Im nearly 22, i have a career, been through university, have a loving fiancee and live in a lovely flat independently with him. But am i too young to have a baby even though we both want one?
2006-09-16 09:13:27 · 60 answers · asked by everndens 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your twenties is probably the best time for a woman to have a baby, at least from a biological point of view.
22 is certainly not to young to have a child. However the fact that you have to ask this question makes me think that despite your stated desire for a child you have doubts.
It may be something as simple as wanting to be married first or there may be other issues. Only you can work them out.
2006-09-16 09:23:12 · answer #1 · answered by John H 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
While I don't think it's too young, I don't think it's quite old enough, you've accomplished quite a bit at your age for getting a degree from college, and having a career, and aparently a great guy who you like being around.
I would say enjoy another year or so together (especialy once you get married), do a little traveling if you haven't yet and see a couple of places.
because it's harder to do things once you have a child on the way, or a newborn that requires a lot of care within the first 6 to 9 months after he or she is born, which will require you to make sure you have enough sick leave or maternity leave to recuperate and bring your child home to get used to the fact that now you have a new addition to your family.
since you both want one right now, and that's a good thing because you both seem like you're ready to take that next step in being a family, but you have to be careful to make sure that things are planned out like daycare while you or both of you are at work.
I would plan on having a baby within the next 2 years, you're still young enough, but once you're married to your fiancee and spent time together, having the baby then might bring you closer than ever.
that's just my opinion though, good luck and I hope you two have a healthy baby
2006-09-16 09:35:40 · answer #2 · answered by quiksilver8676 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In todays world you would appear to young due to the way society is today however the answer to your question is no I do not think it is to young I had my first at 22 and at the time was classed as OLD! If it is what you both wants and you have talked it all through together and you are sure then your baby will be longed for and well looked after by two parents that actually took the time to think and care first that is so rare today.
Good luck you will make a lovely mom.
2006-09-17 01:03:32 · answer #3 · answered by momof3 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi no girls much younger than you have had babies. I would feel like this also, as maybe someone has always mentiond babys are not a good thing around you and you have got a certain idea in you head. This is what i feel like now, probably all mylife as well until i actually have a child. I do want a baby and i wouldnt care if it happend tomorrow for me. As i would be happy. So i think you should be you are an adult and are very much old enought to have a child. I think it is best to have a young so you can watch it grow and still have time to have more children and also watch them grow. Dont listen to what other people say as most people dont even have children now but get started and i best wishes for the future.
2006-09-16 11:43:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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Is having a baby at 22 too young?
Im nearly 22, i have a career, been through university, have a loving fiancee and live in a lovely flat independently with him. But am i too young to have a baby even though we both want one?
2015-08-05 22:32:59 · answer #5 · answered by Kirsteni 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a question you have to answer for yourself. Only you know if your able to handle a baby and take the responsibility of a child at this point in your life. Nobody can tell you, not your fiancee or anybody. You must make that decision, and it should be according to how feel about this matter. Since your asking let's me know that you yourself must think your too young to have a baby. If that is how you feel then exercise that point to you fiancee and let him know your concerns.
2006-09-16 09:18:21 · answer #6 · answered by StormyRain 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the end of the day if both of you feel you are ready for parenthood and the restrictions it imposes on your freedom then its not for anyone else to comment. Alot of women these days are leaving it until their 30's-40's to have there first child. I did read on the BBC website that some people in the medical world are a bit worried about this trend! Therefore I can only assume that your 20's are probably the best time to produce your offspring.
2006-09-17 02:15:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having your baby now is a good time because you can grow up with them,what i mean is you will still like the things that your child would like though the years because you are young and understand your child now if you waited until late 30's things would be more different between you and your child.
2006-09-16 09:20:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Shoot, I begged my husband to let me have a kid that young, but he, at 28, was "too immature" -- his words-- to have kids.
My dad had his first of five kids at 18 and my mom was 23. By the time my dad was 45 and my mom was 50, all five of the kids were out of the house. I think that's the best way to do it. Some people say to wait until you're more financially secure, but who knows when or if that will ever happen, and I don't care how old you are or how much money you have, kids are never "convenient," so just go ahead and have them when it feels right to you :-)
2006-09-16 09:20:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its not about age ! if you both want a baby then that's one thing but babies grow, become more demanding, cost one heck of a lot of money etc etc...
You must be ready willing and able to give up an awfull lot of your lives and freedom's but its well worth it ! I have three daughters ages 16, 14 and 12 and it meant my wife having to give up her career as a nurse to look after them at home, we both had to give up various things because our income went down but we do not regret it one bit ! You adapt your lives to fit the new "family" version of what you had before so holidays abroad may be changed to holidays in the UK for a while but so what, just enjoy being a family - and it is true what people say "kids aren't kids for long-they grow up very fast" .
Having kids is a life changing and life enhancing event - just be sure your ready for it cause you can't give 'em back !
Good luck !
2006-09-16 10:38:16 · answer #10 · answered by The all seeing all knowing one 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋