i think he thinks because he is older he can control me. sometimes he even how i can eat and always telling to try things even when i tell him i do not like, its like because he is older he knows better. we can not even go shopping together because he tells me what would look good on me what will not even though i like something. i might be moving in with him soon and it scares me a little about the things that he is going to be telling to do. i argue a lot to what he says sometimes so last week i did and we argued the whole time, i don't want that. what should i do.
2006-09-16 09:12:20 · 12 answers · asked by RESPECT25 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Find someone who you are compatible with and who can appreciate you for who you are. Otherwise you're heading for trouble.
2006-09-16 09:16:04 · answer #1 · answered by Coleen W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you already know what to do.
There's nothing wrong with dating an older man (I'm not sure I would go as far as 20 years but each to his own) but when the relationship comes to the point that your describing the next step should not be moving in, it should be saying good bye.
There is a world full of men out there, you don't need this one .
Good Luck.
2006-09-16 16:25:42 · answer #2 · answered by MissHelle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get out of that relationship right now unless you want to be his little Barbie doll. Age has nothing to do with it. My husband was (now deceased) 19 years older than me and was a wonderful man. However, my ex-husband, the same age as me, was a control freak. He picked out my clothes, told me how to wear my hair, etc. Never again will I let a man have control over me. Get out while you still have some self-respect.
2006-09-16 16:17:24 · answer #3 · answered by Emm 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's patronizing; he's treating you like his daughter. Unless you want to live with someone who treats you more like an inferior child than an equal, you should re-evalute the relationship. You might find that you would be happier with less of an age gap.
2006-09-16 16:15:34 · answer #4 · answered by a_soft_world 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is treating you like a child because he is soooo much older than you - what happened to the guys your age? you will either have to put your foot down and demand respect or move on.
2006-09-16 16:17:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
eeewwwww......you were a fetus when he was 20!!!??
that is disgusting.
he's dating a fetus.
do u like the way he's acting? if not, don't marry him. if you do marry him anyway (tie your tubes) and then don't complain if he's still gonna act like that (which he will), cause once u marry someone you know u don't like from the begining, you lost your right to complain.
so u have a choice to make
and either one will have consequences
but u still have to make your choice
2006-09-16 16:16:01 · answer #6 · answered by chapped lips 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BRAKE UP! find someone else who doesn't and is closer to your age that way you expierence things at the same time
2006-09-16 16:15:09 · answer #7 · answered by matt 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you got to explain it to him, and give him time to get used to that.
it's not because of the age difference that he has desire to control you, it's because he has not learned to respect a woman.
he got to learn you have feelings in your head, not just between your legs.
2006-09-16 16:18:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl, wake up and dump the dude.
2006-09-16 16:15:38 · answer #9 · answered by Jennifer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you are describing your father.
Sorry, someone had to say it.
2006-09-16 16:16:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋