i have break downs at anytime i want to talk to her...i was really close to her...i lived with her for 5 years of my life she had lung cancer and passed away really quickly in her sleep im 14 years old the youngest in my family and i didnt have as much time with her as everyone else did i want her back just so i can see her hear her and be with her again is it weird to still be greiving at this time???
2006-09-16 10:30:06 · 15 answers · asked by Shorty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sweetie, I'm sorry for your loss. It's not weird at all to be grieving now.. this just happened a couple weeks ago and it's gonna take time to get used to her not being there anymore. The only thing that is gonna help is time. Just try to remember all the good times you had with her and not focus so much on the fact that she's not there anymore. But, like I said, that's all just gonna come with time. It will get easier. You're always going to miss her but it won't hurt anywhere near as bad as it does now.. that fades..
2006-09-16 10:35:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It would ber more weird if someone you loved so much died and you were not grieving in so short a time.
My Dad died when I was barely 18, and as the youngest child I was still in high school and the only child at home. I too felt it was unfair to me because my brothers got to have him until they were grown and married and had kids, and he would not even be at my high school graduation, my wedding, or get to know my future children.
Grieving is a process. You will find that you have times of overwhelming sadness, times of guilt(why didn't I say or do something)., times of anger (How could God take MY Grandma) and times of confusion because you can't figure just what you are feeling. There is no right or wrong way to grieve. I know it is hard to go to your family because they are grieving to and you may be afraid it will be worse for them, but please speak to your school counsellor. Grieving is hard, it takes time. You never want to "get over it" because you do not want to lose the memories of someone who enriched your life so much, but as a person who has had many close family members die, I can promise that you will learn to live without her there, and in time these feelings of grief will not be the only feelings you can feel. You will laugh again! Just remember that death is a natural extension of life, and your Grandma's death was not a personal insult from God directed at you.
2006-09-16 13:05:17 · answer #2 · answered by mamasheilag 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear of your loss.
It is very normal to have breakdown all the time when your are grieving, it will take time for things to get a little easier. If you want to talk to her then do so, as she is right there with you (not in person but in spirit) and she knows how you are feeling.
The best thing for you to remember is that she is no longer in any pain. Also remember all the good times that you had together and know that one day you will be reunited again. You may be the youngest in your family but your pain and suffering is the same as the oldest person in the family.
Hang in there, and things will become easier with time.
You are a very brave young lady, to admit your feelings so openly on this site.
My thoughts are with you at this time, and if you would like someone to talk to you get me on msn messenger: Kybo2261@hotmail.com anytime.
2006-09-16 11:12:48 · answer #3 · answered by Kym 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is so very hard to lose someone you love so dearly. My heart goes out to you. Know that she is with you in spirit (honestly). And think about doing something to honor her memory. Why not make a scrapbook about her life? Start as far back as available photos will take you. Interview family members and try to find out who she really was. I bet you'll find out she had other roles besides just being a Grandmother! What was she like when she was your age (at 14)? Such a scrapbook would be something you could pass on to your own children someday.
It's ok to be sad. But do remember that your grandmother wants you to be happy and healthy. Make her proud and do good things throughout your life in honor of her. You sound like a great kid! Hang in there. Time will heal but your heart will always remember...
2006-09-16 10:37:19 · answer #4 · answered by mJc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost both my parents, it's been several years and I still have days when I miss them so much that my emotions catch up with me and I break down, I was very close to my Mom and not a day goes by that I don't think of her, I still miss her a lot and wish she could have been here to see my daughter graduate this year. Give it time and you can still talk to her, I bet she is looking down on you right now and smiling.
2006-09-16 11:08:44 · answer #5 · answered by 1fourthemoney 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not weird at all that you still feel this way. I lost my grandpa 2 years ago to lung cancer and I was extremely close to him also. I think about him everyday and miss him and wish I could talk and see him again too. For me it helps just to talk to him and know that hes listening to me and watching over me. Im sure shes doing the same for you!
2006-09-16 10:40:45 · answer #6 · answered by joesbabygirl406 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is going to take you some time to get over her death. But the thing you need to draw on is she left you with good memories, and a lot of the times, you are going to start to do something, and you are going to say, no grandma, would not approve of that. (smile) The thing to give you comfort is to know that she is in no more pain, no sickness, or no more sorrow. That God has a job for her to do. She is at peace, now you get yourself together, and get good grades, so you can make her proud.
2006-09-16 10:40:44 · answer #7 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 01:49:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey i hate to be the one to tell you this but this healing takes time and it will not be overnight. But I promise it will get better. Just try to keep busy. Go to a local nursing Home and adopt a grandmother. Let the staff tell you what it is about.
2006-09-16 11:13:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is always hard to loose someone, people like your grandmother have a very important role in our lives for the best.
I know you are in pain, but if loved your grandmother as much as you say then she will never leave you. She lives in you, in your memories, in your love, in the things she taught you.
2006-09-16 11:24:51 · answer #10 · answered by Faust 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋