2006-09-16 08:27:26 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diet & Fitness
Let me add to this. This student is an athlete of mine that I know has loss nearly 25 lbs. in 5 months. I had quit worrying about it until one of their other coach's asked me about it. The two of us decided that we needed a solid approach to help this student.
2006-09-16 17:10:56 · update #1
First, never bring up their weight as an issue. This is a point you are not going to be able to win (in their mind.)
You could start out by saying something like, I notice you seem rather tired or stressed out, is there anything i can do to help you with that? Make it really nonchalant...the more angry or sad they get, the more they will retreat into their disorder for comfort.
If they completely close down and deny any problem, continue to be supportive and non confrontational, but leave the avenue for conversation open. Later, you can "confess" coping mechanisms of your own, like "at work, harry makes me so mad, I bite my fingernails! I don;t know why, it's not helping, it's only hurting me, it's like I need to do it to make myself less mad." the person will be listening to things like that, loud and clear, and maybe will feel more open to talking about their own difficulties.
It is very hard. if the person is obviously in medical danger, you need medical help. You need to get serious, fast.
Eating disorders have NOTHING to do with losing weight, they are a coping mechanism to stress.
2006-09-16 08:43:30 · answer #1 · answered by turtle girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends if you mean it as you have an ED and want to confide in someone or if you know a friend's having an ED and you want to bring that up !
For the first option just choose what moment you find best and with people you trust and know they can understand.
If it's to bring that up to someone having the ED just be calm and comprehensive. The person knows she's having an ED even if most of the time she'll deny it even to herself, it depends on the person, she'll feel uncomfy when you bring that up.
But if you think that person's life in danger you will show her that you care for her and will try to help her or get her the help she needs!
Be a friend, don't judge, listen and let her cry on your shoulder all she wants !
Good luck !
2006-09-16 15:37:26 · answer #2 · answered by BleedingAngelSecretWounds 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really shouldn't. They know they have an eating disorder. It's like alchoholism. If you feel the need for an intervention ok, but just say it looks like you have a problem and need help.
2006-09-16 15:30:39 · answer #3 · answered by Ricky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from shows i seen there a reason why that started,the mind can make anthing real,if you belive it true,be her best friend ,with out digging, show her love,she might share her problem,that where you should be anyway.
2006-09-16 15:40:15 · answer #4 · answered by aqua 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take them out for lunch!
2006-09-16 15:29:23 · answer #5 · answered by jnmcmlln 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
over a big bowl of ice cream.
2006-09-16 15:28:38 · answer #6 · answered by USMCstingray 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋