How do i tell my kids i have breast cancer?

Answer 1

Hi!

I am so sorry for you. I wish you the best and will pray for you and a speedy recovery!

I do not know how old your kids are. That would make a difference. IF they are young just sit with them and tell them. Explain as much as you can. If they are older it is easier to talk about, but they need to know.

If you need to talk e-mail me! I am going for a breast surgery soon and have a tumor

Answer 2

Straight flat out. Tell them that mommy had a lump in her breast.It was removed and Doctor found out it was cancer. Tell them that you will have to go for treatments that might make you a little sick but that you will not die. The Canadian Cancer Society has some really good online publications. Here's the link;


www.cancer.ca
By the way I am a six year survivor of breast cancer so feel free to email me.

Answer 3

It depends on how old they are. Just be honest with them. Tell them Mommy is sick but will get better. You may want to enroll yourself in a local support group. I go to one and the woman there are so helpful. I have made a large number of friends through the hospital support group. We are all there for each other and we help newly diagnosed woman with breast cancer, like yourself, that have questions. Be honest with your kids. All kids handle it differently.

Answer 4

My boys were old enough to understand when I was diagnosed 2 years ago, both in their teens. However, I am from a very large family with lots of nieces and nephews. How I explained to them was that I had this lump in me that needed to be taken out and that I had to take medicine afterwards that would make me feel sick and would make my hair come out. I even showed them my bald head and explained that when I was done taking the medicine my hair would come back. I tried to be very matter of fact about it. I think my boys handled it very well. My younger son did have a tough year academically (Sophomore in high school) but he said it was because he just didn't want to be in school. He also said he knew I would be ok because I have been proactive in breast cancer awareness for several years because my sister is also a survivor.

Good luck to you in this new phase of your life and if you want someone to talk to who has been through it too, please e-mail me.

Answer 5

What you tell them depends on their ages. Make sure you tell them soon though. Your kids no matter how young probably already know that something is wrong. Telling them what it is and that mommy can beat this will probably make them feel better. I was 31 when I was diagnosed and my kids were 5 and 2. They only needed to know that mommy was sick and would need to be in the hospital for a while (modified radical mastectomy) and then would still be sick occasionally (6 chemo treatments + 36 radiation treatments).

Answer 6

Don't do it on your own as u will be too emotional to do that, get someone to sit with you, either a social worker or ur priest/chaplain, or another adult that they trust. U did not mention the ages of ur children, I'm assuming they are young. Make sure u will arrange any form of counseling for them or join a support group, take them with you, so they will have better understanding of what u are going through. Each children have different ways of dealing with crisis like these and u should not deal with it by yourself.

Answer 7

im sorry to hear that i would sit down with your kids and talk to them and tell them in the best sensitive possible way and to explain to them about breast cancer and what treatments are available and that not everyone who has cancer dies from it if they think that

Answer 8

"Kids! I have breast cancer."

Tell them this is just part of life and now we are in that arena. Then show them the literature you have, what you plan to do, and how they can help.

If you keep them busy and you keep yourself busy you all can get through this.

I hope all works out well for you.
Jon

Answer 9

I'm so sorry to hear your news. I will keep you in my prayers. I've had problems with cystic breasts. I told my kids about it - I just explained exacts with them. They asked questions and I answered them as I could. Without knowing your childrens ages, its kind of hard to really say. Just tell them what you can and answer their questions. Good luck and God Bless.

Answer 10

Hi


First of all i am so sorry, You are in my thoughts and prayers!!! I would tell my husband first, and then after dinner set your kids down and tell them. Try not to cry, i know that is hard, but it will not make the kids as upset. Remember PRAY, God is with you hun.

God Bless!!!
Amber