Am i the only person i this world that thinks parental control has got way out if hand. first tv stations now computers, & cell phones? what happened to trusting you kids? seriously. if my parents had done that i would have been pissed and/or gone crazy.kids should have freedom and you should trust them. Whats with all this stuff?
2006-09-16 08:22:59 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Kids will always find a way around "parental controls" if they want to.
My mother opened all of my mail and she checked my room every week even though I'd never done anything against the rules. She even read my poems and diary. It made me angry and rebellious and I decided I wouldn't do that to my kids.
In our house, my boys have our trust and they've never abused it. My oldest is 19 and living away from home now and my youngest is 14 and they're both amazing kids. They deserve our trust and we deserve to have kids who are trustworthy.
We do have rules... the youngest has to let me know where he is and who he's with. Our computer is in the living room with the monitor pointing into the room but everyone (even me) has the same lack of privacy on it.
I think that over monitoring for no reason can make people sneaky and angry. My rule is, if I wouldn't like someone to do it to me, I don't do it to them and that includes my kids.
2006-09-16 09:01:49 · answer #1 · answered by Canadian_mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Lil Miss,
Kids have never had the freedom you describe. It is only now, in an age where kids have more access to things to which no sane parents wishes their children to be exposed that such controls are necessary.
And obviously, some kids need more control than others. Some kid's dispositions will naturally keep them from evil, others may have a natural curiousity or desire or earlier physical maturity which may require more control.
And of course, as in all times, parents themselves are a factor. Some just don't care that their children smoke, sleep around, get pregnant, totally fail morally or spiritually, or what have you...
-j.
2006-09-16 15:34:21 · answer #2 · answered by classical123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust in your child has to be based on the certainty that he/she will not use granted freedoms for things a parent would disapprove of if they found out. If a parent can't be certain of this, then the SAFEST choice for the child is censorship/control.
How many kids have been led into harm with with ideas like "What's the harm in that?" or "Who's gotta know?"
2006-09-16 15:38:24 · answer #3 · answered by zavarob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too much freedom is not good , Kids theses days have gone crazy, they abuse their freedom, don't have any respect anymore. A child should have to earn the right to be trusted . if you mess up then take your medicine.
2006-09-16 15:33:52 · answer #4 · answered by *Glowing* *Wings* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not so much the kids that aren't trusted its the sick perverts out there that we need to prevent and protect our kids from
2006-09-17 08:20:13 · answer #5 · answered by silverthorn73 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then they end up being a parent of a pregnant teen or worse bury their kid in ten years from Aids, or pick them up at the morgue from drinking and driving, shall i go on?
2006-09-16 15:27:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋