my daughter 7yrs. old,ready to sleepover to a friend's house?

Question

one of her classmate sleeps over in our house.She's also being invited,my answer's always maybe one time.Somehow I don't want my girl to go.But she loves to.I still help her to clean herself before she goes to bed.And I can't imagine it she won't be there one night.She's never been seperated from us.Wouldn't be the other parents offended,if I will tell them it's too early for her?

Answer 1

To me it really depends on how well you know the whole family that she is staying with. Family should be okay, and only very close friends.

Answer 2

I understand what you are saying. It is hard letting go, as they are only young once. Before we know it their world, which once centered around us, will soon center around their friends. I would suggest making your descision according to where your daughter is at now- if she is ready. If decide based on your feelings you may find she will resent you. The most important thing to look at is will she be safe and comfortable. My daughter was 6 when she was first invited to a sleepover, but as it turned out I did not have to make a descision then as we were going out of town that weekend. It seemed like the year flew by and she was being invited to the same house again. As it turned out, I did let her go, despite my worries. The family is one that I know well, so I knew she would be safe, and she definitely wanted to go. That didn't stop me from hanging out for about 45 minutes when I dropped her off, or from calling 5 or 6 times. I probably drove my friend crazy, but she understood my concerns. I don't know that a classmate's mother that I didn't know well would be as understanding of all my calls. But if that had been the situation, I probably would not have sent her, letting her know that I need to meet the family before I'd feel safe sending her overnight. I think most parents would understand if you said your daughter was not ready, and if they didn't then these are not the type of people I would send my daughter to stay with anyway. I never realized until her 7th birthday that people would just drop their kids off at a birthday party! I guess you have to be more specific on invitations. Anyway, my daughter was fine and now I enjoy the occassional nights off (she happens to be at her grandparents' tonight). I still call, but I am starting to enjoy having the opportunity for some time with my other children or my husband. Good luck.

Answer 3

I feel the same EXACT way you are feeling.....my daughter had a playdate over her friends house last night and when they did not answer when i called at 7 pm, i was freaking out..I am so close to her, i have raised her for 8 years by myself...finally, they called and said you can come and get her, it was 9 pm!!!! They asked her to sleep over and she said NO, i do not have my "stuff"...she is too young....i want to keep watch over her, I will let her sleep over her cousins house but not friends house cuz you just never know what could happen...I also, still wash my daughter before bedtime and set up her dixie cup with water and toothpaste on her toothbrush....She is only little for a while...I don't care what other people say. She is independent, i just like helping her and she does not mind. good luck

Answer 4

It's time to losen the grip alittle mom. As long as you know the oother childs parent she will be fine. Also she is old enough to bath herself at seven. My daughter is 8 and has been showering alone for more then a year. That's also the way she learned that she never takes her cloths off in front of others.

Answer 5

My oldest has been going to sleepovers since he was 3. But both families he has stayed with are people we know very well. I wouldn't let him stay with someone I didn't know very well. If you are not comfortable with this family then I see no reason to not let her go and I wouldn't consider whether or not they are offended. She is your child and you have to do what feels right. If this bothers you so much then maybe you should just continue to let her friends sleep over at your house.

Answer 6

it sounds like it is too early for you
unless you know these parents very, very well, I would not allow my child to sleep over regardless of how old
do you know whether or not the family has a fire-plan, for example?
can your child call you independently; is she capable and permitted?
have you been inside the home she is visiting?

there are so many reasons not to have sleep-overs and no real reasons to have them
I would put an end to having the other child sleep in my home as well, so that there is consistency.
Kids of 7 years of age don't need to spend nights out or over, there is plenty of time for them to play together


until you are comfortable with it, do not allow her to sleep over
and until both children can sleep in each others' homes, do not allow any sleep overs at your home

save yourself a lot of heartache for very little benefit

Answer 7

You have to go with what is right for you, but if the friends parents are responsible and you have no worries there sleepovers can be fun and your child learns to socialise and see what other families lives are like. You can phone and say goodnight to your child and then phone again in the morning if youare concerned

Answer 8

Your daughter is seven now...not two or three. I think it's time to let her grow up! Now, it's just a sleepover, but eventually she'll want to do these things on her own! She can't be a baby forever. If you treat her like one, she'll never learn to be independent and be pretty miserable as a teenager. Seriously, it's better to let her grow up and learn things the hard way...she'll be happy you did when she's grown.

Answer 9

me personally i have let my 6 year old have sleep overs but only at children places where i know the parents i always leave a contact number and tell them please ring my if she wants to come home or there is anything wrong i alway get their number and ring before bedtime [really just to check up]to say good nite and sleep well.... but really if she is fine with it and u know the parents let her go and really ur daughter is 7 shouldnt she be washing and cleaning herself?????

Answer 10

No it's not about the other parent's getting offended if she wants to come home. It's about her being safe and secure. A child should be able to call home and say "come and get me" anytime.