...that my biological mother had several abortions after she had my sister and I.
I'm crying now because my mother killed my own siblings... They never got a chance to live, and I don't think anyone has mourned their deaths until now. All I can do is pray that God will have mercy on them...
How can anyone keep a straight face while saying that abortion is ok?
2006-09-16 12:01:16 · 22 answers · asked by Dysthymia 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
As for my biological mother, she is my "mother" in name only from this day forth... She's done other bad things but this time she crossed the line.
(And no, I'm not making this up, I'm deadly serious about all of it.)
2006-09-16 12:06:08 · update #1
My mother is not born again. She is unrepentant of what she did.
2006-09-16 12:06:59 · update #2
Why is it my business? Because I'm their big sister! They are my business just as my living sister is my business. Excuse me if I want to be a big sister to them and give them the attention that they haven't gotten before!
Oh, and who gives a crap about my grammar.
2006-09-16 12:13:32 · update #3
My dear, I am so sorry for your loss. The only way people can say that abortion is ok is that they are either deceived and don't believe that the unborn truly are living souls, or they are so hard-hearted that they don't care because they are selfishly motivated.
I had a miscarriage early in my only confirmed pregnancy. However, the doctor said he thought that I had others which I had lost as well.
It took me 14 years to accept not being able to have children and really grieve my loss. I woke up one night and wrote a description of what I thought my little girl would have been like in personality and looks. Then, my husband and I prayed together and read the description and gave her to the Lord.
Just to encourage you, on our wedding night, the Bible in our motel room was open to the scripture "All your children shall be taught of the Lord." Since all little ones are innocent, born or aborted, their souls go straight to the Lord for His tender care and because of that scripture, I believe that my children and your siblings are being taught personally by Him. Bless you.
2006-09-16 12:19:22 · answer #1 · answered by Songbird 3 · 4⤊ 2⤋
I can keep a straight face and say that abortions are ok. Would you rather your siblings were born into a family that could not or would not care for them? I think the human population is too big, we need to stop being so sentimental about "potential life"
Through your logic, an egg is a potential life so put it this way - YOU are aborting a potential baby each and every time you have a period. Feel bad now? Fair enough, it would be good to see people take responsibility and not get pregnant in the first place, but hey, we're designed to breed, and we do it very efficiently. I'd rather abort a foetus I could not care for than have it and give that child a crap life.
For goodness sake, life is too short to take this out on your mother! Fair enough, practise your religion. But do you not see that the stigma over abortion is just another woman-opressing trick. Doesn't matter to men. They can cut and run after junior is born. But it keeps the women in check. Keep them pregnant (because that's all they're good for) so then, they won't have time for education. Would you still do this to your mother had she been raped and been impregnated that way? I don't know how old you are, but grow up and realise she's your only mother and when she's dead, she's dead. You don't get another.
2006-09-16 19:07:31 · answer #2 · answered by Xenophonix 3 · 5⤊ 5⤋
I'm sorry that you had to learn about this ...I'm sure it is hard to deal with....but you are not your mother and she did what she did for her own reasons......I am against abortion myself...but your mom has to deal with what she has done and that I'm sure is hurting her deep down inside....maybe she isn't showing it ....but I don't see how anyone can go through that and not have feelings about it...just because you don't see them doesn't mean she hasn't battle greatly over her decisions.....you siblings are with God...they were children and didn't get a chance to experience life fully but they are with God...he doesn't reject the children....His mercy is with them and they are safe and happy.....
I know you have some things to sort out in your heart and mind about what was done and who did these things...but I pray you can move forward and forgive...we all must forgive and after all Jesus will forgive your mom ...you are not better than He so you have to work out your forgiveness too with your mom.....grieve and heal and then move on....God Bless
2006-09-16 19:22:34 · answer #3 · answered by shiningon 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
There are several instances in the bible that state that it is better to never have lived, than to live a life of misery.
If your mother did not want more children, she would not have treated you siblings as a mother should. Therefore, they are better off never having known this misery.
Like someone said, they are with god now, and you will be united someday. Your mother will be judged by god in the end, so you don't need to judge her.
2006-09-16 19:10:56 · answer #4 · answered by Danzarth 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Sweetie, so sorry that this weighs so heavily on you right now. Ask your mother for an answer as to why she made that choice.
There may be reasons she has not told you (due to your maturity reasons?).. maybe financial, or otherwise.
Please remember that this was HER choice and SHE has had to deal w/ this for a long time. She has come to her own way of dealing w/ her choice.
You really should try not to judge her.That is for some higher being to do on her personal judgement day.
She is still your mom and she has her reasons.
Try talking to her when she is calmer and you are calmer as well.
Good luck
2006-09-16 19:07:16 · answer #5 · answered by rennes89 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
A personal story about abortion:
I wanted my sister to have an abortion when she was pregnant with my niece, who i now love to death. I feel awful about it. She is so smart and beautiful and I suggested my sister abort her. I am still sick with myself over it. People can say well it wasnt your niece yet, but that is BS, it was her. I know that because since she didnt have an abortion the same egg, fetus, whatever you'd like to call it is now a beautiful 12 year old girl.
This is my personal experience and opinion, and I think people think of abortion as a "choice" when its not a choice people should have access to. However, i'd prefer people had abortions then killed or ruined their kids they dont want in other ways. I think.
But there are many people out there who want to adopt. Jeez, just give the kids up for adoption people..
2006-09-16 19:06:38 · answer #6 · answered by andyfox1979 3 · 5⤊ 3⤋
dear one God has had mercy on those little ones... the word tells us that he knew us before he put us in our mothers wombs. Those little ones are innocents and are with the Lord even now as we speak. As for your mother we will be keeping her in prayer that she come to know the Lord and accept him, in the meanwhile you need to remember to forgive her.. yes i know her actions have caused you pain... but no more pain than any of our actions have caused the Lord. He commands us to forgive. And while you may believe that this is too hard right now... remember he said in order to be forgiven we must forgive. If you feel that the hurt is too great for you to be able to forgive her... remember that he can... Simply ask him for the strength .... his strength ... to forgive her through you. Then after you have forgiven her... pray for her.. pray for her daily.
Dont fear for your siblings that are departed from this world... they are with the Lord for now and always... pray for those here that live that need him in their lives .
God bless you dear one will be praying for your comfort and for your mother.
2006-09-16 19:25:29 · answer #7 · answered by PreacherTim63(SFECU) 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
my mother had an abortion when i was 7 .. i helped her recover physically and emotionally
it was the only thing she could have done at the time and i understand the circumstances
maybe asking the circumstances your mother was in to make her do something that no doubt hurt her very much ?
2006-09-16 19:08:51 · answer #8 · answered by Peace 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
You make a very good point - praying for your unborn siblings would be ok - but children (especially ones that are unborn) have never sinned and therefore are with God in Paradise. This does not mean it is OK that children or unborn babies dying is good.
From JohnFourteen.com:
"The doctrine that a baby is born with the stain of the sin of Adam and his parents upon him is known as "original sin". It concludes that a little baby who has never personally sinned is forever condemned to hell unless that infant is baptized. Neither the expression "original sin" nor the idea it represents is found in the Bible. God's word teaches the opposite. "The soul that sinneth, it shall die. The son shall not bear the iniquity of the father, neither shall the father bear the iniquity of the son." (Ezek. 18:20) In other words, a child is not accountable for his parents' sins."
"If babies were born sinners, Jesus would not have chosen them as examples for us to follow. "Except ye be converted, and become as little children, ye shall not enter into the kingdom of heaven." (Matt. 18:3) Surely Jesus is not exhorting His disciples to become like sin-blackened children doomed to everlasting punishment. We are the "offspring of God" (Acts 17:29) and our spirits have been given by God. (Ecc. 12:7) Were the doctrine of original sin true these passages would imply that we inherit original sin from God Himself which cannot be since God is perfect."
2006-09-16 19:12:21 · answer #9 · answered by Gladiator 5 · 2⤊ 3⤋
You sound like my brother. So self righteous that the "sins" and mistakes of your own mother disgusts you. Has it ever occurred to you that her having the abortions was the best thing she could've done for you and your family? Just know that you're not the picture of blameless perfection and that you judging her just based on something you don't agree with is just plain stupid and immature. Grow the f u c k up.
2006-09-16 19:15:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 4⤋