Are parents these days not strict enough?

Question

What is your opinon? And serious answers only please.

Answer 1

The real question is: are parents these days involved enough.

Kids are being raised by daycares, ballet teachers, soccer coaches and school teachers. Since they are all paid, the kids feel entitled. That sense of entitlement is skewing their world-view.

The threat that being strict implies is mis-guided because it is only necessary to be strict when that child misbehaves or there is doubt about their ability to behave in a situation.

Raising a child is dependent on "time spent", hopefully being taught to read, write and manners. Time well spent is the basis for a relationship which will lead to trust and responsibility.

The need for strict rules is only a reaction to a child untamed and poorly raised. This never would have happened if Grandma lived in the house! he he

Answer 2

I see some parents that are too strict, but the majority of parents are not strict enough. Everyone needs to learn boundaries, some children are mature minded while others are not. Depending on the child, I had three children, two boys and one girl, the girl acquired less boundaries than the boys. I was fortunate enough that my children enjoyed talking to me about their problems. Believe me some of the things they told me I was amazed they would say to me, but I was proud they did because I felt that I had done something right. I believe that talking to your children and having a relationship where they are not afraid to tell you something without you "blowing your lid", is priceless. Children are going to make mistakes, being too strict is a dangerous thing, but not being strict enough is also dangerous. Don't say no to everything they ask, compromise. If you daughter wants to date at 15 and you want her to wait until she is 16 then compromise by telling her she can invite the young man over one night a week. I never allowed my sons to wear baggy pants that hung down to their knees but would allow them to camp out overnight 5 miles from home. You just have to evaluate the situation.

Answer 3

Some parents are and others aren't. It is hard in now with both parents working. Though I am very strict with my children and even their friends say that. I tell my children that I am the way I am because I love and care for them. They have things taken away, time outs, talks, and a light tap on the behind if needed. (which doesn' t happen much). They aren't to happy now but they will be thankful later in life.

Answer 4

Not so much strict, but there's a LOT of parents who don't spend time with their kids. There's kids in my development, and not teenagers, elementary schoolers, out and about at ALL hours of the day and night. Growing up, I had to be home for dinner at a certain time, and if I went out after dinner, I had a definite time to be home. There's many families who don't eat a meal together. There's many kids who don't have rules or structure or even know what's appropriate when.
THAT's the problem.

Answer 5

Each parent has their own parenting style. With the way laws and such are said to be set up. Parents I think take a less active role then before. They have less options for discipline. I myself hold a tight hold on my children, they do get spanked if the need is appropriate. They are also spoken to and help figure out what actions should be taken when they have done wrong, and how it can be fixed.

Answer 6

YES YES YES

Bring back stay at home moms, and old fashioned spankings.

Two major areas children are laking today.

1. Time, love and attention with there parents, quality time! to many daycare kids makes them look for attention elsewhere.

2. After time and attention, children are not getting enough discipline and punishment. This is the society we live in. they need to be taught for every wrong they do, there is a negative consequence. If the children are getting enough time, attention, and love then the best cure for bratty children is a old fashioned spanking

Answer 7

Some parents do need to be more strict, I will agree with you on that. I have seen the results of not being strict enough firsthand as a babysitter. I have also seen the results of being strict and the kids do pretty good as long as it isn't that bad.

Answer 8

I seriously think that parents are not strict enough. I am tired of going somewhere and seeing kids throw huge fits and I'm also tired of hearing people talk about how their child doesn't seem to respect them or doesn't listen to them. Rules and consequences for breaking those rules are necessary to raise children with self-control, manners, and respect for others and for rules. Parents are the ones allowing their children to become the very things they don't want them to be. Start young and they'll really respect your authority and rules.

Answer 9

Back then in the 90s, my parents would let me go to the park and late out night at little boys house, and pretty much do anything i wanted to do when i was only 10 years old. But then as i grew up, they wouldn't let me do anything anymore, i had to stay home only. But see, back then, it was alittle safer, cause now you have all these child predators out there everywhere. Isn't it horrible. One other thing is that, kids these days have such awful teeth, they're all rotten and deformed. Whats up with that, their parents need to take them off the bottle and cut out on those candies and soda.

Answer 10

Well my opinion is that there are too many of each.
Too many parents who could care less about what there child is doing or who there doing. Too many parents care a little too much, and they really dont let there child have a decent childhood. Then there are the parents who are in between.
There strict about important things, and laid-back about the non-important things.