2006-09-16 08:34:29 · 29 answers · asked by Mshairstylist2006 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
When I asked the question I didn't ask for comments on what type of mother I was it's obvious to discipline hime in other words to all the negative comments where does this activity come from? If the queation is not answered serioulsy in an adult manner then don't answer the question.
2006-09-16 08:40:57 · update #1
Some of these answers..... Unbelievable!!!!
DISTRACTION. It won't happen over night but it will happen. Suggest a game like catch, rolling the ball, chasing or ask him to fetch you a book. Just DISTRACTION. It works with a lot of things.
The people out there just want to "Make a mountain out of a mole hill".
2006-09-19 00:11:43 · answer #1 · answered by CityGirl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, let me say.... that this is absolutely NO reflection on your parenting skills whatsoever!
I would say it is either one of two things - At 4 years of age children begin to show awareness of the differences between boys and girls. Its a developmental fact... and not unusual! It is important to speak with your child about it, and see if he has any questions. Try to answer as honestly, but as simply as you can. You then need to talk about "good touching" and "bad touching", and how other people/children don't like it. See if you can find some children's books that you can read with your son about the subject.
The second possible reason could be that perhaps someone has touched him inappropriately and he is acting out from this. But there would be other signs if this was the case. Has your son become moody or withdrawn at all? Does he role play inappropriate acts with other children or dolls... beyond just touching?
I am inclined to think it more likely to be the first - a developmental stage your son is going through, but is a little hard to say without more info.
2006-09-16 10:45:20 · answer #2 · answered by spinksy2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is most likely curious about what other children have. Children experience things by using all 6 senses. What he is doing is wrong, but he doesn't know this. All you need to do is let him know not to touch other people in those areas. Dont shame him, just let him know that if he has questions about parts of the body he should ask you, but do not touch. It may take a few times telling him this, but he will soon get it.
This has nothing to do with how you mother him, it just has to do with him exploring. Its how he learns. If you feel he has learned this by unnatural means, then ask him why he does it, and who taught him. That is if you feel he may have been taught. Good luck!! :)
2006-09-16 10:46:44 · answer #3 · answered by butterfly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey he's only 4!! That does not make him, a "Pervert!!" He's not even old enough to know he's doing a "Bad-thing" or not!! I would just sit him down, and calmly tell him that touching anyone in these parts, is not good, that he should touch them on their arm , or on their shoulder.. instead.. just explain to him, that those are places, even Mommy doesn't touch anyone.. that it might make them "cry", but "God forbid" dont yell at him, when he does this, or shame him, with an angry voice, for doing it.. Kids that young are just curious! Their curious, about everything!! And if he's seen someone else do this, or an older child possibly did this to him, this may be where he got it from.. Kids learn things, from other kids, thats for sure!! I wouldn't sweat the small stuff.. just train him how to change from this behaviour, to doing better gestures, instead... Good-Luck, to you!!
2006-09-16 08:42:22 · answer #4 · answered by Hmg♥Brd 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I work at a daycare and have seen this behavior more then once. Just because he is curious doesn't mean he has been abused or molested or anything. Children can have their first orgasm at six months, it's just a natural thing. Explain to your son calmly that even though this behavior isn't wrong, it's meant for adults. When he touches people in those places hurts their feelings. Whatever you do, do not shame him, tell him it's bad, or anything like that because that will stick with him, even when he is older and you don't want him afraid to come to you about sexual stuff espically in his teens.
2006-09-19 18:17:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is learning about his own body right now and is checking and experimenting with others wondering if they are all the same. Talk to him and let him know that you understand that he learning new things about himself but it isn't proper for him to touch other people in that manner and let him know that if he has any questions about what is happening to just ask you and you will answer him as honestly and truthfully as you can. My 4 year old daughter asked me where babies come from the other day and I told her the truth in a way that she would understand, no I didn't give her details but she understands now.
2006-09-19 06:14:33 · answer #6 · answered by Diana H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing I can think of for you to do, is teach him about "special places." Teach him that nobody is allowed to touch him there, because those places are for him only. Teach him that other boys and girls have special places too, and he needs to not touch theirs. I don't question your parenting skills at all. Kids do things like that, they are exploring. You just have to be honest, and informative. Don't answer questions he doesn't ask! Depending on his age, he's probably not ready for an entire "sex" talk, and based on the fact you asked in "toddler & Preschooler" I'm guessing he's not very old.
Good luck! :)
2006-09-16 14:17:19 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. Lucky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a mother too, but my child is a girl. But children go threw those stages when they start to get older and more aware of all the differences in the male female body parts. He is not being dirty just curious, but you should let him know that touching those spots are not allowed,that they are the private spots that only him,mommy and daddy,and the doctor are allowed to touch when bathing,checking and things like that. Kids are to young to understand exactly what it is that they are doing or how they are making other kids feel when they do that. Let him know that he is not in trouble that you are just letting him know things in life. And everyday maybe let him know more about things in life to help him understand.
2006-09-16 09:04:07 · answer #8 · answered by tanya d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is normal,he is learning about the sex organ(male and female).you just have to teach him that it is wrong.when you see him doing it tell him in a stern voice that what he is doing is wrong.if that don't work then talk to his doctor,they may have some ideas.i have a 3 year old son and he is starting to touch hisself,and he touched his cousin(9mons old).we told him she was different because god made her a girl,and that he could not touch other people and other people could not touch him.we have to remind him sometimes but his doctor said he will learn if we keep working with him.good luck!
2006-09-18 06:54:44 · answer #9 · answered by treesgrowinheaven 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is still young and exploring.. most kids do this..
ever played doctor??
some do..
you really just need to explain it to him that it is not nice to touch people there.. but explain it to him in words he can understand
it may take a few times.. and also let him know there are consequences to that and if he keeps doing it, he will be sent to his room .. and or wont be allowed to play with children for the day .. you can't make things to extreme b/c he is still young, but all things have consequences and this is one
2006-09-16 08:44:16 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ Lisa♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋