Ok... I kinda asked this before, and I decided to try to let go and whatnot but its not working. The background is that me and one of my friends began getting really close, on the verge of going out, but he decided that because of a past relationship he would prefer not to start a relationship. But then he started acting totally different to what he was saying, and its like at one time he's going I don't want to be with you then kissing me the next. Recently, he just cut me out of his life...he would barely say hi if he sees me at uni. Sometimes he'd just past straight and pretend like he didn't see me. I had this long talk with him about wanting our friendship back and he said he was just giving me space and now he knew I didn't need it things will get better. But they haven't...worse actually. Yesterday at Uni...I needed to ask a question that I knew he would have the answer to right away but I didn't want to...so I asked someone else who might have known but they didn't. cont'd
2006-09-16 11:45:14 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When I asked the other person, they told me to ask the guy who I was trying to avoid. I told him I couldn't because we were on really bad terms and I'm pretty sure he doesn't want to speak to me. He actually ignored me for the rest of the day. But apparently the second guy told him because last night, I received a text from him giving the answer to the question I wanted. I don't know if he was being sarcastic or no. But I don't want to ask. I mean I've had the long long talks with him already...I don't want to come across annyoing. BUt i really do love him....soo sooo much and its making moving on virtually impossible. I can deal with kinda him not loving me anymore but not not being my friend. HELP>
2006-09-16 11:47:38 · update #1
y do u think he sent me the text after the other guy told him i needed the answer but didn't want to ask him?
2006-09-16 11:59:39 · update #2
This guy is messing with your head a you are letting him do it. The more you let it happen the more it will stay the same. Turn the tables stop everything you've been doing and wait for him to start to wounder what happened and if he does then you have control. If he doesn't then he never would and it best to know that sooner then latter
2006-09-16 13:31:18 · answer #1 · answered by robert d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's what I think.
Give him a little time.
He's probably trying to figure some stuff out.
I basically mean ignore him for as long as you can.
After you can't take it anymore, approach him in a way that makes you seem like you don't care about him.
Just go up to him and say hi, then walk away.
See what he does.
If he lets you walk away, then I'm sorry but you're gonna have to try and move on.
I wish you the best.
2006-09-16 23:55:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Act like you don't care thats what worked for me. I mean your always trying to make things work but what you need to do is stop and let him. Have you ever heard the saying" you never really know what you had untill its gone" Well he'll never be able to understand what he has untill you gone so just put some space between the two of you. yeah i know its going to be hard and it going to hurt but you have to do something.
2006-09-16 12:04:32 · answer #3 · answered by ~* NISE *~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, when someone does not love you , you must untimately accept it. Life is not fair. Love is not fair. All the amount of wishing and hope in the world will never force someone to care for you. Everyone has free will and sadly, he is chosing to behave this way. Can you imagine how messed up the world would be, if we could MAKE people care for us, when they truly did NOT... ??? And if people could make YOU care for THEM, when you normally would not ? Someday you will receive love from someone that deserves you.
2006-09-16 11:53:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think you need any one to answer this, all you have to do is read, what you wrote, he is not interested any more, you have to move on, and then watch, then just when you think you are over him, he is going to want to come back to you! But do not let him, mess with your mind, find another circle of friends.
2006-09-16 11:51:25 · answer #5 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him space...he asked for it. it cud save ur friendship. Give him some space. when u think he has had enough space then go talk to him. or wait until he comes and talks to u. Get things cleared out. If u love him/like him atleast save ur friendship 1st
2006-09-16 11:48:29 · answer #6 · answered by v.ballerr <3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not become obscessed with someone that do not care or want you. Just moved on to the next level and really find that right person of your dreams. Do not get stuck on--------------------.
2006-09-16 11:50:25 · answer #7 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am in the same place right now. But i guess you have to give him some timet to think....and why does he hate you. did you kill his mom or something? Hate is a strong word, i don't think he (hates!) you!!!!!! I guess he may also be playing hard to get!
2006-09-16 11:50:40 · answer #8 · answered by Bob the Cat.™ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on
2006-09-16 11:46:14 · answer #9 · answered by aries4272 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a young man who trying to find his way. i take it your in college maybe he's try not to let anything or anybody interfere with his education he could be one of those people who can't handle both,ask him
2006-09-16 11:52:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋