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2006-09-16 11:27:58 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
They probably don't want your advice, but you can try. I don't know what it is about, but there are families that disown each other and lose touch over the years. Taking a long view, your father will almost certainly outlive your grandpa, but it will be too late to shake hands and make up.
2006-09-16 11:33:26 · answer #1 · answered by Computer Guy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've tried to get them to communicate, then you've done the very best that you could do. Something tells me that you feel at least somewhat responsible for solving their problems/issues. Nothing could be farther from the truth. People can be very mule-headed when they're at the "ignoring-the-other" stage of the game. Eventually it will come down to one of the men "losing face" and "giving in" to make peace. If they're both stubborn, that might takes years...or sadly it may never happen. I certainly hope that it does, as I'm sure it would make you very happy - and rightfully so. Admit to them both that their long-standing silent treatment is affecting you. Perhaps that will encourage one of them to soften. If it doesn't, then let them hash it out on their own. If they're going to put an argument before their child's/grandchild's feelings then they have some growing up to do - even at their ages! Good luck.
2006-09-16 11:35:58 · answer #2 · answered by Flavorsplash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, Lozer. That's something they have to resolve by themselves. If you try to get in the middle, all that will happen is they will both be annoyed with you.
Question: Is this grandpa your mom's father or your dad's father?
If it's your mom's father, she might be able to talk to him. If it's your dad's father, she's better off staying out of it too.
Sorry, honey, but that's the way families behave sometimes. It isn't nice, it isn't right, but guys can be SOOOO stubborn at times!
Just love them both and continue to be a good daughter and a good granddaughter.
2006-09-16 11:32:00 · answer #3 · answered by old lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should talk to both of them and let them know that you are really concerned that they havent talked in a long time and if they really care about you, they will make up. not to mention that it would be a good thing to do for the both of them. you never really miss someone til they're gone. good luck with this problem
2006-09-16 11:31:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi Lozer, Your dad,and grandpa are 2 adults,They will work this out in time.If you don't want them to get mad at you,don't get in the middle of it.Don't worry,i will resolve this,So stay cool about this,and let them handle this theirselves.
Clowmy
2006-09-16 11:38:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
mitchell has the best answer so far but I would talk to both of them and then stop speaking to either of them until they make up. Kids have the power, but rerely the will to use it. Immaturity like they are demonstrating is justification for you to treat them the same way.
2006-09-16 11:34:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off it's not your job to get them back to speaking terms, but it's obviously got an effect on your life. talk to both of them independently and let them both know it's tearing you apart since you love them both. let them handle their own argument with each other, but by your relating how you feel to both of them, you're letting them know it's not REALLY just between them, that what they do affects everyone in their lives. they're adults. they should act accordingly. if their issue is not something that can be fixed, then you have to accept that. you do not, however, have to STOP seeing your grandfather out of respect for your father, and he should not expect you to stop seeing him either. remind your dad that their argument is between them, not you, and that he shouldn't expect you to stop loving and caring about your grandfather just like that. hope this helped you hon. good luck!
2006-09-16 11:32:45 · answer #7 · answered by vrandolph62 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You talk to them both separately, and tell them enough is enough, and that life is too short, for your sake, they have to make up. ask them if they will go out to dinner with you, or you cook dinner for them, what about a barbecue? and the whole family bring a dish, this is a start!!
2006-09-16 11:33:39 · answer #8 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell them life is too short.
My brother and I argued and didn't speak for months then he died suddenly.
Remind them best to fix up silly differences before they wind up living with regret.
2006-09-16 11:30:14 · answer #9 · answered by yeller 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't get in the middle. Make sure your relationship is great with both...but let them figure it out. Sorry, I know how hurtful this can be...but what ever their differences are, they must figure it out. Maybe you can let both of them know how uncomfortable it is for all the other people who love both of them....
2006-09-16 11:31:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋