After many years of having an emotionally dead relationship, I finally decided to end it. I thought it wouldn't affect me.
Believe me, I have no feeling left for my ex. I do not miss him and am very glad to be out of the relationship, but I have lost 33 pounds and am down to 116 lbs, which isn't underweight but I lost this weight within 3 months....and I still have no appetite. I always have to force myself to eat something and food makes me nauseous.....anyone ever had this happen to them? If so what did you do? When will I go back to wanting to eat normally?
2006-09-16 08:14:26 · 4 answers · asked by j t 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The same exact thing happened to me. My boyfriend broke up with me and I was devastated. I couldn't eat or sleep. I lost 15 pounds. We got back together, and that was when I started to gradually eat normally again. Since that probably isn't an option for you, I would recommend doing something to get your mind off of things. When we were still broken up, I tried so hard to eat. The only time I could was when I was with friends, just hanging out and having fun. It got my mind off of everything. Try it. It might work. Trust me. This isn't healthy. You need to start eating again. You don't want to wind up in a hospital. You may not miss him, but sub-consciously, you do. So, try to get your mind off of him. Maybe find someone else. Good luck!
2006-09-16 08:23:38 · answer #1 · answered by Damon ♥ Elena 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably miss the companionship. That's why people stay in dead relationships - they think having anyone is better than having no one. That's such BS - Now you're free to meet, talk to, make out with and sleep with whomever you want. Nothing is holding you back.
If I had to guess, it's the depression of being alone that has you down. The best thing to do is grab some girlfriends and go out. Or join some clubs or do SOMETHING to go out and meet people. When you meet guys then YOU decide what you want to do when and with whom, and no one else has control over you. It's very empowering and that will get you completely out of the dumps. You'll be eating in no time (if nothing else to get your energy back).
Good luck.
2006-09-16 15:20:38 · answer #2 · answered by Tricia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be concerned, it's normal to lose a little after the end of any relationship, but this is too much. Is it possible to check with a doctor and get a checkup & tell him what you've gone thru? It could be physical & totally unrelated, but may be depression, that you don't realize. You may need some kind of medication, to elevate your mood. It doesn't hurt to check.
2006-09-16 15:24:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow so familiar with that one. It takes time...your body needs food. I have gone through that and it's not easy. you have to force yourself to eat. What I found is buying fruit is an easy fix for awhile. however you still need the other substances. Meat and Veggies and such. What is happening is you are in depression because of what you have gone through. It's been nearly 6 yrs for me and I still have problems with that at times. You was codepnedent and now are on your own. You just like me don't have feelings for the x...or so we think....just force feed yourself, find things to do and go out and be with people..they will eat and then so will you.
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2006-09-16 15:21:57 · answer #4 · answered by Kenneth S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋