My dad past away jan 7/05 and i have been by mom's side ever since.Mom has 2 discal injuries in the back. Her mom( my granny) cant walk nor see. I look over both of them. I also tutored my little sister who thankfully graduated high school.I helepd mom moved, did all her errands, found her a family doctor, etc. Now did i did all that was needed, I wish to start my life again.Well, I have not been working for over a year now. It hurts! Been looking everywhere and still no luck. I also wish to move out. Im tired of being blamed for everything. I dont understand why Im still here. I prayed and ask god for help and its like he is ignoring my prayers. All prayers that were answered where pertaining to others. I dont understand. I'm feeling burned out. The last few weeks I have been feeling weak, like my body was too heavy for me. I only eat once a day. I was feeling so tired that i wanted to take a nap but my heart beat where weird. Like it was slowing down and it scared me.
2006-09-16 12:18:23 · 3 answers · asked by liipl 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
My granny aso has dementia and i have no one to help me with taking care of her. I'm at the end of my rope. All i want is a place of my own. an apartment and a job. I want to rest!!! Why is god ignoring me I dont what to do anymore. I feel at a dead end!
2006-09-16 12:19:56 · update #1
It isn't more than you can handle, or else you would be dead.
Have you sought God's will? That is, what is your guidance here? Has it been God's will that you tend to others? If so, then you are serving God. You need to take care of yourself in the process, and if you need a rest, you are allowed to take one. I have spent lots of time in my life tending to others who were sick (including dementia, cancer, congestive heart failure, stroke, pneumonia, and other things), and it was hard, but it was God's will that I serve, and so I did. And when it was finished, I rested. What you are experiencing will not last forever, either way.
I suggest that you see a doctor regarding your problems with weakness, poor appetite, and strange heartbeat. You need to tend to your own health while you are tending to that of others.
If it is self-will or others' will that you tend to all of these details, you need to step out of the service game for now. If you are being blamed for everything--i.e., if there is no gratitude for what you have been doing--you may be locked into others' will for you, which is not a good thing.
How does one know the difference? Pray for guidance. Pray that God reveal his will to you. Pray that he give you the strength to carry out his will, once you find what it is.
Do you have a faith community? Seek counsel there too.
2006-09-16 12:30:13 · answer #1 · answered by Gestalt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sweetheart reading this is like reading something i wrote myself
my father passed in january from lung cancer and my mother has just had a stroke and suffering paralysis in her spinal cord affecting her legs
i have a sister who isnt dealing with things too well and is making herself ill with worry also
i dont eat well and am tired constantly
but you know i think some of us in life are here to care for others unselfishly and because we love caring for people ... you i feel are one of these beautiful people
and without people like you .. who would care
right now though i am in the process of getting extra care for mum ... home helps .. visiting nurses ..
just to take the pressure off a little
i feel you need this type of help also ... can you see about doing that ? is that an option ?
because God wants you to care ... but you have to be fit and well to do so
please look after yourself and get that support
love to you xxxx
2006-09-16 19:25:30 · answer #2 · answered by Peace 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its gods plan
http://www.whywontgodhealamputees.com/video3.htm
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dzzORZhnCao&mode=related&search=
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BH0rFZIqo8A
http://www.whywontgodhealamputees.com/video2.htm
2006-09-16 19:22:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋