) and then you should hook up.
Some tell tell signs will be if he is responsive to that. If he just continues talking about his ex then you shouldn't tolerate it. Nobody wants to only hear about that garbage right? Afterall it is the past, move on, and learn from your mistakes... thats what I would tell him!
I know because I am sort of in that position right now. It has been three yrs since I have had a girlfriend (since high school) she did some really awful things and I had no clue until it all happened. Anyway, here I am telling a stranger that already has to listen to stories like this. Anyway, my point is that I don't want to impose upon a lovely young lady because of what happened to me in the past. But it is taking awhile to get over!
Give him some time based on how long they were together and make your decision. But don't waiste your precious time! Best of luck!
-Mr. Concerned-
2006-09-16 12:43:59 · answer #2 · answered by Beano4aReason 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you're a good listener and he needs someone to talk to! Don't let yourself get to involved here, which it looks like you could be doing!Don't think he's ready for another relationship because he's telling you what he "doesn't want! If you keep getting yourself in deeper and deeper with him and he "can't return those same feelings , you're the one who's going to end up getting hurt!He's a man and right now he has needs and if your willing to satisfy those needs thinking it's something more than what it is, you'll be the one headed for the heartache. Think twice about this! You can be his "friend" and you can listen, and you can give your advice , but i would let him know if he wanted anything more than that , that you weren't available until he can move on and put the last relationship behind him.
2006-09-16 13:08:34 · answer #3 · answered by noditz57 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just ask HIM what it means to him? No one here can tell you if he just sees you as a friend, or if he likes you as more....and certainly, only he knows where he stands with his past relationship. Best you ask him instead of risking misreading the situation & getting yourself hurt. Don't let it build up into the elephant in the room, better to just talk about it now before expactations get too high.
2006-09-16 12:40:25 · answer #4 · answered by MonsterMash 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be straight with him, tell him you have listened enough to his problems. Tell him you were a good friend and listened to them for X amount of time and now he must be the good friend and put it all in the past. Tell him that you have offered your shoulder to cry on and that he has ended up using your back to walk over. Say that you know that he knows that you like him but that you won't be taken advantage of, that a real friend wouldn't take advantage.
2006-09-16 12:44:02 · answer #5 · answered by BLANK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is trying to see if you will be that person for him, also I can tell you from being a guy who has been hurt it is nice to have someone to vent to that you can trust and cares about you.
2006-09-16 12:41:04 · answer #6 · answered by jbrown280000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this means that he is still dealing with the emotional bagage that his last relationship left behind. He may not even be consious of what he's doing. He also might see you as a friend and may trust your judgement as such. If he is not sending "I'm into you" signals, he might still have feelings for his ex. Be polite, be honest, and pull away slowly. His actions after that point will show you how hw really feels.
2006-09-16 12:40:23 · answer #7 · answered by REBEKAH L P 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It means you've become his close friend and confidante. It may also mean that he's indirectly giving you pointers about what he would like from a girl so that if you are really interested in him you can show him that by taking his suggestions to heart.
Good luck.
2006-09-16 12:59:14 · answer #8 · answered by Magina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not over the other person yet. Hang in there if it is meant to be it will happen. Remember u have 2 ears and one mouth
2006-09-16 12:37:46 · answer #9 · answered by prizelady88 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That means that he is not over that relationship yet and is not ready to move on with a new one.
2006-09-16 12:36:36 · answer #10 · answered by looking for the left eye 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋