If I say good morning or hello to him he blanks me - although we have had conversations in the past (always in the presence of others). However if someone else he knows talks to him while I am there he will talk to me but then turns his back on me and tries to stand between us while the conversation is going on.
What is best way to deal with this?
2006-09-16 11:31:18 · 54 answers · asked by MB42 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
He is definitely not my boyfriend btw
2006-09-16 11:35:15 · update #1
He doesn't like you or does not respect you. He feels superior to you and does not consider you important in any way. Limit your exposure to him. I have experienced the same thing many times. The fewer dealings you have with this type of person, the better you'll feel.
By the way, when I meet someone like that. I refrain from complimenting them. It will only feed their superiority complex. Do not subjugate yourself to him. It feeds his ego. Don't ever ask for his opinion. You're admitting you're clueless, that he's smarter than you, and that you're coming to him to solve your problem. They lap this up like candy. Don't do it. Like I said, do whatever you can to avoid this person.
When you do interact with them, talk in monotone and never show emotion, and stick to the necessities. They won't be able to read you, so they'll have less opportunity to disrespect you.
2006-09-16 11:36:30 · answer #1 · answered by BiBJ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Can you live to a ripe old age without having to speak with that person? If so, then ignore that person totally. Leave it alone. Don't even try to figure it out. You may intimidate that person (or he thinks you're gay... are you?). Leave it alone. Things have a way of working out when you don't push the envelop.
In college, during a therapy class, we were divided into equal number of students. A guy arrived late and the teacher didn't know what to do, so I suggested that she send that person to our group. Because there was only one female we voted her to be the group's spokesperson. We were asked a question and we had to arrive at a conclusion. She spoke on our behalf and added on her own, "But I think the group my wrong and I think the answer is..." and she went ahead and made a fool of herself. Everyone jumped down the throat of that lady and I said, "Hey, everyone, it's not worth the effort getting angry. We're wasting time and she learned a lesson that we do not have to reinforce. Let's get on with the rest of our assignment." After the class, the guy that came in late came over to me and said, "Man, I've seen you in campus and I've always thought you were stuck up because you never speak with anyone... but I just realized that you're OK and that it's your nature to be a longer. I apologize for having thought wrong of you," and I said, "I apologize that I gave you the wrong idea and I thank you for your apology." I gave the impression of being standoffish and also being a bit of a Felix Unger (and an arrogant jock) because I was teaching as an undergraduate and working two jobs off campus plus the fact that I was about 10 years older and i didn't feel I had much in common with the other students; people get the wrong impression of others all the time. Don't worry about it; leave it alone.
2006-09-16 11:53:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is really rude. You have been civil. I personally don't like "good morning" just hello would be better but thats because I don't like mornings. When he turns his back on you he is being ignorant and suggesting he thinks he is superior to you. I would not bother to speak to him ever again, I'm sure other people in the conversations think he is rude as well. If I had been in the conversation I would have spoken past him to you and made sure he did not get away with it just to annoy him.
2006-09-16 15:46:36 · answer #3 · answered by obenypopstar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. Doesn't it drive you crazy! This is the competitive guy. The insecure bazturd who feels they have to step on you to get you out of the picture. For some reason, you are a threat to them. Re-think all the rules. Forget being conciliatory or polite. Think about your situation (pecking order, numbers, how often you are together, when and where, etc). Come up with a strategy to (1)avoid him as much as you can, (2) position yourself so he can not block you, and (3) engage people in a great conversation then make an excuse to leave, taking away his chance to one up you.
2006-09-16 11:36:14 · answer #4 · answered by Isis 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well he doesnt like you - i guess thats obvious. He sounds like he doesnt want to be a bad guy around others by not liking you so he pretends whilst they're around so he can look popular. Yet he doesnt care about what you think so turns his back on you so you go away.
To deal with it... can be tricky. Talk to him in private - make him listen and try to put differences aside. If theres still tension then leave him to it, you will be the better person in the end - have your head held high and dont bother with him. If he interupts and tries to shun you then be assertive and and move back in front of him. he'll soon stop being childish when it doesnt bother you anymore.
2006-09-17 10:01:13 · answer #5 · answered by tspoonteddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know someone like this - basically he is a false, shallow person - if he doesnt want to talk to you when you are aone - next time you are with other peolple - ask him - " why is it you only acknowledge my presence when in the company of others?" that will put him on the spot and you should get an answer - either that or a round of applause from the others - be sure of one thing - he probably does the same to lots of other people too!
2006-09-16 11:36:23 · answer #6 · answered by beee_very_careful 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why lower youself to his level.
Say good morning with a big grin as if you are is best friend BUT when he tries to dominate a conversation excuse yourself to go to the toilet. Don't ask his advise on anything and don't offer to help him out.
Ask other people if he does the same to them. Explain what he does to you as if it genuinely puzzles you.
People will start to watch him to see if you are telling the truth and will soon see what a dick he is. people really dis-like a fraud, they can't be trusted and will soon avoid his company for yours.
2006-09-17 02:58:03 · answer #7 · answered by Rick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is this a work collegue ,Do other say if he's ignorant to them ?
I know I have worked with a guy who ifelt was ignorant to me when i spoke to him he's mumble and like you say if with people would talk ,after saying to some other people about him and they said same thing ,it just seemed he was weird on a one to one, don't know if the guy is like that ,but it does seem very rude ,try a different approach when you say hi say hey how r you doing say more to him see how he is ,ask others what he is like round them ,at the end of the day if he's being rude ignore or just smile and walk past.
2006-09-16 11:44:36 · answer #8 · answered by Nutty Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I assume you have tried the silent treatment to him right?!?!
Some people are just socially retarded, and this guy is the poster child.
You could start saying good morning in funny voices, just to see if you can get him to crack - that might work - or instead of saying good morning - trying farting when you walk by. just a thought.
2006-09-17 11:34:23 · answer #9 · answered by Karla R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's rude and disrespecting you. In turning his back on you, he is excluding you from the conversation. Obviously he thinks he's superior to continually blank you, and (sorry) doesn't like you. Just give him the same treatment and avoid him if you can.
2006-09-16 11:41:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋