If a girl finds out you been to the psych ward for depression is that pretty much a total turn off?

Question

It happened to me and my girlfriend acted like she didn't even know me..really cold. I had to tell her because I was gone for a week. I've lost a few other friends that found out. The problem is that now I am scared to talk about any of my problems with anyone. It seems to be a bad move to me...can anyone relate?

Answer 1

It's not a total turn off to the right person. I'm sorry you're going through this, but your girlfriend sounds immature and insensitive. If she truly cared about you, it wouldn't matter at all. When my husband and I were dating, I found out something similar about him and I wanted to do everything in my power to help him.

Answer 2

There is a stigma when people find out that you have visited the psych ward. Many of us are very careful who they tell about their diagnosis and wait to discuss it until we know our friends very, very well. This probably does not help the problem because until people are educated about the mentally ill, they will continue to be biased against anyone with a problem. For example, manic-depressive illness is now called bipolar because of the bad rep that television and movies gave the illness in the past. Bipolar is more descriptive than manic which makes people think of total irrational crazies along with the depression that people are confused about, too.

That girl is ignorant and incredibly stupid if she thinks that the fact that you were in the psych ward for a week should change your relationship for the worse. If anything, she should be happy for you and your relationship should be better since you have had and are now getting treatment. She is not good enough for you! You will find someone who is kind, compassionate and who understands,

Answer 3

It seems like your girlfriend wasn't much of a friend. I mean come on! At least you were man enough to admit that you had a problem and sought help for it! I know so many people that are leaving their problems unsolved/not getting help for them and it sucks. I don't understand how it's acceptable to have a problem and not be doing a damned thing about it but people who actually try to do something about it are stigmatized and made to be a source of ridicule.

Yes, I'll get off my soapbox for now. Just know that you're not alone and good for you for making a healthy decision. I've been in your shoes and having someone you thought you could trust turn on you is not really a fun situation.

:-)

Answer 4

People who do not understand the causes and cures for mental illnesses sometimes do not know how to react around those of us who deal with it daily. Their prejudice or bigotry is not about you, it is about how they relate to your disease or diagnosis.

You are actually doing yourself a favor by being REAL about why you were out of school for a week. There is no reason to hide form others because you have a disability which is psychological rather than physical.

I have been Bi-Polar II since adolescence [19] and am now 45 years of age. Reality is some people will know how to deal with you for who you are, and others will not. That is not a judgment against you - it is an indication of their character and development at this stage.

Be strong! Develop new friends! Talk to your psychologist about support groups for teens who are like you. You are not alone, and you should never be ashamed or hide from others who you are!

Godspeed!

Answer 5

I wouldn't because I've been to a psych ward before and I know the stigma about it. I would find it interesting for a person to be in the hospital and how they thought they were treated and what the dr said to do after they got released and I talk about my experience and stuff like that.We could be support system for each other and talk and share are feelings. I don't think it's a turn off.

Answer 6

If your girl didn't know that you were having problems, and neither did your friends, then don't you think that there is something wrong with that? I wouldn't have a problem with that, but I think that you should wait a while in a new relationship before you let that out of the bag. There is nothing wrong with going into a phych ward. At least you sought help. Remember that.

Answer 7

It wouldn't be a turn off for me. I get depressed and in fact it seems everyone is depressed anymore. Nothing wrong with going to a hospital for help. Maybe your girl has a problem...and what kind of friends would turn away from you when you need them the most? Hope you get better. Good Luck.

Answer 8

i think that is shocking these people who were like that when you told them are very shallow people and you are better off without them you know who real friends are in a situation like that. There is a total stigma when it comes to mental health and there should'nt be schools and parents should be educating people about mental health thats the whole problem some people are so ignorant when it comes to mental health and it should'nt be made out that having depression and/or other mental illnesses is something that you should not be ashamed of after all it can happen to us at any time my advice to you is dont be ashamed of it and ignore these ignorant people all the best

Answer 9

It makes us sense significantly better even as the girl asks us out. It saves us the artwork of being rejected and it positive does get a lot extra relationships going even as both the adult men and the girls are prepared to placed themselves obtainable. So no this is not a turn off in any respect

Answer 10

depression is a natural thing that can affect anyone from teens to new mums - if its part of who you are then dont be ashamed of it as there are millions of people in the world who suffer from at some time in their life. If your friends can't handle the real you then you need new friends! There are loads of groups out there that you can join to learn new things who don't need to know about your past - when you finally meet someone you can trust completely - tell them and if they trust you too - they will not run away!