Im smart and pretty, but I am also really shy. It is hard for me to meet random guys, but they dont even seem to notice me. Im 20 and have never had a boyfriend before. People tell me I am too quiet and that guys are intimidated cuz I am smart, but how can I meet guys without being too desperate looking or forward?
2006-09-16 12:06:57 · 14 answers · asked by Susan 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I used to be really shy, and I mean "Really shy".
the best thing is to come out of your shell and speak your mind when you feel like it. and people will like you a lot more because of it
2006-09-16 12:12:18 · answer #1 · answered by Zombie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay. Not to be cliche or anything, but...
You need to love yourself. You need to be comfortable with who you are. And then, you need to BE who you are. There is nothing different you need to do to attract a serious boyfriend. You don't need to change who you are, you don't need to do anything you wouldn't do... you just need to accept who you are and dispense with your worry that you don't conform to what the guy your talking to wants you to be... Be yourself and love yourself, and that will give others the ability to love you as well...
(I assume you're looking for a serious relationship... if you're just looking for a quick month-long fling or something, the easiest way to do that is just be forward. you can always find a guy willing to hang around for a month or so... but be warned, this is not fullfilling, and really doesn't do anyone in the relationship any good. You don't need to have a boyfriend. Wait for someone you can feel deeply for...)
2006-09-16 12:15:12 · answer #2 · answered by whatifiwasreallygod 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm smart as hell too and it doesn't intimidate men, it turns them on. You need to be more outgoing to attract a guy, but you would probably consider that to be forward. Good luck
2006-09-16 12:08:38 · answer #3 · answered by caribbeanbabe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be desperate, you got a whole life ahead of you. I'm thirteen and I got boyfriends even with your problem of being shy and smart and pretty. Have confidence, have patience. Good luck with it all!
2006-09-16 12:13:08 · answer #4 · answered by Read n' Write 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can never understand this from women - most blokes I know would count themselves lucky to go out with someone like you - maybe you should ask someone out you like - that isn't desperate - and is only "forward" if you go back to the 1930s.
Anyway good luck.
2006-09-16 12:24:56 · answer #5 · answered by MB42 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello booklover,
Put down the books and get involved in more social groups, where you can be seen more. You could also try to dress a little more to attract men. Just one blouse that's more sexy will attract guys. You won't have to do anything.
Best of luck to you.
--Rick
2006-09-16 12:26:23 · answer #6 · answered by rickrudge 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you won't fall hopeless ..I'm sure you'll find the guy that you would like to love and to be loved by him .. may you only be rather patient .. and keep trying to be yourself ..
I suggest that you may act normally , and try to make friendships with guys around you .. and you'll find by the days that you are going close to that one or the other ... then you may choose ..
good luck.
2006-09-16 12:16:34 · answer #7 · answered by horras 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter has the same problem and I tell her to be always herself and to do what she likes and go to places which are interesting to her and to wear clothes in which she feels comfortable. If you start doing things you think boys like but do not like them yourself then you could atract boys that you will not like and feel umcomfortable with. On the contrary if you behave natural and proyects what you really are it could be easier to find boys interested in the same thigs that you. She is also really smart and yes the boys feel intimidated but you can not act like if you were not so smart. Please do not try to go out with someone if you do not like him just to have someone to go with! It could hurt his feeings and make you feel really bad. Just try to get involved in activities that you relly like and so you can meet boys to whom you coul d make friends with.
2006-09-16 12:24:23 · answer #8 · answered by AMAYI 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to try. try not to be so shy. just go up to guys. if you guys don't hit it off, then you never have to see him again. just take a risk. go for it, & if you fail, there's always a next time.
2006-09-16 12:12:33 · answer #9 · answered by kels 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do, i see so much worth in you. Please, let me spend just 15 minutes with u and i will try 2 convince u that u have plenty worth as a human being
2006-09-16 12:13:22 · answer #10 · answered by grossman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋