My girlfriend and I broke up July 4, 2006, and about a month after that, i decided, i didn't love her anymore and i was over her, but for about two weeks, i couldn't stop thinking about her.I literally felt sick to my stomach i missed her so much.I sat down and talked to her about it, but she told me she wasn't ready to date right now, then she had a new boyfriend the next day.She broke up with him two days later, and i talked to her about it again, and she told me she didn't want to drag me into everything she has going on in her life right now. What exactly does she mean and what should I do?
2006-09-16 10:44:37 · 21 answers · asked by Dylan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This could mean that she has gotten over you and wants someone else. Or she could be "trying out" guys to find out if theres any other guy that she might like. Not trying to sound...heartless or anything but i suggest that you forget about her. If you don't run with life, then it will run without you. And once it's gone, it ain't comin' back.
2006-09-16 10:50:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should back off for a while. She's obviously going through some things that she doesn't feel comfortable talking to you about. So don't put more pressure on her, just give her some space for now. Breakups are always difficult in the beginning. But believe me when I tell you, things will get better. If it's meant to be, the two of you will get back together. But it's not going to happen if you keep hounding her. So give her some time. At the same time, I'm not sure if she wants to be with you. Because why would she tell you she's not ready to date, and then find a new b/f the next day. I think she was using "I'm not ready to date" as an excuse or cope out. She's not sure how to tell you or doesn't want to hurt your feelings, so she just said "i'm not ready to date". So again, maybe she doesn't want to be with you and doesn't know how to tell you, or maybe she's going through some things that she doesn't feel comfortable talking to you about. Either way, I think you should give her some space for now until she figures out what she really wants.
2006-09-16 17:53:11 · answer #2 · answered by melcar12345 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like she's having as much trouble with the breakup as you are. Have you ever heard of a rebound guy? That's what she's having. She's probably got just as much emotional stuff going on as you do, and it's painful to constantly discuss something that hurts as much as breakups, especially to the person they just seperated from. give her a few weeks, and then approach her again. if she's still reluctant to talk, just accept it for what it is and end the relationship before any more damage is done.
2006-09-16 17:49:35 · answer #3 · answered by nkygirl04 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I must say you should move on, altho that may take a while and is easier said than done. But now, instead of wallowing in your misery go out and so something...rearrange furniture, do community service, get you a better girl! LoL. Just try to keep your mind off of her in any way possible.
2006-09-16 17:50:32 · answer #4 · answered by ~*alex*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically she doens't want to hurt your feelings by coming aout and saying it straight out that she doesn't want you back! the truth hurts but in time you will get over her. Maybe if you find a friend that's a girl, she will get a little jealous of you getting closer with another friend! Try it out, since your not begging her back, she might end up missing you!
2006-09-16 17:49:21 · answer #5 · answered by denise r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just move on reeli, there are other fish in the sea and she probably to nice of a person to tell you lok were over we can be friends but thats it...cuz if she wanted to get back with u she wouldve done somehting about it alreedi
2006-09-16 17:48:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was a nice way of telling you that she wants to try to live by her self. She might want your support later but right now she wants to be free to live her life as she sees fit. Try to get another girlfriend or just lay lo for a bit and she might want you back later
2006-09-16 17:49:03 · answer #7 · answered by Nicky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek professional help. You sound about two "talks" away from stalking her.
If you don't seek help, remember that the restraining order is nature's way of saying the relationship is OVER.
2006-09-16 17:49:12 · answer #8 · answered by Sugarface 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say i want to be part of your life and iwant to help you through whats happening right now. shes looking for some supprot not somthing sexual so give her love as a friend and be truthful that you want to get back together but your waiting for her. then wait.
2006-09-16 17:49:43 · answer #9 · answered by a perfectly contradictory cat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She likes you man but she cant tell you coz if you two start dating again and if youll break up then she will get hurt again. If you ask me then kiss her without warning and see if she throws you away or if she kisses you back go for it man.
2006-09-16 17:48:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋