Been with this guy for 4 years. Great relationship. Have known him for 14 years. only thing is he went to jail 2 years ago for 10 months i waited for him and we started off right where we left off. In March he went to prison for 1-7 years. He might get out next march but it might even be March 2008. We dont know when he will get to come home. What should I do.. What is the longest you think to wait for a man who went to prison? I feel as though he is my soul mate and it is a non-violent offense he is not a bad person at all just made a bad choice....what u think?
2006-09-16 12:12:38 · 15 answers · asked by Lova L 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yea we are both addicts.. how the hell did u know?? LOL
2006-09-16 12:19:21 · update #1
No he is not only in love with me while he is there. There was 2 years we were together before he went back..
2006-09-16 12:21:07 · update #2
His offense is receiving and conceling stolen goods.
And not "smokin" nothin.....
2006-09-16 12:27:48 · update #3
If you feel like waiting, wait, but if you don't, don't. However, I do think you're wasting a lot of your life on someone who doesn't care enough about himself, or about you, to keep out of trouble. If this is his second time in jail, he did not make "a" bad choice, he made TWO bad choices, and probably many, many more, since most people don't get caught every time they do something illegal. Is this really the kind of person you want to commit yourself to? If you do decide to get back with him when he gets out this time, I think you should tell him that this is his last chance, that you will not wait for him to get out of jail/prison a third time.
2006-09-16 12:23:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've been in the same situation and wondered so many times what should be done. We were together for 6 years and we are not now and he is in jail again. It depends on how mush of his life he has been playing this game (the back and forth thing) and when he plans on stopping. I loved him a lot too, but you can only deal with stuff like this for so long. Now I am not saying to leave him because it is all up to you, but an on and off relationship can make life hard for you and very lonely. Think about things, ask questions (to him) and you will get your answer. Good luck.
2006-09-16 19:27:06 · answer #2 · answered by tanya d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not the man for you. Someone who loves you would do anything to protect and nurture you. This type of person is a manipulative type who only wants to use you as a crutch. When he no longer needs or wants you, he will leave. You deserve a man who will be there for you and help you in your life. When this man gets out of jail, where and what is he going to do? go back to school, get a decent job, or continue on this path of making bad choices. You can stop and make a choice for your self. Go do something to better your self.
2006-09-18 02:13:58 · answer #3 · answered by Eddie G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And what happens the next time he goes back? He seems to have made some bad choices very close together. You think he would have learned the first time. If you are both "addicts", I think you both need to do some serious REHAB....and get your lives in order. Not to mention, things happen in prisions. Men get raped by other men....who knows what has happend in there to him, and if he would even tell you. I think you need to get clean, and move on with your life. I don't think you should put your life on hold for this person.
2006-09-16 19:31:09 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both need help. No matter what he went to prison for this is twice that you say who is to say how many more times. Wouldn't you like a stable life ? What ever you are smokin is not doing it. Take a cold shower and move on. Good Luck.
2006-09-16 19:24:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I don't believe in waiting for a person who commits a crime and chooses to go to prison even if it was a non-violent crime. Did he think about you before he chose a path of crime? Did he worry about you having to put your life on hold? I can't make your decision for you however, are you positive he will even want to stay with you when he gets out? Men are always in love when they are in prison then when they come out most only stay with the girl who stood by them for a short time before moving on.
2006-09-16 19:19:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart. Also, what if he gets out and turns around and goes back? Do you want to live your life with someone that is in prison most of the time? This is his second time, chances are it won't be his last. Is he an addict? Even if he gets out of prison, it doesn't mean he'll stay clean and living with an addict is worse than him in prison and you out here.
2006-09-16 19:16:35 · answer #7 · answered by wellbeing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't appear he's a real quick learner. If he's the only man you can snag by all means stick with him. I'd be interested in knowing what his offenses were, that you were careful not to mention.
Sounds to me like you both deserve each other ... Do you think they don't have drugs in prison?
2006-09-16 19:24:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been down this road so i will be truthful with you.
You will have to debate this yourself but whatever you choose PLEASE be honest with that man along the way because as time goes by feelings and people change and there's no guarantee that a relationship will continue when he comes home.
He will be more hurt to think he has your support & faithfullness when he really doesn't. Good Luck.
2006-09-16 19:50:49 · answer #9 · answered by NicNac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes its hard to be a woman
Giving all your love to just one man
You'll have bad times
And he'll have good times
Doing things that you don't understand
But if you love him you'll forgive him
Even though he's hard to understand
And if you love him
Oh be proud of him
'Cause after all he's just a man
Stand by your man
Give him two arms to cling to
And something warm to come to
When nights are cold and lonely
Stand by your man
And tell the world you love him
Keep giving all the love you can
Stand by your man
Stand by your man
And show the world you love him
Keep giving all the love you can
Stand by your man
2006-09-16 19:15:33 · answer #10 · answered by Matthew Shlmn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋