My best friend just turned 40 and is engaged; never been married, no children. She is very hesitant to have a big wedding (lotta bridesmaids, elaborate gown, etc) because of her age and wants to know what kind of wedding is considered "good" taste for someone her age. Etiquette is really important to her. Any ideas? I can't really help her out since I don't know.....Wedding is planned for early 2007.
2006-09-16 11:56:01 · 11 answers · asked by IndigoSasha 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I am 41 and just got married for the first time! Let me explain that if it is your first time, You do the wedding YOUR WAY!!!!!!!!!! Do not let anyone tell you diffrent. I had a beautiful wedding with the wedding venue DJ, cake, and the works, I refused to cheat myself of anything just because I'm 41! It was absolutely beautiful and I would do it again if I had the chance (with the same man of course). Log on to wedding channel.com you will find a lot of ladies out there that are in there 40's and who feel the same! Good Luck and don't let anyone tell YOU how to do your wedding EXCEPT YOU!!!!!
2006-09-16 13:43:26 · answer #1 · answered by musiclover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion it doesn't matter how big she has the wedding or how small. I was 28 years old when I got married and my bridal party consist of 2 bridesmaids, 1 junior bridesmaid, and maid of honor. I did not want a lot of bridesmaids etc. either because I am not into the big wedding parties. My friend got married 2 years ago at age 39 and she had 1 matron, 2 bridesmaids (and same for groomsmen) and her wedding was very elegant, short and to the point. Anyway, let your friend know it depends on what she wants, it doesn't matter how old she is.
2006-09-16 20:04:14 · answer #2 · answered by Shay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married at 40 years old. My first and Only! I had a beautiful beach front ceremony at sunrise with about 100 guest. I did it my way. Maid of Honor, Bridesmaid, Nice white gown, Tux's for the guys, and all the normal Wedding traditions. It was everything I had dreamed of. Tell your friend to do what ever makes her happy. It doesn't matter how old she is. It is her day. Make it special to her and her husband to be. We have been married now for 14 years, and we still talk about how wonderful our wedding was. Congrats to your friend. I know her day will be special. Go all out! It's her 1 shot to make those memories.
2006-09-17 11:30:32 · answer #3 · answered by ASTORROSE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married at 40, my second. Did the whole "big" thing the first time at ages 22 and would have preferred the quieter version the second time but my second husband hadn't married before so we did the "big" thing that time too. Whatever she wants is good.
It all depends where the wedding will take place. Will it be near a beach, a nice park, in the mountains? Will it infact be an indoor or outdoor ceremony? Hope whatever she chooses that she and her husband will be happy and healthy.
2006-09-16 19:07:09 · answer #4 · answered by sinned 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
regardless of age & whether it is a 1st wedding or not - everyone should have the type of wedding that they ( the couple) wants.
after all it IS their day.
It doesn't need to be a big production to be a memorable day.
my best friend got married at 40 -1st time- she & her partner walked to the church together hand in hand - they were both positively beaming( it was a joy to see)- no attendants- just 2 close friends to be witnesses & their closest freinds & relatives celebrating with them- she didn't have a traditional gown ( but I had never imagined her in that sort of outfit anyhow)- what she did wear was truly a reflection of her personality & she looked wonderful
so tell her friend to stay true to herself & have what she wants- regardless of whether it is just something small & intimate or the whole circus
2006-09-17 00:21:06 · answer #5 · answered by fairypelican 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by the time I remarry, (in 4.5 years) I will be 46. Since I never had the big to-do wedding, we are planning on something that is very special, but not over the top considering that I am a widow and he is divorced. But we do plan on a church wedding and a reception.
It is really all about what your friend wants.
2006-09-16 21:37:47 · answer #6 · answered by Plain_Common_Sense 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Glad after trying to make sense here, I'd say small close friends an relatives and go for a nice honeymoon if posible! Just do not go overboard meaning I hope your both in best of health and everything's ok. No one said if he has children or if she's been accepted but I hope so and everything will be fine
2006-09-16 19:27:06 · answer #7 · answered by David H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my opinion she ccan have any sort of wedding she wants, usually formal as she is a mature lady and respects etiquette and as long as she is happy to have her dream wedding. why shouldn't she have her dream wedding and do what she wants to do for her wedding normally you get married once and it needs to be special and noone is lanning for a second wedding are they, so she should feel happy with whatever she chooses, it's her big day, she should enjoy it! Goodluck to her!
2006-09-16 20:30:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think modest is in good taste. Why spend a lot of money on a wedding when that money could go toward a house payment?
2006-09-16 19:04:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend is getting married. He is 55, and his fiancé is 54. They both have children from previous marriages. Hers are grown. This will be his third marriage. He split from the first because he wanted children and she did not.
My girlfriend’s father is in his 50’s. He is getting re-married to a woman who is also in her 50’s and has never been married. She has no children, and he only has my girlfriend.
2006-09-19 14:53:48 · answer #10 · answered by Marvin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋