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Do you think the no smacking rule has a part
Have parents lost their right to discipline?
Is this why there is more gun/knife crime today with the youth?

2006-09-16 10:55:29 · 27 answers · asked by tkalnins2000 2 in Family & Relationships Family

27 answers

beause society changes and im sure it will change again and soon

2006-09-16 10:56:45 · answer #1 · answered by me! 4 · 0 0

Possibly they do not know what is taken for granted and need to be taught. However, beating the kids dont make them understand, only makes them to follow rules that they dont understand.

On another point, the responsibilities of parents are blinded by increased role of public education. Maybe some parents feel that somethings that they ought to teach are being taught in school, something like sex and drugs. It becomes unclear where the line of concern is for the kids; the parents or school/national law.

Is the direct result of this gun/knife crime? I dnont have studies to show but it may not be the only source of the crimes. Yet, gun and knife related crimes are not the only effects; there are certainly other crimes that may be a result of poor upbringing. Crimes are only the extreme outcomes, social responsibility can faulter from it also.

2006-09-16 18:04:39 · answer #2 · answered by leikevy 5 · 0 0

Well even when that rule came out I got spanked still. But I think in general that parents have let kids run all over them. Giving them whatever they want. All these materialistic things just to get them to be quiet. And nobody every disciplined the kids and said they were wrong. Kids have too much freedom, therefore doing the wrong thing. I have a friend that goes on all these dating sites and only talks to them for a short time and even meets them way too soon. Now my mom would have beat my *** for that, from here all the to the other side of the world. Cuz its so dangerous. Not to mention her mom only said no to her going to another computer friend's wedding and my friend is mad about that too thinking its only because she is back in school. I think its beyond nuts, she shouldn't be thinking about meeting anyone off the net, its beyond dangerous and she can be killed or something. Sorry to ramble but gun and knife crime isn't the only dangers that parents are allowing these days too.

2006-09-16 18:03:26 · answer #3 · answered by Bloody Kisses 4 · 0 0

Kids of today do not have as much respect as I did for my parents and other adults in the 80`s. If you gave a abuse to a stranger back then,they give you a slap round the back of the head ,then when you went home your parent would do the same. Now if a neighbours kids give you abuse,you go to the parents and its the parents who get abusive. Well this is from my experience.I believe there is alot of good kids out there, and parents can disciplin a child with smacking them,but look around,even schools don`t have control anymore.Everybody too scared to do anything incase they get in trouble by the services. Parents who let their kids hang out on street corners and outside the local shops need to be shot. A huge park round the corner,and a local youth centre and they let there kids hang out there.Why? when all the greenbelts have been taken away and replaced with more housing because they are not being used then the same parents of these kids will be the first to complain. Parents need to get more involved with their children,share an activity,like martial arts(great disciplin) or take them out more instead of kicking them out the door and hoping they don`t come back til tea time or later.The council deffinatley need to get involved alot more,and from my experience ,when they start giving away land to local universities,make sure the university gives something back or gets involved with the local community.
I have two teenage boys and neither of mine hang out on street corners,one has his skateboard and visits skateboard parks around town the other has his martial arts.I havn`t given up all hope on the youth of today though,I saw two young teenagers with fishing rods in there hands of to the local fishing lake today. And the other day walking through the local woods,I saw dens that kids had made recently. Just as it should be. But I,m sure the local council have something to say about this,destroying local wildlife.I rather see this than a bunch of kids intimidating the old folk outside my local shop. Council,goverment its all just hypocritical. Kids see through this and use it to there advantage.
Parents need to gain back control and so do teachers at schools

2006-09-17 09:07:37 · answer #4 · answered by karenna m 1 · 0 0

The parents are the root cause behind unruly children.
In this modern day with so much technology, it is easy for parents to let their kids paly playstation, use the intrernet, or watch t.v.. These advances act as baby sitters to our children. The parent is becoming less of a dominate role in their kids life.

Also, the morals and standards have changed drastically since just the 80's. Look at how many children are being raised by a single parent. Usually it is their mother and they are left without a male role model. The male is usually known for instilling discipline. Without a father around, they have less discipline and are more apt to behave wrongly. I could go on forever about this subject, but I think you can see my point of view.

2006-09-16 18:02:15 · answer #5 · answered by Nep-Tunes 6 · 0 0

I am 21 years old. I was raised in a Catholic family. My mother had rules that were not bendable. If I broke a rule, I got spanked, and when I have kids, I will spank them too! Kids these days have a long lack of discipline and personally I think it is ridiculous! The problem is some and I stress some young teen parents, pawn their children off on other people who are afraid to spank them! There ain't NOTHING wrong with a good healthy spanking!!!

2006-09-16 18:18:41 · answer #6 · answered by denise r 2 · 0 0

Parents are not involved in their kids lives anymore. They let daycare raise them after school and at night, they let PlayStation babysit them so they don't have to be bothered. There are no more set down together family meals to have an exchange of ideas and thoughts as a family. McDonald's does that for us now. Another thing, We stopped disciplining kids because of liberal political correctness. We also kicked God out of public schools and let the devil move in. We kicked God out of our courthouses to, and did you notice judges started getting soft on criminals? I mean, I can actually murder someone and get probation! How bizarre is that? So, there are lot's of things wrong with our children and if parent's would stop being selfish and thinking about "ME" all the time and spend time with their kids and teach them some manners, We might have a better chance at the future. But, since liberals won't let you spank your children anymore, I think we are going down the tubes.

2006-09-16 18:02:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Oh please -- it's not religion or dual/single parenthood issue. I'm a single mom and an atheist, but I work hard to instill respect and values in my son (and other parents tell me he's a good kid so it must be working!) And some of the worst kids I know have both parents who are very involved with their churches.

I DO agree it HAS to do with parental involvement. So many more parents are struggling to make ends meet, they have less time or energy for their kids. We parents must pass along values and spend time with our kids... not just pass them off to others or to the video stuff.

Kids also learn much from their friends. I try to ensure my kid hangs more with kids who's parents I feel have values at least close to ours.

I also think over-exposure to media and electronic games affect our kids. Have you seen the bratty kids in the commercials on Saturday AM cartoons? Yikes! We rarely watch regular TV in our home partly because of that. And I watch WITH him. ANd he has LIMITED time playing video games. AND he never goes to an R rated film (like a lot of little tiny kids I've seen) and PG-13 films are usually seen or researched by me first, because there is a lot of variance in those ratings.

Remember all those moralistic stories and fairy tales we read to our kids when they were little to help exemplify good from bad? We were convinced those types of stories had an impact and taught them things. Yet, too many people are equally convinced that the harsh stories of most video games do NOT have an impact. Which is it? Stories affect the kids or don't affect the kids?

I'm convinced that while they don't turn good kids into killers... a constant diet of violence for 2-20 hours a week can lower a kids sensitivity to such things. And over time... generations even.. that changes society. Shorter term, it makes my kid more of a butthead.

To me, bottom line, it is the parent.

My son's friend just got nailed by his mom for swearing. He's TWELVE. ANd I'm not talking about words like damn or hell. When his mom found out (because she read his IM log) she yanked all his internet privileges and read him the riot act! Now THAT is the kind of thing that pisses a kid off -- BUT so what? it let's them know what their parent considers good values. That's a valuable lesson.

VALUES HAVE TO BE TAUGHT, JUST LIKE EVERYTHING ELSE. AND IT'S THE PARENTS JOB TO ENSURE THEIR CHILD IS SURROUNDED BY THOSE LESSONS. (The parents also have to walk the walk, not just talk the talk.)

2006-09-16 23:15:48 · answer #8 · answered by KarenK10 2 · 0 0

Hi well there is loads of explanations, i dont think its to do with parenting or smacking. I think it has to to with social services. Many children dont live with there parents now and are put in hostel not because of there parents abuseing them but them actually abusing there parents. I just discovered this recently, when this 15 year old boy i know, deliberatly asked his farther to hit him so he could report him to the social. His dad tried everything ground him and i know his mum wouldnt of stud for it anything, but if she did try to hit him. He would push her. So that wasnt working. So there last resort was to ring the social and see what they can do, and i didnt believe it what they said. They said they cant even ground him bacause that is a form of abuse. I was gobsmacked. So now he has to let his son rome about the streets god knows what hours getting drunk and causing trouble. This is why i think it has gotten so bad. When i was young if you did something wrong you got punished that was the end of it. But now a days children abuse this and do it deliberatly just to get there parents out of the way so they can do what they want. I agree to smack only if the child has done something wrong. Yes children do get abused by parent or carers and this is a problem that does need sorting out because it should not happen, but for children that abuse there parents are allowed to rome the streets, its beyond me.
Teenagers should know better and have more respect for there elders.

2006-09-16 18:25:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Children aren't as scared of their parents anymore without the hitting, so they don't care as much about punishment. Also, parent's are starting to treat kids more like equals who should get to discuss issues, rather that just do what they are told, so kids loose their respect for adults. I think this does have something to do with the added amount of crime, yet again, they are not use to hard-core punishment... I am only 17, but I understand why we are like we are.

2006-09-16 18:01:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Children need discipline and actually like it as it makes them feel safe. They certainly have less respect which is an indication that they don't have any self respect. It's all the fault of the " do gooders" in society. If people, whoever they are do wrong then they should be punished, it's the only way we learn.

2006-09-20 02:09:09 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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